Parenting Paused

Parenting is SERIOUS! Scary, infuriating, and nerve-racking! When you perceive it that way it is easy to focus on the serious side when things feel so, well... SERIOUS!!! However, how do your children respond to your seriousness? Life to them is often playful and filled with delight. What would it be like to speak to them in their high value of play? Listen to this week's Parenting Paused Podcast...

Stuck in the guilt cycle? Stuck feeling annoyed by your child's behavior? Stuck feeling frustrated by your response to your child's behavior? Do you find yourself repeating: "Why is my child so... (lazy, disrespectful, rude, entitled)!?!" OR... "Why can't I get this whole Peaceful Parenting thing RIGHT???" Check out this week's Parenting Paused Podcast to discover a practice that expands how you l...

Have you ever been so certain that you were communicating to your kids (or partner) in a calm and peaceful manner, just to hear them respond, 💥"Why are you so mad?"💥   Or vice versa, have you ever noticed when your partner or children are having internal experiences that do not match what they are saying?   In this week's Parenting Paused Podcast, you are invited to explore an awareness practice...

As a parent, you probably believe that you must set limits and boundaries on your child in order for them to behave. There IS another WAY! Imagine how it would be to hold a healthy personal boundary in relation to your child. How do you treat yourself when your child doesn't do their homework, won't get off the computer, or won't eat healthy? Check out this week's Parenting Paused Podcast to disco...

Your stories are EXCITING! Entertaining! Gripping! But…. are they true? Children, like adults, experience life through the filters of their perception. It is SO important for your children to be heard, but what is more important? Listening to the details of the story? Or listening to the feelings that are being provoked?  In this week's podcast, we explore what it is like to TRULY talk to the feel...

On last week's episode, we talked about how what you love in your child you love in yourself, and what you don't like in your child, you don't like in yourself. Everyone is pretty familiar with the negative side of this- calling your child lazy, rude, and entitled- is what you hate in yourself. In this week's episode, Leslie dives into the positive traits, and how you might be taking over the trai...

In this week's episode, Leslie breaks down how you most likely abandoned certain traits that are a part of your human experience. What happens when you see those abandoned traits in your child? Do you judge them? Act out on them?  Tune in to hear more about how to work with that and hear how Leslie learned about being an efficiency expert from her daughter. 

Are you truly connecting with your child? Or are you engulfing them, projecting your need for connection onto them, during your attempts to connect?   In conscious parenting, oftentimes importance is placed on connection with your child. This can feel very enticing for a parent with a void, or an unmet need to feel loved.  Then what happens is an "over connection" – basically connecting using your...

This week on Parenting Paused, Leslie shares a saying in the Purejoy view that goes- talk to the feelings, not the story.  We live in a culture that values concepts.  We have tons of stories about many different things that have happened in our lives, our memories, and what we think is gonna happen in the future. And yet, often those stories are driven by feelings. Tune into this week's episode to...

"Be Kind!" has become a very common phrase. But what does it really mean? The message being sent is really "be NICE" - which is often applied as abandoning yourself to take care of someone else's thoughts and feelings. Tune into this week's podcast to hear Leslie offer an alternative view of kindness that will transform your parenting.

As a child, when you expressed big desires, you might have been criticized by your caregivers. You likely internalized that critical voice and use it whenever you meet the intensity of your own big desire inside. Tune into this week's Parenting Paused Podcast to deep dive into the origins of your self-aggression and how it shows up in your parenting today.

You want your child to be FREE to be fully themselves. That's what conscious parents are supposed to want, right?! It sounds great… but how does that really look?  How can you love your child fully, for who they are, when they are doing things that drive you crazy?  …and what about that nagging fear that if you let them fully be free, they might not want a connection with you?  That thought can re...

Have you ever had a day that just DID NOT go the way you wished for?   Tune into this episode to hear all about Leslie's recent 'Freaky Friday' and how she supported herself to stay in the present moment and choose how she wanted to be with it rather than positioning herself as a victim to some pretty freaky circumstances!

Does your child always listen to you? Does your child thank you for the meals you prepare? Does your child gladly put their clothes away? Does your child finish all their homework on time and independently?   HA! Most parents can't say yes to all those questions and in this week's episode Leslie breaks down how and why kiddos resist and what is going on in the relationship dynamics of parent and c...

Last week we were taking a look at how young conclusions might be showing up in your parenting.  Emotional blackmailing is about what happens when you unconsciously, in an attempt to stay safe, use emotionally manipulative tactics to get what you want!  Tune into this episode to hear alternatives and what it looks like to set healthy personal boundaries instead.  www.purejoyparenting.com/safeseat

Last week on Parenting Paused we talked about how the way you were parented has a profound impact on how you now parent, and it may not be obvious the ways.   So this week Leslie shares more about why that is- how you came to conclusions when you were young and those conclusions may be at work below the surface of your parenting.   Part of becoming the parent you wish to be is to check out those e...

In your parenting journey have you ever said something like... I never want to be like my mom... Or I'm going to be just like my dad... One is about doing things differently, the other trying to be the same. And yet both are focused on how YOU were parented, rather than being in a relationship with your child.  This happens because how you were parented has a profound impact on how you parent.  Tu...

Have you reached a point of no return in your parenting?   You're working so hard, you've tried everything, you can't seem to make any changes and be the parent you want to be and STILL, you find yourself blowing up, acting out, and doing exactly the opposite of what you intend to be.   Tune into this week's episode and listen to Leslie break the point of no return for you.   www.purejoyparenting....

In the Purejoy view, all feelings are welcome!   But what about the ones that you HATE? How you organize feelings, ones you like or don't like, is learned.   Tune into this week's episode to hear more about this and how feelings drive behavior. www.purejoyparenting.com

Hey Mama!   Do you ever feel stuck in your parenting? Does your child have behavior that drives you crazy- you want to get rid of it! You've probably tried so many things to get it to stop!   Of course, Mama- it can be so intense to stay with the feelings that come up in you- you might find yourself throwing that hot potato right back as we talked about last week.   But in this week's episode, Les...

Attunement- a word often used in attachment parenting, or conscious parenting, about tuning into your child's feelings.   What is not often talked about is how attuning can often bring up uncomfortable or unresolved feelings inside of you, feelings you have organized your life not to feel.   Tune into this week's podcast to hear more about the energy of those feelings and what happens when you cat...

This week's podcast wraps up a 4 part series we've been working through over the last few weeks- about The Origins of Mom-guilt! We talked about true cooperation versus demanding compliance, how to be with the heat of rage, and the heaviness of disappointment, and this week we are turning to another feeling that you most likely don't like! But any time you don't want to feel a feeling- you have to...

We've been working through some of the energetic dynamics that show up in your parenting. Cooperations vs Compliance, the Energetics of Rage, and this week we are going to take a closer look at what happens when you get disappointed in your parenting.  You know this, yeah? How you promise you will do better, be better- not yell, or force, that you will get the kids to listen.  And then it doesn't...

Red hot rage! Do you know about this?   When you ask your child to do something and they say 'NO'!   Whew! It can be so intense to feel anger and rage in the face of your child.   And yet that fire is there. You might yell, scream, raise your voice or lash out.   Tune into this week's episode to hear more about how to work with the energetics of rage in your parenting.   www.purejoyparenting.com

More than likely you want your child to cooperate, yeah? And what happens when they don't? If they say no? Do you get frustrated? Demand? Seek for their compliance? It can be a lot! In this week's episode, Leslie talks about what supports a cooperative spirit in children, and what doesn't. Hear about ways to recognize where you might be holding a hidden agenda, and how to work with what arises in...