O'talkin' with Dave

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard someone complain about something that really hit you as "if that is all you have to complain about, you've got it pretty good?"  Yeah, me too... Americans complain. A lot. We complain about traffic, Wi-Fi, waiting in line at a coffee shop that has 40 drink options and three types of oat milk. And while we’re complaining, most of us are doing it w...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself disturbed by someone's behavior when it is absolutely predictable and expected?  Yeah, me too... There’s a strange little trap we fall into as human beings. We get frustrated, angry, jealous, hurt, disappointed, or even depressed by the behavior of people who are completely predictable. They do the same thing. They say the same things. They react...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever known someone who has made it through a BATTLE and WON, but talks about the tough times more than the VICTORY?  Yeah, me too... Why do so many people fight like hell to win…and then live like they lost? If you’re going to focus more on the struggle than the win...why win at all? Join Dave for some VICTORIOUS talk about: The Psychology of the Struggle Five Reasons We...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever just had the feeling like something good is about to happen?  Yeah, me too... Have you ever said that to yourself? Not because anything specific happened. Not because you got the call, the deal, the opportunity, or the breakthrough. Just a quiet thought… I just feel like something good is about to happen. Join Dave for some positive thoughts about: 5 ways to pull pos...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever noticed that what we FOCUS on IMPROVES?  Yeah, me too... Not because the universe is magical. Because the human brain is obedient. Join Dave for some FOCUS on: Why focus works - Human nature and focus Real-life focus blindness Why specificity matters The Olympic-Level Purple Car The Science Behind FOCUS Results of focusing on the wrong things Benefits of focusing on...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like EVENTS are controlling you instead of the other way around?  Yeah, me too... Stress isn’t just about what happens to you.  It’s about who’s in charge when it happens. Join Dave for some STRESS RELIEVING jargon about: Stress is a measurement, not a mystery Freedom, Control, Resolve: the stress filter Even strong people give up control. Here’s how. 5 ways str...

Send us Fan Mail Do you believe that whether you think you CAN or CAN'T, you're right?  Yeah, me too... You can have the plan. You can have the skills. You can execute cleanly. And still fall short. Join Dave for some MINDFUL talk about: The five essentials of success at home, work, and play Why mindset outweighs everything else How mindset could’ve changed “almost-success” stories Why p...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever caught yourself thinking or doing something that you know is gonna piss you off?  Yeah, me to... Your mood is not just a feeling. It’s a feedback system. When you repeatedly feed it junk inputs, you don’t get “more informed” or “more prepared.”  You get more reactive. More tired. More convinced something is wrong with your life. Join Dave for some self provocation ar...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever feel like the world is hammering you with taxes, college funds, 401Ks, retirement, demand after demand and your like, "Come on man, I'm just trying to get through TODAY!!!" Join Dave to walk through ways to Plan, Prepare, and Protect your days from SWDs. Learn ways to get the most out of your day and the most out of yourself, without losing focus on the...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever INTENDED to do something, but didn't DECIDE to do it?  Yeah, me too... This is the 200th Podcast of O'talkin' with Dave.  We are downloaded in 53 Countries, 413 cities around the world, and to me that is unfreakinbelievable!!! I say things out loud that have helped and are helping me work through the maze of life more confidently, more efficiently, and...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever confused CHANGE with PROGRESS? Yeah, me too... Progress is one of those words everyone nods at and almost no one defines. We confuse it with change, movement, and activity. But those aren’t the same thing. Join Dave for some PROGRESSIVE talk about: Progress at Home, Work, and Play 5 Reasons Progress Matters in a Person’s Life or Career Progress Through the Lens of Fr...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard the expression that "big boys don't cry" and "there's no crying in baseball" or any other negative connotation about showing genuine emotion?  Yeah, me too... That phrase didn’t come from nowhere. It was forged in fields, factories, foxholes, and family tables where men were expected to carry weight quietly.  Join Dave for some TEA...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever gone to the grocery store without a shopping list and came home without something that you need?  Yeah, me too... Every year starts with hope, ambition, and at least thing that we give up on by  February.  And every year, most people don’t fail because they lack motivation. They fail because they never chose what actually matters . Join Dave for a TO-DO List that Mat...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever know people who couldn't or wouldn't make a decision? Yeah, me too... Every day starts the same way. Not with answers. With choices. Make the CHOICE to listen to Dave's words on: Five Ways to Choose Effectively Five Results of Letting Life or Others Choose for You The Benefits of Taking Control of Your Choices Clarity – Even hard paths feel lighter whe...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever met someone that was so afraid of CONFLICT that they missed out on LIFE?  Yeah, me too... Here’s the uncomfortable truth most of us spend a lifetime dodging - Life isn’t about avoiding conflict.  Life is conflict management. Join Dave for some thoughts on: Conflict Is the Price of Meaning Every Arena That Matters Has Conflict Baked In Five Areas Where Conflict Is Con...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been told that someone is "A GOOD PERSON" and you know better or you have trouble trusting people because you've been BURNED?  Yeah, me too... We throw the word good around like it’s obvious.  Good person.  Good man.  Good woman.  Good Christian.  Good leader. We say it with confidence, as if everyone agrees on the definition. Join Dave for some GOOD W...

