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We came into the world helpless and totally dependent on our caregivers to attend to our young needs. Each time we reached out our precious young arms we were met with either a tender loving smile and our vulnerable needs were met or our caregiver turned away claiming we were too demanding and taught us to take care of ourselves before we were ready. Tune into this week's episode to hear more abou...

The holiday season is now in full swing. The decorations, the shopping, the family gatherings, and celebrations. It's a wonderful time of year! But it can also be stressful, especially visiting family.    Choosing to parent your children differently than how you were parented can be a stress point when going home for the holiday. Tune in to this episode for some Purejoy support all about it! www.p...

If reading this I KNOW you are seeking to create an environment for your children to feel loved and supported in living into their brilliance.   We have a strong desire to offer them unconditional love and an environment different than what we grew up in and yet at the same time question our parenting since it looks so different than how we were raised. Where does our humanness come into play?   ...

Do you ever hear yourself saying to your kids, "You need to….."   Maybe, it's cleaning their room, or eating their vegetables….homework anyone?    Of course, you need your child to do what they are supposed to do, right? And yet, when you refuse to take responsibility for it being your need, not your child's you are giving them a mixed message.   Tune into this episode for more support in owning y...

Do you believe you know what is best for your child? I know, I sure did. The parenting paradigm most of us were exposed to carries this view. The limitation of this view is that we find ourselves projecting onto our children the experiences we had which parallel theirs. Tune into this episode to hear more about healthy separation. www.purejoyparenting.com

In conscious parenting, the message we often hear is - connect, connect, connect. And yet, rarely do we hear about the importance of healthy separation in our relationships with our children. Tune into this episode to get some support with healthy separation in your parenting.  www.purejoyparenting.com

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Do you experience happiness emanating from inside and spreading out or coming from the outside and spreading in? Most of us were trained to attach happiness to an external event.  Tune into this week's episode to hear more about happiness as an internal experience. www.purejoyparenting.com

Have you noticed how transitions can be both exciting and scary? Settling into a rhythm, a pattern, or a way of being feels safe and secure, and yet in the river of life, there is always a flow.   Children are constantly shifting and changing as they grow and develop. And yet, it is easy as parents to crystallize our view coming to a conclusion about who our children are or are not. Tune into this...

Ever feel misunderstood and judged by the way you parent? Do others think you are permissive and question your style?   If others are not interested in hearing how you parent and, out of their discomfort, keep telling you how "wrong" you are for messing up your child, do you listen?    Tune into this week's episode to hear more about coming together in a new culture of parenting.  www.purejoyparen...

In my parenting, the number 1 challenge I experience is holding onto unrealistic expectations. Right? Do you remember before you had your first child? What were your fantasies? Your expectations on yourself? Tune into this week's episode to hear more about what to do with expectations! www.purejoyparenting.com

Seeing what your child is actually doing instead of focusing and believing they are ONLY doing the negative sends a message to your child that they are a whole human being experiencing positive and negative. If you focus only on the negative your child is hearing over and over they have a deficit which becomes their internal self-talk. The more balanced you see a situation the less emotionally cha...

As a parent, it is easy, to think what you believe is "right" casting your child as in the "wrong". When this happens righteousness pops up defending and justifying your actions of pushing, pulling, or forcing your child to live into your high values.    I'm here to offer you another way of seeing. What if thinking you are right is just your first STOP on the elevator down to connecting with reali...

Synchronicity in parenting is the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause. Tapping into this field offers a different lens to view certain situations and to enter a realm out of the ordinary. Have you ever thought of someone and you end up running into them at the store? Hmmmmm! What is that?    Tune into this week's episode to hear all about it!

When I adopted my daughter I was SURE I had it all together. I was going to be the best parent in the world and I was READY for my mission. So, when I found myself in the weeds struggling to get my 4-year-old to listen, I noticed that I was withdrawing love and protecting my heart. This led to a deep inquiry about what was going on inside my heart and why did I feel the need to protect it from thi...

I learned when my daughter was young, I realized I had to be willing to see through her eyes.     When I began to do this, things looked very, very different.   My daughter is more of a present-moment child. She doesn't focus on the future. Dropping into this practice has given me a life full of inspiration- tune into this episode to learn how you might be able to do the same!   www.purejoyparenti...

Have you ever considered the intense pressure your child feels to meet your needs? If not, let's take a little time to explore.  "You need to eat your food, you need to put on your shoes, you need to do your homework, You need to get off the computer, You need to do your chores, You need to hurry up, You need to listen to me….." And yet, what if you actually owned that these are your needs? Join m...

I never thought of myself as an arrogant person. Honestly, I had quite the judgment about folks I perceived as arrogant. Then I became a parent! YIKES.    Arrogance showed up quickly and furiously when my daughter didn't behave in ways that supported my idea of being a "good" mother.    Tune into this week's episode to hear more about my journey to discover more about what was under all of that!  ...

Do you ever think your child didn't come with an instruction manual? Well, what if they did and yet you aren't interested in reading it? Why would this be?  In my experience, my parenting manual (conscious loving mother) often gave contradictory instructions to her innate knowing and instructions. Determined to follow mine I often felt like I was trying to put a round peg in a square hole. It was...

When your child doesn't listen, won't get in the car seat when you ask nicely, or won't get ready to leave the house what happens inside you?   Does it feel like an emotional threat? Do you feel anger? Most parents express how frustrated they are especially since their children should KNOW what to do.    Tune into this week's episode and let's dive a little deeper!   www.purejoyparenting.com

I have a saying that goes, "It's never about what you think it is about".   What I mean by this is it's never about the computer use, or the food, or even the homework.   I know, I know. It sure seems like it is about those things, yes?    Tune into this episode to hear more about this saying and how it can support you to be more present with your child.   www.purejoyparenting.com  

Underneath the wall of rage, we walked through last week, are early, early feelings of abandonment, rejection, powerless, and helplessness.   These are the precious feeling jewels you stored away as a young child believing they were somehow dangerous since when expressing them through your behavior you were punished or shamed.    In this week's episode, I'll be sharing with you what it's like to e...

RAGE is a terrifying emotion to turn towards with kindness.   RAGE, in my family, was explosive and volatile and often expressed in destructive ways.     Having experienced the destructive behavior of a raging mom I organized my life to never feel this powerful emotion out of an imagined fear that I would behave like her.    Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how I learned to walk wi...

Do you ever get frustrated with your kids when they refuse to do chores? Most parents I meet have a belief that chores are important skill sets for kids to learn. And yet, they often push, pull, threaten, shame or force their children to do them. Sound familiar?  Tune into this episode to learn a secret I've discovered to turn this around! www.purejoyparenting.com  

In all my years, I've struggled with what I'm now calling "finishing the moment".   Starting something new, I leave a trail of dust behind in my wake for I'm constantly onto the next shiny object in the distance.   Rarely, do I finish the moment I'm actually experiencing.    In my parenting, this shows up when my daughter is sharing a story about her experience. Instead of listening and opening to...