Parenting for the Culture

One question Charisse always gets is "How do I get my child to listen?" It seems to be a common theme amongst parents. Even our friends over at The Mama's Den have had that problem. One has to ask, is listening really the problem? There is a question that Charisse really hears when a parent asks her how to get their little ones to listen and it has nothing to do with listening and everything to do...

Welcome back friends! We are on the third installment of the P-E-A-C-E-F-U-L Parenting method, and this week we're back this week with letters "U & L"! (Click for Part 1 , Part 2 & Part 3 ) We've heard you've needed all the parenting tips and Charisse is ready to help! One common issue that keeps coming up is that "I just don't know where to start!" For the final two letters in the series Charisse...

Welcome back friends! We are on the third installment of the P-E-A-C-E-F-U-L Parenting method, and this week we're back this week with letters "E &F"! (Click for Part 1 & Part 2 ) We've heard you've needed all the parenting tips and Charisse is ready to help! One common issue that keeps coming up is that "I just don't know where to start!" In the next two letters in the series Charisse breaks down...

Welcome back friends! Last week we gave you the first two letters (click here if you missed it) of the P-E-A-C-E-F-U-L Parenting method, and this week we're back this week with letters "A &C"! We've heard you've needed all the parenting tips and Charisse is ready to help! One common issue that keeps coming up is that "I just don't know where to start!" In the next two letters in the series Chariss...

Welcome back friends! We've heard you've needed all the parenting tips and Charisse is ready to help! One common issue that keeps coming up is that "I just don't know where to start!" Look, that's valid. It seems like these days everyone has a different definition of what exactly gentle parenting is, AND Charisse isn't here to say that her way is the only way! But if you're a parent looking for a...

Have you ever told someone exactly what you wanted for Christmas? Like you sent them pictures, your size, maybe you even sent the direct link to buy it? Then when Christmas rolled around and you opened up your gift that you were absolutely positive was the thing you wanted  you were stunned to find something completely different? We as adults have mastered the art (for the most part) of finding a...

It's December and for a lot of us it's the start of the panic of the Holiday season! Charisse is here to help lighten the load. First on our mind are those perfect holiday pictures. It is hard getting all six of the little ones ready to take that photo to send out in the holiday card. What do we need to do as parents and caregivers to prepare our children (and ourselves) to make that experience an...

Hi Friends! Charisse is back from the Black Love Weekend and she is feeling replenished! But how does that turn into Thanksgiving tips for you and your little heavens? Well it's all about having a seat at the table. Listen in as Charisse shares what you can do to help your children feel included this Thanksgiving and all holiday season! If you have a question you need Charisse to answer Fill out o...

Shame has been weighing heavily on Charisse after she caught a clip from the 2021 Black Love Summit (make sure you get your tickets to our 2022 Summit right now!) where Bre discussed how shame from her childhood had affected her relationship with her partner as an adult. As parents we often use shame as a way to try to teach our children right or wrong, but does it really accomplish that? Listen i...

Halloween is only a few days away and look if you don't have a costume for your little heavens, Charisse can't help you. What she DOES have tips for is navigating the chaos that is the Halloween experience. The sounds, the exercise, the SUGAR! There is so much stimulation that if you don't go into the day with a game plan you are going to get had. We've got your back parents!  Planning for Hallowe...

Wellness. We all have heard the word. We all know we need some sort of wellness in our life, even though we don't have any sort of grasp on it. But as parents we know that we need to model better behaviors for our kids so we are out here TRYING. Which is why Charisse was so excited to talk to David Wasicki, CTNC.  David is a girl dad of a toddler, the General Manager of Black Love Inc, a fellow po...

I CAN'T CALM DOWN!  If you're a parent there's a good chance one of your little heavens has yelled this at one point or another, and if you're like any normal human being you were probably frustrated at the jump. You probably told them to breathe or to "just calm down" or try to take a walk.  As adults with fully formed frontal lobes, we often forget that children do not have all the tools and exp...

