Permission To Be Human

What if pleasures didn't have to be guilty? Janelle and Andrea discuss their own navigation of various vices over the years including sugar, nail-biting, social media, alcohol and television…then discuss mindfulness, addictions and impulse control for good measure. And there's a nod to Glennon Doyle, Sam Harris, GI Joe, The Today Show and Little House on the Prairie. You'll hear:   -- How Andrea t...

Altars aren't just for church and rituals aren't just for cults. Find out more as Janelle and Andrea discuss how these elements offer meaning, consistency and, most importantly, space to look within. Includes a nod to Indian Palm Leaf Reading, Waldorf, Myka MCloughlin, Cynthia Morris, Jim Gaffigan, the New Yorker & Braveheart. You'll hear: -Why Janelle drinks cacao every morning -Permission for yo...

Janelle and Andrea take on life and death, one breath at a time, discussing end-of-life care, examining how society successfully evades the topic, and considering the sentence: "if we die before we die, then we don't have to die when we die". Includes a nod to cemeteries, cruises, Joan Didion, Natalie Goldberg, The Lower Fifth, Meggan Watterson, Paul Kalanithi, "The Wreck of Time" by Annie Dillard...

Recently, Janelle got a Pussy Reading. No, really. Sound revolutionary? It is. Based on physical attributes, Quodoushka helps you understand your genitals so you can deepen connection and expand your pleasure. It ALSO elevates the way we think about our pussy! What if we gave it reverence? What if we honored its beauty and unique style? You'll hear: -An unexpected way to deepen sisterhood -Why kno...

Are you a feminist? Are you sure? What does it mean to you? Janelle and Andrea dissect their own definitions, share their experience with feminine and masculine energy and invite listeners to honor the qualities of both. Includes a nod to Planned Parenthood, HDFS, Kate Chopin, Animal House, David Deida, Alison Armstrong & Om Rupani. You'll hear: -Janelle's journey form militant to post-modern femi...

Ever heard the phrase "in your radiance"? It's one of Janelle's favorites and she's learned that investing time and money in her own radiance is not a luxury, but a necessity. Andrea dishes about her evolution as a shopper and how she now dresses from the inside out. Includes a nod to thrift shopping, TJMaxx, Rising Frequency, Finland and Leave the World Behind. ‌ You'll hear: ‌ -What it means to...

Divorce was the one thing Janelle was never going to do. But one year later, she's not only surviving, but thriving. In this episode, Janelle shares how this experience freed her from limiting financial beliefs and expanded her definition of who to call on in a crisis. Choosing herself first allowed her to appreciate all the ways her ex-partner showed his love. Includes a nod to Christmas onesies...

Janelle interviews Andrea about the five ways to discern the voice of your Ego (what Andrea calls her Evil Twin) from the voice of your Calling (what she calls her Inner Witch). So juicy. You'll hear why your Evil Twin is all about anxiety, attainment, doing and burnout, while your Inner Witch is all about silence, journey, being and fulfillment. Includes a reference to spirit crowns, Fight Club,...

Before we choose a word for the new year (yawn), let's reflect on our lessons in 2023. Andrea found joy where the collective and individual meet. Janelle learned that investing in her radiance is a not a luxury but a necessity. Includes a nod to silent disco, sleep hygiene, the movie Rocky, cardamom and BDSM. You'll hear:   -Why we love glitter and "glimmer" -How Janelle has increased her capacity...

Mixing woo and wealth, Andrea dives into Janellle's financial journey, from a modest Long Island upbringing where spending money was "not a pastime" to post-divorce era where she's struggling to pay a $7500 mortgage. Includes references to Vidal Sassoon jeans and authors Bruce Lyons and Lynn Twist You'll hear: ‌ -The soul, spirit and personality of money -Why it's (perhaps?) no longer taboo to dip...

Janelle and Andrea glean lessons about relationships, instincts and privilege through stories about unexpected intruders, Everest base camp strangers, currency exchange mistakes, vision quest seekers and a husband's ex-girlfriend. Can you find the meaning in even the messiest of situations? They definitely try. Includes references to Ally McBeal, Rock Bottom and mouth-taping. You'll hear: -How Jan...

Janelle & Andrea take on a NYT article by Catherine Pearson about the Top 8 Sex Myths and do their darndest to expand our idea of an orgasm. It's okay to want sex, use lube, plan intimacy and much more. Includes a peek into our own numbers (gasp!!) and a nod to George Michael. You'll hear: ‌ -Why mixing sex nights with mundane shit works -The purpose of a Pelvic Floor Specialist -How Janelle likes...

