Permission Granted with Unyime Oguta

When it comes to your kids fighting, are you a detective or a judge? Find out on this week’s podcast episode with guest, Emily Hamblin, of Enlightening Motherhood Podcast. Emily is the creator and co-host of the Enlightening Motherhood podcast & life coaching business. As a mom of 4, former foster mom of 27, and educator of all ages, she definitely understands what it’s like to feel overwhelme...

If you’re like so many women, you probably struggle to love others, especially when they rub you the wrong way. This can be hard when the people are those closest to you. But regardless of what you think about other people’s love worthiness, I want to assure you that it is possible to love even when it’s hard. You are more in control of your relationships than you think. So, let’s talk about it. J...

If you find yourself saying, “I don’t know” when it comes to taking action toward the life you want, you’re not alone. It’s easy to default to this way of thinking because it feels like the key to figuring out what to do.  In this episode, you’ll learn why not knowing is a gift and the one mindset shift that will help you finally figure out steps that will get you closer to creating the life you w...

One thing that women get wrong about creating the life that they want is that they use evidence from their past and current lives as reasons why getting what they want is impossible. On this week’s podcast episode, rightly titled, evidence paradox, you will learn why this is normal behaviour, how it keeps you from the life you want to create, and how to change it. Let's dive in! Let's co...

If you’re struggling to stick with your New Year goals, I want you to know that you’re not alone. Research shows that only 9% people of people who set goals actually achieve them. On today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the reasons why that is. It is the thought, “everyone else has it figured out but me”.  It sounds very innocent, but it doesn’t serve you to think this way. And today, you will...

How often do you tell yourself that you’re failing at something? In this episode, we’re exploring what happens when you think that you are failing. I’m sharing my own experience with failure and offering simple shifts that you can make, so that you become proactive in addressing failure and not let it hold you back from the life you want to create. I can help you walk through your fear of failure...

You’ve likely heard the quote that when you know better, you do better. And while some of that is true, I beg to differ. Knowing better doesn’t shift you into doing better.  There are many steps between knowing and doing that nobody really talks about. If you’re wondering why you haven’t been able to do better despite everything you know, this episode will help you know why, and offer a simple sol...

Many of you are going to make resolutions, set goals, and make vows for the year, but none of that matters if you’re doing it with the wrong intention. Many women set goals laced with varying degrees of people-pleasing and they wonder why it feels so challenging to achieve them. In this episode, I’m sharing my story about what happens when you stop people-pleasing by focusing on three mindset shif...

Welcome to the last episode of 2022! This year has been amazing and also challenging for me as a thriving mom, coach, and business owner. In this episode, I bring you behind the scenes of my self-reflection as I share the top 5 lessons that I learned in 2022. Get ready to laugh along and feel inspired to take a moment and reflect on your own year.  Mentioned in this episode: Join me for the People...

The holiday season is prime time for your boundaries to be challenged especially if you’re a people pleaser. And that’s why this episode is going to teach you how to navigate holiday boundaries as a people pleaser. Tune in to learn the one thing stopping you from prioritizing your needs and wants, and the simple steps that will help you feel more comfortable stating your boundaries.  You deserve a...

If you find it challenging to believe that what you want is possible, I want to pose that what is standing in your way is simplicity disbelief. In this week’s episode, I explain why many women, especially moms struggle with simplicity disbelief. Listen in for 3 simple questions to help you recognize how simplicity disbelief is impacting your ability to thrive, and what you can do to start keeping...

In order to achieve any goal, you must change the image that you have of yourself. This requires becoming a different version of yourself and moments of discomfort. For many of us, the discomfort feels unbearable, and so we occupy ourselves with hard and busy work that works until it no longer works. That's why in this episode, you will learn all about dealing with the discomfort of growth. Y...

The thought, “it keeps happening” may be what’s holding you back from reaching your goals. If you find yourself repeating the same unhelpful behavior even after doing the mindset work, you might find yourself feeling frustrated when you think that it keeps happening. In today's episode, you'll learn why thinking this way doesn't serve you, and what to do instead, so that you stop fe...

