Pathway to Recovery

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland speaks with two leaders of the SAL 12-Step program, Kahi Winget and Andrew Schmucker. They discuss what originally brought them to SAL 12-Step meetings and how the reasons for their participation have evolved through the recovery process. Kahi and Andrew share unique blessings from working the SAL 12-Step program as well as how the...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode Tara talks with Andrew S, the men's Executive Director for SAL 12 Step and a recovering addict. Andrew explains what someone can expect when they attend a 12 Step Meeting, and how SAL's 12 Step differs from other programs. Tara and Andrew discuss spiritual connection, one of the pieces in our Recovery Puzzle. How does a relati...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this Q&A, hosts Justin and Tara compare and contrast healthy vs. unhealthy sexuality using a document prepared by Dr. Jill Manning. See the post here.   Understanding the broad scope of this question, they suggest that personal values and a God-centered approach are helpful starting points for thoughtful individuals seeking guidance on this  sen...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. This week, Justin B takes some time to talk quality education, the value of rigorous honesty in recovery, and experience in the school of life with Steven Croshaw.  In this episode, Steven addresses if shame is the driving factor in addiction, the process of surrender,  and helpful educational resources are discussed. Access those resources in the link...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this Q&A episode, hosts Justin and Tara discuss the importance of having a common language and vocabulary to use when it comes to important recovery words and definitions.  They discuss importance of having a strong sobriety definition as a basis for recovery that is understood and agreed upon and consider the S.A. Lifeline definitions of the te...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. This week Tara talks with licensed marriage and family counselor, author and podcaster Geoff Steurer. Part of the recovery puzzle for both pornography addiction and betrayal truama is to find quality education and therapy. How does one go about this? How do you know what sort of sources to trust? Tara and Geoff discuss these issues as well as timelines...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Tune in for the second portion of the 2023 S.A. Lifeline Conference Q&A Panel. Some of the questions answered in this episode include: -What are some effective methods you use, therapists, with your clients to help them process difficult emotions? -How can you navigate being in recovery, addict side, while being a nurse, or in the medical field whe...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. John H is a recovering sex addict with more than 3 years sobriety and member of SAL 12-Step.  In this conversation with Justin B, he discusses the miracles and benefits of rigorous honesty in recovery after many years of continuous dishonesty.  We discuss the SAL Recovery Puzzle with the emphasis on rigorous honesty. Support the show SA Lifeline Founda...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this special Q&A episode, we share a portion of the Q&A Panel Discussion from our 2023 S.A. Lifeline Conference.  Here are the questions answered in this segment: -What resources do you recommend for an individual in recovery who wants to understand how best to support their betrayed spouse? -I have four adult daughters. Who have been affect...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Join Tara in this fascinating episode as she talks with Anna Lembke, author of Dopamine Nation.  Learn how addiction works in the brain and how to keep the balance between pleasure and pain on an even keel.  Anna discusses how rigorous honesty helps heal relationships and strengthens the brain. People who practice "strict" sobriety tend to  h...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Today is another Q & A with our hosts, Tara McCausland and Justin B.  Most addicts lie about their behaviors because they think it will protect themselves and not hurt others around them. Justin discusses how he eventually recognized the error in his thinking and how honesty has improved his relationships. They talk about how dishonesty is one of t...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Our annual S.A. Lifeline Conference Come Heal With Us: A Community Focus on the Effects of Pornography, Sexual Addiction & Betrayal Trauma is right around the corner on Sept. 9, 2023 in Sandy, Utah. In this special episode, we meet several of our speakers and hear in their words a brief overview of their presentations. We end with the wisdom of a f...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Allison T and her husband thought his pornography addiction would get better once they were married. She spent many years in a support role to her husband before she realized she had betrayal trauma. She explains how a willing heart came gradually as she recognized she had her own recovery work, separate from her husbands'.  Allison shares how the...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B speak again with Heather B about her experience developing a willing heart and choosing to work her recovery from betrayal trauma even though her husband, Justin, did not choose recovery for 7 long years after disclosure. Heather discusses how humble prayer, a helpful faith leader, and taking small steps toward recove...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland speaks with betrayal trauma expert, Dr. Jill Manning,  about how a betrayed partner can apply the  recovery puzzle pieces of a willing heart, honesty,  humility, accountability, commitment, and seeking spiritual connection to facilitate healing.  As a betrayed spouse, it is easy to feel like a victim of our addicted partner's...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Tara has a conversation with Heather B and Justin B, a married couple who are living in long-term recovery from sexual addiction.  The conversation goes into Heather's experience with "Discovery Day" and Justin's perspective of it.  They discuss the miracle that happens when God is put at the center of the spouse, even if and when t...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Justin B. has an insightful conversation with Irvin S, a sex addict living in recovery, about his experiences with obtaining, applying, and maintaining a willing heart to heal his family.  We review the SA Lifeline Recovery Puzzle and discuss how a willing heart must include the following:  Humility, Rigorous Honesty, Accountability, Commitment, and Se...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B discuss what a willing heart, the central piece of the S.A. Lifeline Recovery Puzzle, looks like for a sexual addict. Justin describes the need for admission of addictive behavior as an important starting point and then an open-mindedness to new things in the recovery journey such as attending a 12-Step meeting.  Supp...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this episode, host Tara McCausland reviews the S.A. Lifeline heart and mind Recovery Puzzle pieces (e.g. willing heart, humble, accountable, committed, honesty, seeking spiritual connection) with guest expert, Dr. Eddie Capparucci. They compare them with the transformational elements in Eddie's latest book Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming R...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Tara and Justin talk with Jeni Brockbank, the spouse of a porn user, about how pornography has affected her, including the concept of betrayal trauma. Justin shares how  in hindsight he can see how it affected his family. Tara also shares her perspective as the daughter of a porn user.  Support the show SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Find an SAL12S...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Pathway to Recovery  co-host, Justin B, speaks with S.A. Lifeline co-founder, Rhyll Croshaw, and discusses her experience, strength, and hope in regards to dealing with her husband’s decades of sexual addiction and healing from the associated betrayal trauma.  We deep dive into what is betrayal trauma from the perspective of the betrayed.   Rhyll eloqu...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. In this week's Q&A, Tara and Justin discuss the question "What does porn or sexual addiction think, act and talk like?" This question is relevant in that many loved ones of addicted individuals never see the acting out behavior so how are they to know if their loved one is in active addiction or recovery. The  S.A. Lifeline model of...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Host Tara McCausland and guest expert Dr. Barbara Steffens define what betrayal trauma is, what it looks like and how to approach healing and recovery. Barbara shares advice for betrayed partners, therapists and faith leaders. The importance of having a community for healing is discussed. Dr. Barbara Steffens specializes in helping women recover from s...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. How is an addiction different from a bad habit? Defining pornography and sexual compulsivity as an addiction can be difficult for both the struggling individual and their partner. Tara and Justin discuss 3 reasons why it can be helpful in the recovery process to label this problem as an addiction.  Support the show SA Lifeline Foundation SAL 12 Step Fi...

Questions or feedback? Leave your email here. Justin B. speaks with Steven Croshaw, co-founder of S.A. Lifeline Foundation, about his experiences with sexual addiction and recovery.  Steven shares about the depths of living a double life in sexual addiction.  He also shares his perspective on the trauma his behavior caused his wife and others.  We explore the progression of sexual addiction.  We w...