How do you celebrate the holidays? How do you adapt to changing family dynamics? Who do you become when you visit your parents? Can you let go of form and embrace new traditions? Janelle and Andrea discuss their own memories, what holidays looks like in a post-divorce, polyamorous world and how they avoid the consumerism debacle. -How to navigate child archetypes during your "home" experience -Cre...

Andrea & Janelle attended a Letting Go of Attachments ceremony in honor of Samhain (pronounced Sawwen), a Celtic celebration to honor the end of harvest season and the beginning of winter. The idea? To release one object from their life and allow its energy to nourish another. Includes a nod to Red Hot Chili Peppers, Nina Hagen and Rising Appalachia. You'll hear: -The importance of a Death Folder...

Communication is such a basic skill. And as extroverts, we thought we were pretty darn good at it. But we had to put away our trophies when we realized we may be saying too much out loud. Could it be that our interactions included too many questions? Were we good listeners? Are we just waiting for our turn to talk and then delivering a one-sided speech? You'll hear: ‌ -The difference between an ef...

Transitions are fucking hard. Whether it's home to college, the death of your mama, a flight across the country or a painful breakup. But when we accept, stay patient, get comfortable with discomfort and get intentional about the space between, we always find our way. Includes references to the 90s television, Noah Kahan, Cigarettes After Sex, TJMaxx and the Smurfs. You'll hear: ‌ -An essay from A...

Talk to the hand, bravehearts. And tell it how to make you feel good! We're covering self-pleasure--formerly known as masturbation--in this episode. It's the most natural thing in the world to pleasure ourselves and we'll share our experiences--past to present. Includes a reference from Big Mouth, as well as a nod to Judy Blume and V.C. Andrews. ‌ -Why the true source of our pleasure is INSIDE us...

Are you craving more intimacy and connection? Here's a conversation that will lead you there. RBDSM stands for Relationships, Boundaries, Sexual Health, Meaning & Aftercare. Yes, this is a conversation you have BEFORE you take your clothes off---and it's such a beautiful thing. We break down the acronym and role-play, too. ‌ -A debunking of the mind-reading myth that RomComs perpetuate -Why Janell...

What if you could ask for exactly what you wanted? What if you could trust and value your own yeses and nos? What if you could articulate exactly how you wanted to be touched? Andrea interviews Janelle on a framework that has helped her give and receive everything (compliments, apples, touch, rides to the airport! ) from a centered and grounded place. Includes a When Harry Met Sally reference and...

If there are so much pain and tears and walking through fire, why practice polyamory anyway? Janelle and Andrea discuss the best parts of this alternative to monogamy, why they keep coming back to it and how it can strengthen relationships with both their partners and themselves. Also a story about Folk Festival and a quote from the beloved Alan de Botton. You'll hear… -How poly led both chicas ba...

Ever wondered what Burning Man is really about? Janelle explains how she finds the magic in the mud, the moon in the balloon and how self-reliance, immediacy, radical self expression and rhinestone goggles have guided her journey. She rarely visits the same city twice, but she's gone back to Burning Man 8 years in a row because it ALWAYS meets her where she is---never the same experience twice. Yo...

You want raw? We'll give you raw. In this episode…..Janelle holds space while Andrea does some real-time external processing of her current breakup and the incredibly uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms that go along with it. They dare toask the question: Can an oral fixation be satiated form a neutral, objective mouth? You'll hear… -How Tarot, Wim Hoff & mantras can form a ritual -Why Janelle claim...

What happened when Janelle read a book about Mary Magdalene, then signed up to attend a two-week mystery school in Finland, led by a woman named Winter? And what if you add some mosquitos, a cold lake, a hot sauna and a 200-year old farmhouse? Lots of magic. This burner had dealt with far crazier conditions anyway. In this episode you'll hear: -What happens when we let go of form -Why she taped he...

Andrea likes a nice  stranger….in  the same way some people like a nice martini. And she and Janelle like to share the love with the world in myriad ways. Giving people a lift is surprisingly easy. From simple compliments to clever snail mail, and joy in a bottle to a dollhead on a highway divider. Wearing heart-shaped sunglasses, these kindness-curators talk about how they do it--and you can do i...

After some braveheart feedback, Janelle and Andrea realized they needed to further define their vocabulary. No, they're not part of a cult. And no, they're not the authority on all these concepts. But they wanted to give some more context on words about Lifestyle, Spirituality, Personal Growth, Communication, Relationships and Sex. In this episode you'll hear… -How to broaden your definition of in...