Parenting Beyond Discipline

When toddlers & kids set boundaries, it can often come across as rude and off-putting. Believe or not, many times kids are actually setting healthy boundaries for themselves, just not using the best skillset! In this episode I discuss what healthy boundaries for kids sound like and what areas are common and healthy to support, so you can make room to allow for them while guiding them to use be...

If you want to learn one simple tool, that builds healthy self-esteem, a growth mindset, a sense of independence & responsibility, and improves cooperation, for kids of all ages, this is a not-to-miss episode! This is my favorite tool because it does so much and it's so simple! Episode Sponsor: https://www.littlespoon.com CODE: PARENTING50 for 50% off your first order! IG: @yourvillageonli...

Toddlers aren't the only ones who have big feelings. Kids of all ages and adults too, have big feelings. Emotional competence is the key to managing these feelings in positive ways. Emotional competence or intelligence is the a keystone to a life of happiness and success. So helping our kids develop this is a huge gift. Learn the 4 key parts to emotional competence and how to improve them in y...

Toddler behavior can be overwhelming and even baffling. In this episode I share some basics of toddler behavior so you can more easily decode it, as well as ideas for improvement. Once we can decode it, we can make a plan for improvement. But we have to take several factors into consideration. Learn what these factors are, tools for decoding toddler behavior and ideas for improving behavior throug...

A healthy for personal growth and goals is a good thing, while perfectionism is push to be and do everything perfectly, an impossible standard. Perfectionism often comes from a fear of judgement and research shows perfectionism is far more nurture than nature. In this episode I cover how to support kids in developing a healthy mindset in setting and striving for goals without spilling over into th...

The more capable our kids become, the easier it is on us and them too! Here are 4 common areas I see parents waiting or avoiding teaching independence that can cause a lot of frustration throughout their parenting journey and leave their kids lacking skills that will help them live happier more successful lives. I cover ways to allow and guide children to learn these valuable skills. Support this...

These are 4 common expectations that can cause a lot of frustration for parents. But armed with the right information, these can be a lot easier to manage. In this episode I cover these 4 very common expectations and what to do for each so you don't have to struggle through them. sponsor: talkspace.com Use code: PARENTING website: www.yourvillageonline.com IG: @yourvillageonline FB: https://ww...

Frustration in parenting is normal. But with some tools we can eliminate or minimize a lot of it, leaving more room for joy and connection. In this episode I cover 6 different ways you can address the frustrating moments so you can rise above, making yourself much more effective in problem solving and teaching. This has a positive effect in how kids react, creating better habits and behaviors goin...

Media is everywhere. It's almost impossible to avoid. Are there some pitfalls and dangers? Of course, just like any other area of life. This is a quickly evolving landscape and it's only going to evolve faster. We can both protect our kids and teach them good online choices and still allow them the opportunity to benefit from all the positive aspects. In this episode, I cover the many ways...

Did you know you have an emotional bank account for every relationship? We have different accounts with each of our kids, our partner, friends, our own parents, colleagues... In this episode Erin talks about the concept of the emotional bank account and how when we keep them in a good positive balance how it can pay big dividends. Learn how to assess each account and add uniquely to the account yo...

Is your toddler, child or teen sometimes bossy, controlling, throws attitude or tries to get their way by communicating in ways you don't like? If you want to raise strong, independent children who know how to advocate for their wants and needs in respectful ways, this episode is for you! Raise kids that use emotionally skillful and mature communication with the steps covered in this episode w...

Do you wonder how you can allow your child the room to discover and be their true selves and still be respectful & cooperative too? In this continuation from episode #290 where I shared how to set up positive open-ended expectations, in this episode I share how to set up an environment where kids are not just allowed but encouraged to advocate for their own needs, goals and autonomy in ways th...

Emotional intelligence gives us and our kids freedom to choose how we want to show up in the world. Emotional intelligence is such an important attribute to develop early in life. But most of us didn't have this kind of upbringing ourselves. So having the tools to help our kids develop this is something we practice and learn. The earlier we can help our kids with this, the easier it is for the...

Does your toddler or child have a lot of big ideas, a light that shines bright and a lot of spirit? Are you trying to figure out how to best make space for these bigger than life attributes but still setup expectations of respect and cooperation? Believe it or not, these can go hand in hand beautifully with the right combination of freedom and more open-ended expectations. This episode covers some...

School shootings are nothing new. As parents we can feel so powerless when the issue continues with little to progress on programs and policy. In this episode, I cover the basics of talking to kids. But beyond that, I share how you and your kids can do more to keep everyone safer at school. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/parenting-beyond-discipline/exclusive-content Advertising In...

Co-dependence is rampant in modern society, with studies showing 90-96% of adults exhibit some level of co-dependence. Because children do need parents to varying degrees throughout childhood, it can be difficult to parse out healthy parent-child connection to when it spills over to co-dependent patterns. Since most adults have experienced some level of co-dependence in their own childhood, it&#39...

Co-dependence is rampant, with studies showing 90-96% of adults exhibit some level of co-dependence. Because children do need parents to varying degrees throughout childhood, it can be difficult to parse out healthy parent-child connection to when it spills over to co-dependent patterns. Since most adults have experienced some level of co-dependence in their own childhood, it's hard to always...

As parents, we get the opportunity to teach our kids what we wish we knew earlier in life. Starting with the foundation of positive discipline, we can break unhealthy relationship cycles. Once this foundation is in place, we can move beyond to breaking or even preventing other unhealthy cycles that would otherwise hold them back. Imagine where you will see your child go in life and what a gift you...

Allowing the voices of shame to have power can hold us back from fully showing up for ourselves and others in our lives. What if we could help our kids learn how to mitigate shame from their earliest days so they don't have to struggle and suffer? Learn how shame shows up from our earliest days, what it looks like in kids, how to approach your kids with compassion when they are dealing with sh...

Shame comes from feeling "not enough" and is often perpetuated by beliefs in societal norms that are misguided and dangerous. All parents are susceptible to parenting shame but the pressure moms feel to be perfectly present and connected is especially strong. Shame often gets in the way of us being present in all of our relationships, with ourselves, our children, our partners and beyond....

Research shows girls self-esteem peaks at age 9 and that boys self-esteem has also fallen in recent decades. The reasons are varied but there is a lot that parents can do to foster a strong baseline for self-esteem in their children starting in infancy. This episode is chalk full of tips and information to avoid common pitfalls that well-meaning parents often fall into that can actually damage sel...

Here are 2 of the 5 most common parenting myths and some fixes that Erin helps parents untangle every day. Unfounded belief systems can keep us trapped in fear and therefore from being the confident leader and guiding force we would like to be for our kids. After uncovering the truth about these first 2 myths, she shares some tips to get you started in approaching these situations in ways that are...

The last episode of a 3 part series on parenting styles, where Erin covers the latest parenting styles that have evolved in the last several decades. Are there new things science and society has learned that we should be incorporating? What do kids of today need that past generations did not? What things should we be incorporating into our parenting that will benefit the future for our kids? Suppo...

New parenting styles have been evolving and emerging over the past 30 years. Learn about life skills our children need for confidence, success and happiness that are missing from some of the modern styles and how to make sure you are preparing your children with those skills. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/parenting-beyond-discipline/exclusive-content Advertising Inquiries: https:...

Parenting style greatly affects our children's motivation and initiative, confidence and self-esteem, and long term happiness and success in relationships. But parenting styles have evolved significantly over the past 100 years. We've even seen rises (and some declines) in newer styles. How do we know what is best for our family and child in the world we live in and the future they need to...