Overcome the Overwhelm for Special Needs Moms

Our lives are full of things that drain us, and things that give us life, give us energy. In this MVP episode, I share a list of common, sneaky energy drainers that we often don't realize are leading us to exhaustion. We dive into how to recognize them, and how you can add more Energy Givers into your life.

As a special needs mom, wanting a break can feel complicated. It’s not just about logistics. It’s not just about finding someone “qualified enough.” A lot of the time, it’s the fear underneath it all—the fear of something going wrong, the fear that no one could possibly care for your child the way you do. In this episode, I’m talking about why building a “village” is often less about other people...

Most New Year’s plans fail for one simple reason: They ignore your actual life. Resolutions are built on fantasy—who you wish you were, how you hope you’ll feel, what you think should matter. It actually uses your real life as data . What worked last year? What didn’t? What cost you more than it gave you? When it comes to moving your life forward and making the next year better than the last, that...

✨ Book your Holiday Overwhelm Reset Session: https://calendly.com/laurennialowery/reset This week, we’re talking about holiday overwhelm -- why it feels so intense, why it sneaks up on you every year, and why cutting your to-do list never actually solves it. There is a sneaky cause underneath all the stress… and it’s probably not the one you think. In this episode, I break down what’s really goin...

If you've ever faced a problem in your life that feels too big, too heavy, too expensive, too impossible — and your brain keeps taking you on that downward spiral of misery and overwhelm — then this episode is for you. Because let’s be honest: Most of the time, the problem isn’t what takes us out. It’s the spiral that follows. In this episode, I’m talking about how to face (and SOLVE) any problem...

Something has been bothering me about the holiday season… and I finally said it out loud in this episode. Everywhere we turn, there’s this pressure to make everything look perfect. The cozy decorations, the perfect gifts, participating in the never-ending festivities and holiday parties, the matching pajamas, the “magical” memories perfectly curated for Instagram and Facebook… And if you’re a spec...

This week’s Coaching Hotline episode dives into one of our listener's struggles, that so many special needs moms are very familiar with. This listener is navigating a mentally grueling job, chronic illness, evenings on her own with her kids, and the crushing feeling of “I’m too tired for anything.” If you’ve ever felt like you’re running on fumes and still expected to meet everyone’s needs, this e...

Link to book a consult call: https://lowerylifecoaching.com/consultcall/ ******* If you’ve been wishing and waiting for life to magically get easier… for someone to notice you’re drowning… for the stress to finally ease up... This one’s for you. 💛 In this episode, I'm sharing an uncomfortable truth that changed my entire life when I learned it. It's the wake-up call you might be needing.

As special needs moms, it is so common for us to be awaiting the next bad thing, the next illness, the next hospitalization... the other shoe to drop... when things are going smoothly. In this episode, we dive into the ways this mentality shows up, and how it is doubling our stress and keeping us from being present in the moment.

Is there really one “right” therapy? Or are we just drowning in Google searches, hoping to crack the magical code that will lead to our child finally hitting that big milestone like walking, talking, or finally sleeping through the dang night? So many of us special needs moms fall into the trap of thinking there’s one golden-ticket treatment out there. That if we research hard enough, fight hard e...

When the world feels like it’s on fire, and your personal life isn’t far behind, it can feel wrong to let yourself be… happy. Like, how dare you enjoy your iced coffee or laugh at your kid’s ridiculous dance moves when there are real, hard things going on around you? In this episode, we’re talking about that sneaky guilt that creeps in when you try to feel good in the middle of the chaos—and why i...

When it comes to advocating for our children, the constant fight can end up exhausting us as special needs parents. In this episode, I share 3 secrets to making advocacy easier and more effective.

Ever feel like no matter how much rest you get, you're still running on fumes? In this episode, I'm sharing the secret behind what's happening when our rest and self-care just isn't doing the trick (or lasting very long at all). We talk about the kinds of "leaks" that drain special needs moms the most (hint: it’s not just about being busy), how to spot them, and what you can do to start plugging t...