If you’ve ever felt like the more you try to get things under control in your life the harder it feels, then you’re in for a treat. We’re back with another episode in our series titled, “the gift of coaching”. This week, my client Austin and I chat about her pink drinks and making decisions. Austin shares how she went from feeling out of control to taking charge of her life by making decisions. Yo...

If you’ve ever thought that you are too emotional, you’re not alone. The thought of dealing with emotions can feel scary, especially when you have a busy life. On today’s episode, you’ll hear from my client Victoria who wanted help because she felt that she was too emotional. You’ll hear her unpack how she went from feeling bad about her emotions to taking charge, and not letting them stop her fro...

Life doesn’t always give you warning signs before things go the way you didn’t plan. In this episode, rightly titled, how to be calm when things feel chaotic , Unyime walks you through a real-time life experience that feels chaotic, how she is choosing to think and coach herself through it, and the lessons she has learned. The nuggets from this episode can be applied to any situation in your life...

Boundaries can often feel challenging when you have people-pleasing tendencies. In this first installment of the gift of coaching series, Unyime chats with her former client, Jill about her experience of becoming confident with boundaries and healing her relationship with food.  Jill shares what she learned while working with Unyime, and how it has helped her gain her freedom and power back as a w...

Living a stress-free life is boring - think man-made neighborhood pond. What you want is a life that's fun, vibrant, and exhilarating without all the drama attached to that. That's a less-stressed life. Motherhood is not boring. It is chaotic, beautiful, full of joy and laughter and pain, evolving, and it will challenge all of your insecurities. And when you are trying to live a stress-f...

If you struggle with not feeling enough, you’re not alone. The reason why you struggle is that you think enoughness is something you achieve through actions. It isn’t. Feeling enough is a conscious decision that requires devotion and commitment to unlearning the thoughts that keep you not feeling good enough, and creating a self-image of someone who IS already enough. Cultivating your enoughness i...

If you’ve been working hard towards a goal and wondering why you haven’t reached it yet, are you allowing yourself to receive it? Allowing yourself to receive can feel challenging when you’re used to hustling for want you want. And that’s why in this episode, I’m sharing simple ways that you can learn to allow yourself to receive all the good that’s coming to you with ease. It has been a game-chan...

If the thought of displeasing others makes you want to run for the hills, then this episode will help you think differently about yourself and your need to people-please. You are not wrong for wanting to serve other people – this is your superpower. But when this gets in the way of your own health and well-being, then it’s a problem. And that’s why in this episode, you will learn what to do when y...

How did you feel the last time you wanted somebody to believe you, but they didn’t? You probably felt hurt. But here’s the kicker, you’re the one who didn’t have your own back or believe yourself, and that’s why it hurt. In this episode, you’ll learn why trying to convince others to believe your experiences and feelings is a sign that you lack self-trust. Then know the steps that will help you bui...

Do you think that you’re failing at motherhood? In this episode, I’m offering my thoughts on why it is impossible for you to fail as a mom. You will learn the reason why you may feel like a failure, how this impacts you and your child, and the will help you stop thinking that you’re failing at motherhood. Mentioned in this episode:  Listen to the episode on The Good Mom Syndrome HERE Learn about m...

Do you want to know the secret to doing it all in motherhood? Choosing not to do it all. While that sounds like a mind-bender, I think that we often confuse having it all with doing it all in motherhood. And that’s why many moms feel stressed and overwhelmed. It is possible to have it all without doing it all. And the key is knowing how to name what matters. In this part 2 of our 4-part series on...

Did you ever think about the kind of mom you want to be before having kids? I’m going to guess not, which might be the reason why motherhood feels so challenging for you. And that’s why this week, we’re talking about redefining your motherhood identity. Your motherhood identity is the key to creating the motherhood experience that you want. This episode is one of a four-part series titled Rethinki...