Personal Empowerment

Things will not always go the way you want them to. That is a fact of life, as frustrating as it is, and the only thing we can control is how we react to it. When shit happens, we can choose how we let it affect us. Our immediate reaction to when things go wrong […]

Does it matter that some people see the glass as half empty and others view it as half full? YES!  Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph. D. is a social psychologist, speaker, best selling author of Succeed, and the co-author of Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence. Heidi joined me in […]

In our everyday lives, it can feel like we aren’t contributing anything and that we are not valuable members of the world because we haven’t stopped specific injustices or accomplished significant goals. It can feel like we are taking on all the problems of the world but it’s discouraging when it seems like nothing changes. […]

Do you tend to worry about how smart you are? Or are you able to enjoy learning without it being an outcome-driven activity? Those are examples of different mindsets about intelligence and learning. One of those mindsets makes us get in our own way and the other can help us grow. Carol Dweck is a […]

When we hear about “authenticity,” it sounds like a buzzword that’s meant to tell us that we need to act a certain way. It has become one of those things that we just ignore whenever we hear it. So when I say to be authentic, I want you to know that changing yourself to be […]

Michael Riera, PhD is the author of Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. In this episode, which originally aired 2014, we talk about how to connect with and parent your teen in a way that creates and maintains strong family connections. Teenagers are amazing observers. They easily pick up on things like instances when our […]

We run into obstacles every day that can irritate us and test our patience… as long as we see them as problems, that is. When we go into these situations without being intentional, they can end up following us and weighing us down unnecessarily. Sometimes, we can’t change the obstacles we face, but we can […]

Anger. You probably sometimes find yourself getting angry about work, relationships, or circumstances. It’s a powerful emotion, but is your anger effective at creating lasting change? Do you work hard trying to diminish your anger?  Harriet Lerner is a practicing clinical psychologist and is best known for her work on the psychology of women, marriage, and family relationships. […]

Mentally preparing how you think your friends and loved ones should act is a natural thing, but when we don’t tell people what we want, we can end up frustrated and disappointed. We are holding others to expectations that they cannot possibly meet – writing scripts for the players in our life. These scripts we […]

Former think-tank exec, business strategist, publicist, and one of the most popular and original personal development and career-advice writers online, Danielle LaPorte joins me in this interview which originally aired in 2012.   Danielle reframes popular self-help and success concepts in her apathy-kicking, integrity-infusing guide to defining success on your own terms: The Fire Starter Sessions....

Friendships can be tricky, especially for adults. We all have a million and one things going on at any time, so finding time to nurture our friendships can be tough. And, we’re all different people with varying expectations, time, needs, and interests. Sometimes, a friend might ghost us – either temporarily or permanently. If you’ve […]

Motivation is based on drives: biological, reward + punishment, and purpose. For the most part, the nature of our work and tasks have changed significantly from the nineteenth to twentieth to twenty-first centuries. Have motivators kept up? Daniel Pink is the author of four provocative books about changing the world of work including the New […]

In my work with clients, I get a backstage pass to the struggles of some really kind, smart, hard-working people. Some of them wouldn’t agree with that description because they’re relentlessly hard on themselves most of the time. That’s one thing they’d probably all agree that they have in common: they constantly feel like they’re […]

This summer, I’m rebroadcasting some of my favorite How She Really Does It episodes from earlier years of my show in a 12-week series called Wisdom Wednesdays. I’m bringing these twelve shows back to the surface for you so that they can bring a little bit of wisdom into your life each week (without you […]

Are you asking for what you want? These asks can be big or small: asking your partner to wash the dishes a certain way. Asking someone you’re seeing casually if they want to take your relationship to the next level. Asking your family not to bring food to your dinner party. Our lives are full […]

This summer, I’m rebroadcasting some of my favorite How She Really Does It episodes from earlier years of my show in a 12-week series called Wisdom Wednesdays. I’m bringing these twelve shows back to the surface for you so that they can bring a little bit of wisdom into your life each week (without you […]

Knowing how to manage your time is an important skill no matter what you do, but I’ve found traditional “time-blocking” time management techniques to be totally the wrong fit for me. I prefer to think about, and check in with, my capacity and my energy. Energy is exactly what it sounds like – all your energy […]

Hello + welcome to Wisdom Wednesdays! This summer, I’m rebroadcasting some of my favorite How She Really Does It episodes from earlier years of my show in a 12-week series called Wisdom Wednesdays. I’m bringing these twelve shows back to the surface for you so that they can bring a little bit of wisdom into […]

I don’t do interviews much anymore, but sometimes I come across someone with a story that I think my audience just has to hear. That’s exactly what happened with today’s guest, Tembi Locke, when I read her memoir From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Home.  Tembi is an actress, mother, and now author. She lives in […]

Do you ever wish someone would swoop in and save you from your life? Maybe work has been especially hard lately, or you’re going through a difficult time in a relationship. It’s tempting to want someone to come take care of you. We all do this. I call this White Knight syndrome – wanting someone […]

When I use the word “vision,” a lot of people automatically switch off. They think “vision” sounds like such a grand, intimidating idea that they’re not sure how it fits into their life. But when I’m talking about creating a vision, I’m talking about a simple practice that will help you get clear on what […]

Money is a huge shame trigger. You may think that you don’t make enough money because you’re not worth it. Or you may think you make too much money, and you don’t deserve what you have. Whatever end of the wealth spectrum you’re coming from, money can be a major source of shame and self-loathing. You have […]

How many times have you started something new, determined to become an expert in as little time possible? You pray that you won’t have to deal with the messy part, the lessons, and the experience. Where does that habit prevent you from actually learning in your life? When we do new things, we are going […]

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We’ve been culturally programmed to believe that being perfect will make us safe. Valued. Successful. Loved. Perfection isn’t the source of any of those feelings. It’s an enemy of them. Chasing perfection is exhausting. It’s the birthplace of shame, and instead of making you feel valued, loved, or successful, it will put you under constant […]