If you're looking back at the past 12 months thinking, “This year has been out of control!” then you are not alone, my friend.  In this episode, I’m sharing a simple (but insanely powerful) exercise that helps you see exactly where you do have control in life , even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment.  I’m walking you through a perspective shift that’ll help you: Stop feeling like life is ju...

Most of us had dreams for our kids before they were even born. We pictured their first steps. School days. Sleepovers. Maybe even a wedding one day. We imagined the kind of life they’d have, and the kind of mom we’d get to be. And when the diagnosis came, and the delays didn’t go away… When the future got blurry instead of bright and predictable…. It hurts . Like, gut-punch, can’t-catch-your-breat...

Do you ever feel like the good moments fly by while the hard ones drag on? This episode is all about slowing down to make the most out of the good moments in life through a practice called Savoring. This is a powerful (and surprisingly simple) tool from positive psychology that helps you slow down and fully experience the joy that’s already in your life. Studies have shown that the practice of sav...

Do you ever feel guilty for resting, saying no, or taking time for yourself? Ever avoid conflicts because you want to just “keep the peace”? Or maybe you’ve found yourself making sure everyone around you is happy and comfortable, even when it means you are not. If so, you might be dealing with Good Mom Syndrome … and you’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into the subtle (but powerful) ways so...

BOOK YOUR CONSULT CALL: https://calendly.com/laurennialowery/30min *********** How many times have you completely spiraled over something like forgetting pajama day at school, giving meds a little late, or a comment that stranger made about your child… only to realize a week later that it did not matter. At all.  As special needs moms, we face hard and heavy shit every single day. And our brains a...

We let other people's opinions dictate what clothes we wear, the cars we drive, and ultimately how we see ourselves. Most of us have been running our lives like someone’s watching and judging 24/7. But what if you dropped the performance and just decided to like yourself ? Like, on purpose? In this episode, we're talking about how our self-image (how we see ourselves) is often sneakily shaped by h...

Some thoughts feel so true, they might as well be facts, thoughts like “Other families have it easier" or "This isn't fair." But even the truest thoughts can quietly drain your energy, spiral your emotions, and make hard days feel even heavier. In this episode, I show you how to recognize the sneaky difference between a thought that’s true and one that’s actually helpful. Because sometimes, the tr...

For special needs moms and medical moms managing pending test results, referrals, or diagnosis delays- this episode is for you... Do you ever feel like you're stuck waiting for something, like that test results, a referral, an appointment, some kind of answer, before you can exhale or move forward? In this episode, we’re talking about what I call “waiting mode”- that stuck, suspended state so...

We ask ourselves questions all day long. Questions like... Why can't I get my shit together? Why am I like this? Why is this happening to me? But these dead-end questions usually just end up going no where, or at least no where good. In this episode, I'm sharing the top 5 questions that I use in my own self-coaching that have transformed who I am and how I show up in the world. These quest...

When was the last time you felt truly happy- not just okay, not just surviving, but alive and at peace ? In this episode, I’m walking you through a simple but powerful exercise, called The Happiness Audit, to help you figure out what’s draining your energy, what actually brings you joy, and how to create small, doable shifts to feel better right now. You don’t need a whole new life to feel happier...

Let’s get real for a sec. What do you do when your brain is hyperfocused on your child’s appearance- and not in the “she’s so cute I could cry” kind of way? In this episode, I respond to a mom who’s caught in an anxiety spiral about her daughter’s facial features after surgery. Despite reassurance from doctors and her partner, her brain keeps ruminating over every detail and whispering unhelpful t...

One of the most powerful things I’ve learned (and coach clients on all the time) is this: ✨You get to decide what’s worth your energy. -Not based on what makes other people more comfortable.-Not based on how “good moms” are supposed to act.-Not even based on what you used to care about. You’re allowed to care deeply about what actually matters to you …and let the rest go. In this episode, I’m sha...