Send us Fan Mail Have you every reviewed your email inbox and it was like a trip down memory lane?  Yeah, me too... Join Dave for a few dozen emails with feedback, questions, and some REVIEW of topics that people found helpful... Giddyup!!! Email David@Otalks.com or OWD@Otalks.com for comments, questions, or ideas for content on an upcoming O'talkin' with Dave podcast.  Otalks.com Check...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever noticed how animals on a farm are usually methodical and overall pretty happy?  Yeah, me too... I didn’t learn love from greeting cards or romantic comedies.  I learned it standing in mud, holding a gate, watching animals that had zero interest in my feelings and absolutely no problem telling the truth. Farm animals don’t read self-help books.  They live it. Loudly....

Send us Fan Mail Do you have friends or family that you truly LOVE, but haven't told them lately?  Yeah, me too... We act like love is a pie. One more slice for you means less for me. One more child means a favorite. One more friend means an enemy somewhere else. One more relationship means someone else gets shorted. That’s not love. That’s fear with better marketing. Join Dave for some LOVEL...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wanted something, but instead of getting it, you had to WAIT?  Yeah, me too... If you’re anything like me, WAIT feels like a four-letter word. Join Dave for some impatient talk about WAITING: The Problem With Hurry Five Things That Failed Because They Were Rushed Five Things That Succeeded Because Someone Waited Five Reasons to WAIT Five Ways to Know Waiting Is Neces...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever been called a name or label that was considered derogatory?  Yeah, me too... We live in a world where we love labels. We stick them on people fast, confidently, and usually without knowing much about them.  Join Dave for some unsophisticated sophistication about: Categories Happen Rednecks Hillbillies White Trash A Little Perspective What We Assume (Usually Wrong) Wh...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever anticipated something, been so close to it, but that last little bit drove you crazy?  Yeah, me too... There’s a strange stretch of calendar real estate wedged between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Some people treat it like a second childhood. Others treat it like a walk across a minefield. It’s joy for some, heaviness for others, and usually a mix of both for most. Jo...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever though some life changing even could never happen to you?  It's the kind of thing that only happens to other people?  Yeah, me too... We all walk around with a quiet superstition:  “These things happen to other people...not me.”  We say it with confidence, like we’ve been issued some private insurance policy against reality. Join Dave for some TIMBER TALK about:...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever laughed so hard that you wet yourself and or worse?  Yeah, me too... You ever notice how you don’t have to speak the same language to know something’s funny? A man slipping on ice  A dog wearing sunglasses  A fart in a crowded elevator  You could drop any of those moments into any country on Earth, and the reaction is instant: that quick inhale, that stifled snort, t...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever asked yourself questions about your life that the ANSWERS seemed elusive?  Yeah, me too... The questions we keep asking are the same ones we’ve always known. The difference is - the answers were never missing. We just stopped listening. Join Dave for some hints about the ANSWERS: 10 Questions We All Ask Ourselves The Truth About The Answers The Role of Peace, Clarity...