Out There on the Edge of Everything®

Episode 114 – What is confidence? According to  Psychology Today , Confidence “is a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life’s challenges and to succeed—and the willingness to act accordingly. Being confident requires a realistic sense of one’s capabilities and feeling secure in that knowledge.” “A big component of confidence is being empowered.” Stephen L...

Episode 113 –  I was recently reading a book by Dan Millman, entitled “ The Four Purposes of Life .” In this book Dan is discussing the difference between a  career  and a  calling . On page 57 day Dan says, “ Many high achievers have been pushed to the top of their professional ladders by social pressures or parental expectations, only to discover that the ladder was lea...

Episode 112 – Most people agree that stress is bad for your physical and your mental health. Stress affects your ability to  concentrate  and typically leaves you in a  fearful  dis-empowered state. However, recent studies have also shown that “ freak out stress ” may actually be good for your health! What is “freak out stress?”  Is it really good for you? Are you willing...

Episode 111 – What do you want to create in your life? Do you want to create a new life story? What gets you into a creative flow to create a new life story? It is a connection to your  Higher-Self . Tune into your  Higher-Self  to enter a creative flow to create a new origin story for your life. So how do you change your origin story into something new? Changing the narrative of your origin...

Episode 110 – There is a new show on the National Geographic channel entitled:  Edge of the Unknown with Jimmy Chin The tag line for the show is: “ The world’s greatest adventurers share stories of confronting the unknown .” My blog post and podcast channel is: Out there on the Edge of Everything®. From my first blog post and podcast I have talked about edges. You don’t have a surf an 80 foo...

Episode 109 – Mathematicians suggest you use the  37% rule  for the biggest decisions you make in your life. What is the 37% rule? Simply put, when faced with 100 different options, you should select and discard the first 37 then continue your selections stopping at the first option that is better than what you have selected so far. You can adjust the math for the number of options...

Episode 108 – Let me share another true story with you. A number of years back, I enrolled in a scuba class with a bunch of friends from work at a YMCA in the suburbs of Chicago.  After being certified, I went with a friend to dive in a quarry. The water was dark and cold and the visibility was poor. Diving into the dark depths of a quarry, I descended so fast I was completely disoriented. ...

Episode 107 – Have you ever planned something fun or important and then decided not to follow through on your plans because of a change in circumstances?  Are you able to follow through and finish what you start even if the change in circumstances if very challenging? Let me tell you another true story. Many years ago, my friends and I decided to have a barbecue on a Labor Day Monday on Brad...

Episode 106 – Do you ever feel like you are being weighed down or anchored in place by your own life circumstances? Would you rather pull up your anchor and set sail to experience some new adventures? “ A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for .”  Admiral Grace Hopper Thinking about being weighed down reminded me of something I did a few summers ago. Do you...

Episode 105 – Are you truly responsible for your own decisions? Or do you blame others for what happens in your life? Do you feel that something else or someone else is in control of your life? Do you always feel like you are victim? Being responsible in your own life depends on your  state of responsibility . “Your state of responsibility is a reflection of your current emotional state, you...

EPISODE 104 – There is an old saying attributed to Carl Jung , the famous Swiss psychiatrist: “ What you resist, persists .” Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist Is a person, event or circumstance in your life causing an emotional trigger in you and causing you to experience, pain, anger, fear, guilt, anxiety or other negative emotions? Is your resisting to resolving the situation, trig...

Episode 103 – Let me tell you another true story. Some friends of mine decided to try skydiving a short while ago for the first time. The skydiving school my friends went to offers static line jumps . Unlike tandem jumps where you are strapped to another jumper, with static line jumps you jump by yourself. For a static line jump, your parachute is hooked up to the airplane by a strap.  ...

Episode 102 An intersection is defined as “a point where two lines or curves meet.” An intersection of two lines is “a point where the two lines cross each other.”  There are many types of intersections and intersection points in your life. Intersections in your life are also places where you need to make choices. Intersection points in your life include the ability to make both positive...

Episode 101 Let me share a true story with you. When I was going to graduate school, I was working part-time as a bartender.  These rules for serving alcohol to the public in bars and taverns represented a set of legal “ boundaries .” These legal boundaries are similar to our own personal boundaries. Boundaries   include a set of beliefs which include rules and principles you l...

Podcast 100 — I have thinking about what I was going to say for this podcast, which is number 100 for me. My first blog post and podcast I did, number 1 , was on the concept of change and the chaos of the energy of change. I also wrote an e-book on successfully handling change that is occurring in your life you can download for free at slesavich.com . Unwanted change includes a breakup, divo...

Episode 99 Trust  is defined as “ an instinctive, unquestioning belief in, faith in and reliance upon, something   for which a desired outcome is not certain .” When an outcome in any life situation you are facing is uncertain and includes circumstances beyond what you can control, you must have  trust. Trust has never been more important than in this period of unwanted change . Tru...

Episode 98 Moving forward in your life, sometimes requires you to literally walk backwards. Walking backwards may actually improve the way your brain functions. According to Harvard Medical School “A study published in the January 2019 issue of Cognition found that people who actually walked backward, imagined they were walking backward, or even watched a video simulating backward motion, had...

Episode 97 Just about every time I hear an interview on television by some politician, the politician starts off by saying something like  “under the leadership of ” or “ under my leadership ” here is what we are doing or trying to accomplish.  At the same time many of the politicians also claim they “ are not responsible ” or “ have no responsibility ” for what is going on or the action...

Episode 96 To maintain my law license I am required to take 30 hours of Continuing Legal Education (CLE’s) to keep up on recent changes in the law. I was watching a CLE video where I heard something interesting. The instructor in that CLE video said, the average person with average concentration and an average attention span hears only about 60% of all the words that are said to them and the...

Episode 95 The words you use on a regular basis create an energetic point of attraction in your life. Is it possible that by reciting combinations of words, you can create new energetic point of attraction in your life? How about in the life of a person you may direct your combination of words to? There is some additive effect on the vibrational frequency of saying combinations of positive words....

Episode 94 Just like in a basketball game with a 3 point arc, in a 3 greater than 2 risk environment, your life is defined by a set of life arcs. Your set of life arcs includes a major life arc and multiple minor life arcs. Your major life arc and minor life arcs define a set of behavioral constructs that predict how you will react to the situations you encounter in your daily life. Inside your ma...

Episode 93 Let me share another true story with you.  About a nun with a yardstick with a metal edge used for behavior modification. Behavior modification is defined as a process of changing patterns of human behavior over period of time using motivational techniques. If there is some behavior pattern in your own life you need to change, considering doing it with positive reinforcement. Posit...

Episode 92 As an athletic coach who is coaching middle distance and long distance runners, I am required to undergo  CPR  training  and renew that training every two years. CPR is a simple but very effective lifesaving procedure to preserve a person’s brain physically when they are in cardiac arrest. My CPR training as an athletic coach made me thing about something as a life coach....

Episode 91 Contrast  is a necessary component of personal growth and shifting emotions.  You actually live your life based on the contrasts you experience in it. You can’t know what you do want unless you know what you don’t want. Contrast causes you to clarify your preferences very precisely, so you get to decide what you do prefer and act on those preferences.  So if you do not wa...

Episode 90 Let me tell you another true story.  In addition to being a life and business coach, I am an athletic coach. As I have I discussed in other podcast episodes, I am a runner myself.  I was formerly a member of the AT&T corporate running team and even ran fast enough to win a large road race. I also coach distance runners.  I have been coaching cross country and middle a...