Children are just tiny humans. Just like us, they need boundaries to help understand how to function within the family. But if it was that easy you wouldn't be here at your wits end trying to figure out how to set them! Look, it's hard. Especially if your children are a bit older and you're trying to teach them boundaries while unteaching them another behavior that they know and love. This week Ch...

Yasmine Jameelah is entrepreneur, journalist, and wellness advocate through her Transparent & Black platforms, but she's also somebody's child. Today she shares with Charisse what her childhood looked like and what led her to her current successes.  From being raised in the Christian and Muslim faiths and how her parents gave her the space to explore, to how her faith has been key in shaping her w...

Do your kids know your name? Your full name? Not mama or daddy or mama Charisse but your government name? It sounds silly, but an incident that Charisse witnessed as she was dropping off her youngest children at school brought the thought of safety right to the front of her mind. As parents, we like to think that our children would know what to do if they were ever in trouble, but they're kids! It...

Y'all there are BIG developments in the Sims house! The littlest littles are all in public school!!! That's right the twins and the 7year old have all gone off to full school and Charisse is feeling some type of way.  If you're wondering how she got to this point, you're not alone. A LOT of mamas in her mama community have asked the same thing. Where do you even start to have the conversation of w...

Tell us if you've heard this story: we're out with the kids and we've had the BEST. DAY. EVER. We did all the best things, you know this is one of those experiences that will live in their little memory banks forever  and it has definitely filled our hearts knowing that we have been able to to provide that for our kids. But then, it all changes. Yelling, screaming, kicking, the works. How did it a...

Parents are you wondering when your kids are going to stop unlocking that door and wandering out the house? Unbuckling that car seat? Getting into that cabinet?  Spilling all the juice on the floor cause they think it's fun? Well, we got some bad news for you. They're probably not going to fully stop (not for a while anyway), BUT there is hope! Listen in as Charisse explains just what impulse cont...

Does your child struggle with new experiences? Maybe they just like to hang on to you?  We know it's hard to understand why everyone else's children seem to adapt to new experiences head on while yours is hesitant, but it's OKAY. There's a very good chance your child is just slow to warm. Listen in as Charisse breaks down what a slow to warm child is, what you can do if you have a slow to warm chi...

Gentle parenting is a generational change for most of us, but we all have that one person who just doesn't get it. It might be a partner, a sibling, grandparents, etc. When you've made the decision to engage in gentle parenting sometimes pulling along the rest of the family is... well it's hard. This week, Charisse shares the struggles she's had with getting her husband on board (spoiler alert: it...

Community is everything. As a Black woman who is married to a Black man, and raising Black children, Charisse has come to value her community of Black mothers more than one would realize. Today, Charisse shares why finding community as Black parents is critical to being a good parent. ====== This month the groundbreaking series Black Love Doc is back for one final season. Black Love means the worl...

Who here has had their kid(s) pout when they have to turn off the TV? Did they throw a fit when you told them that they couldn't go to the park? Maybe they started crying in the store when they found out that they weren't going to get that toy they wanted even though they really really wanted it. All of these reactions are signs of our little ones experiencing disappointment. While we know our ins...

Charisse's friend has a problem. Her niece has experienced a lot of trauma and has been spoiled and is manipulative to get her way! Charisse's friend is at her wits end trying to figure out what to do here. Listen, there is a lot going on here, but if you've ever had to deal with someone else's spoiled child this is for you. There is so much meaning behind the word "manipulative" and Charisse is h...

Ever have your twins stick each others tongues in their mouths? Is your child slapping you for no apparent reason? Trying to figure out when to set boundaries with your children? You are not alone! Charisse is answering some listener questions this week! If you have a question you need Charisse to answer Fill out our form .  Don't forget to connect with Charisse @charissesims If you learned someth...

As parents, we are constantly wondering Is our child good? Are they developing how they should be? Are they gifted? There are so many factors that come into play when making sure our children are on the right track. Even though Charisse is an educator, she's still a mama of 6 and even she has questions. This week Charisse breaks down what she has seen in her own children and some tips for you if y...