Own Your Pleasure

Show Notes: In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, your host Whitni Miller and this month’s esteemed guest, Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the concept of flow state sex, exploring how individuals can enhance their sexual experiences by fostering mindfulness, presence, and connection with their partners. The discussion delves into the differences between 'good enough' sex and flow state sex, emphasizing th...

In this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communicati...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation...

In this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlight...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and findin...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and tr...

00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure 01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships 04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics 12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink 15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships 22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires 25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex 30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Commu...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kin...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai empha...

In this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encou...

00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler 00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) 00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship 00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM 00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles 00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves 00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigatin...

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Ash and Dawn Noble, founders of Queer Couples Academy, to explore the intricacies of queer intimacy and relationship dynamics. They discuss the PACT model of therapy, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and how vulnerability plays a crucial role in building secure connections. The conversation delves into the im...

00:00:00 Introduction: Celebrating Queer Pleasure 00:01:28 Breaking Stereotypes: Queer Women and Pleasure 00:05:36 Challenging Internalized Misogyny in the Queer Community 00:19:50 Embracing Pleasure-Centered Sex 00:27:53 The Need for Authentic Representation in Porn 00:33:46 Debunking the Myth of 'Lesbian Bed Death' 00:37:27 The Lack of Open Conversations Among Women 00:41:53 Consent and Abuse 00...

00:00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions   00:01:23:01 Heather's Journey into Pelvic Floor Therapy & Sex Counseling 00:05:19:15 The Intersection of Pelvic Floor Therapy and Sex Counseling 00:08:24:12 Addressing the Bio Psychosocial Aspects of Sexual Health   00:10:23:07 What is Pelvic Floor Therapy and Who is it for? 00:16:30:20 Passive Tightness vs Having Control of the Pelvic F...

00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions   02:06:21 What is Kink?   03:49:17 Conscious Kink   06:39:04 Communication   07:59:11 Exploring Power Dynamics in Kink Relationships   12:18:25 Creating a Safe and Expansive Kink Experience   26:20:23 Attunement & the Importance of Slowing Down & Being Present   37:24:26 The Healing Power of Kink   45:06:01 The P...

In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Cooper Stone, a queer non-binary somatic sex educator and certified sexological body worker. Cooper specializes in working with individuals exploring their sexual orientation, gender identity, and recovering from religious shame around physical intimacy. They discuss the concept of pleasure and how it can be found in various ways, not just through sex...

In this episode, Whitni interviews Dr. Vencill & Dr Lauren Fogel Mersy diving deeply into desire discrepancies & pulling on pieces from their phenomenal book, Desire: An inclusive guide to navigating libido differences in relationships. You can reach out to Whitni through her website bde-moves.com where you can book a call, grab her socials, & so much more.   Below please read abo...

Dr. Lynda Spann is the founder of the Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI). Lynda and her wife, Lisa Yaeger, live in the Denver, Colorado area. LCI, which she founded in 2018, offers personal in person therapy and online coaching to lesbian couples by a lesbian couple. Lynda’s parents were Baptist missionaries from Texas, however she was born and raised in Uruguay, South America. She spent her childhoo...

In this episode Whitni interviews Brittany Shultz about her experience discovering her sexuality & the winding road that lead to her stepping into her full authentic self. A little about Brittany: Brittany is a bright light in the world with so much vibrance, energy, & love that she exuberantly shares with everyone around her. She's done a ton of hard work on herself over the years and cam...

Welcome to our very first Episode of Own Your Pleasure Podcast with BDE Moves, aka Whitni Miller. In this episode we talk to Dr. Nikki about sex & relationships. ABOUT Dr Nikki: She is a licensed psychologist with a diverse set of talents. Her expertise includes being a diversity, equity, and inclusion consultant and trainer; writer; podcaster; public speaker; and therapist. She is a Black wom...