OneSharpSword

We have a problem when a group of people (at work, at home, in the community, in politics) agree that we have a problem. Until one person takes the role of “shepherd” the problem will remain a problem.   You’ll discuss it over and over. It’ll be the same stuff that comes up.   Until you get an accountable “I” - someone who will take responsibility for engaging others to help fix the prob...

Mindset matters more than anything else as it is the filter for everything… EVERYTHING.    From your relationship with your family or partner to your relationship with those at work and even your relationship with Spirit, your mindset allows you to open or shut out possibilities.   And that’s different from a Positive Mental Attitude.  It’s good to have that, and you need to ad...

Oh my gawwwwwwddddd… the whining is unbearable!!!   Wahhh… i can’t do that, I’m not readyyyyyy.   It’s such bulls**t. No one is ever good at something the first time out. You’ve garnered skills in other areas that you’ll apply to whatever it is.  You wobble when you learn to ride a bike. And then, with practice, you get good at it. It’s the forward momentum that keeps you uprig...

With so much going on and so many things you could say are important, how do you decide what to do first?   Think about all of the different things that could go into a picnic basket.  Only the essentials for a picnic actually make it in the basket.   Your day is your picnic basket and you’re the one in charge of what goes into it. Be deliberate. Eliminate unessential meetings. Take...

What got you here won’t get you there. It’s an old saying, and did you ever stop to think about that.   What got you here were all of your life’s experiences up to this point.   Now the questions are: Where is “there” - where are you heading and can you be deliberate about it? What do you need to do, to learn, or to obtain in order to get there? If you were packing for a vacation, you’d...

What “ should ” you be doing? What are you doing? What do you really want to be doing?   We have 24 hours in each day. And we have choice.   This is a gentle reminder that YOU are in control. Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for quick, fun, and inspirational mid-week reading.  www. WaynePernell.com/blog

Connie Jakab is a huge advocate for branching out and fighting against the status quo. I saw her speak and was enthralled as her message of mental health expands beyond the bounds of what people usually think when they hear that term.    She’s the director of community for Flourishing Life a global movement centered around wellness and she’s the senior manager of Wellness Innovate. &nbsp...

We have work to do. Noone wants to hear that and yet the TRUTH is that we need to be paying attention on multiple levels. The first place to start is with ourselves.    I Am Bigger Than My Current Life - that’s the ache that most people feel.    What would happen if you decided that you were actually in charge of your life?    Awareness leads to Choice and Choice lead...

One of my VIP clients recently asked me how to handle it when, in a social situation, the conversation turned to gossip and rumors about another mutual acquaintance who wasn’t present. He was uncomfortable and wanted to leave. His partner wanted to stay.   What would you do?   Upleveling IS hard. Staying where you are is comfortably uncomfortable.    I’m responsible for what I...

I’m a fourth-degree blackbelt in the art of Bushido - The Way of The Warrior.  So many people who start out in the martial arts just want the coveted black belt. They don’t realize that the black belt is simply a symbol of competence, and that it’s also a starting place. It’s the place from which mastery is born.   In leading yourself and others, you need to find a way to dive in deep, t...

Maybe you’re feeling a little overwhelmed right now. That’s normal, but the mountains of “stuff” that you’ve been carrying… you were meant to climb.   You need to be in control of your day, your week, your month, your quarter, and the rest of this year. Do that by looking at all of the “stuff” you’ve tried to carry from day to day. Look at where you’ve been putting your energy and recognize t...

It’s odd how people are uncomfortable with silence, isn’t it. What’s amazing is that when I work with teams and leaders, people start to squirm just a few seconds into a pause, a void of talking. By nine seconds, usually the leader has jumped in to say something.   That’s so unnecessary. Four seconds is enough to create safety, to show through your body language and your face that you’re list...

Yes, we all need a reminder - especially at this time of year: there are three “G” words that’ll make your days more powerful, effective, efficient and productive.   G is for Gratitude. Look at what you’ve come through. Look at where you’re headed! Look at the small pebbles that have paved the way, even the ones that have gotten in the way. There is so much to be grateful for. So very much to...

We’ve stared at the same four walls for the past year and a half. We’ve organized the pantry. We’ve learned to work differently. We’ve extended our work hours and have gotten less done in more time (ahhhh - the new math). We thought we’d become more efficient, but when we check email first thing and then throughout the day and then last thing and then stay up longer as a revenge against work so as...

I’m eating sushi with a client when I ask him what he expects of me the following day as I engage with his team. “Excellence,” came the one-word, very direct answer. “Challenge Accepted,” I replied with a smile.   Inside I wondered how to bring him the excellence he expected. What I didn’t know was that he was endorsing me for the excellence he had always experienced in my work with him. &nbs...

From homeless street kid to Marine Corps Captain to Sage & Mentor - Solarzar works magic in there somewhere, too!   He notes that leadership is all about communication and relationships!   He believes in the continuum of relationships, how the teacher imparts to the scholar and at some point, the scholar offers to the teacher.  Solarzar discussed The Hero’s Journey and notes tha...

What’s the difference between being “Nice” and being Kind? When you’re nice, you’re likely to be giving yourself - a lot of yourself - away. And the cost to that? Personal identity. Here I share some very personal stories and talk about how to be kind, to live in grace, compassion, and empathy without having to make everything okay for everyone else.  Being kind, sometimes means holding bound...

So many people think that they have to join in the conversation and even one-up what’s just been said that they miss the opportunity to truly connect.   “I can’t wait to get to Hawaii” “Oh, me either! This pandemic is something! I just love the sand on Waikiki and the sun. Oh, and you can’t beat the food.” And on and on and on, leaving the other person out of the conversation.   Beware o...

We’re all leaders! If you’re being watched, you’re a leader - at home, at work, in the community. You’re a leader.    This episode doesn’t talk about the traits of good leaders. There are tons of books and articles on that. Each is, in my opinion, simply opinion. The best trait of a leader is someone who knows what he/she/they value and can live into that authentically.   And there...

Having grown up in a household influenced by healthcare and business, Wendy Ryan shared multiple insights about Human Resources and Organization Development. She runs an interdisciplinary team of organizational change experts at her company, Kadabra.    Highlights of our interview include: Any future vision for changes in organizational culture requires time People get saturated with cha...

We expect things to be as we left them. This is good news for us when we park a car or lay down our sunglasses. It’s not so great when we’re talking about relationships and noticing the growth in other people.   Whether in your team members, your family members, or your friends, allow for a shift in worldview. What has changed about them since you last saw them?   Most important, start w...

You have a choice about how much “strength” you give the things that are bothering you. There are, in fact, only three types of trouble You can choose to let go of - and learn from - each of them!    Troubles of the past -  Did you do the best you could with the knowledge and resources you had? Then stop cringing every time that memory comes up. You’re the only one who is rememberin...

No team member in any organization should ever feel like someone is out to get them. Yet so many leaders make a simple, yet monumental, mistake: they assume that because they’re clear about their expectations that they’ve made their expectations clear.      Explore the world of leadership and management here (and let’s scare off that imagined boogeyman).   Thank you for listeni...

Do I need to do this? It’s a great question to keep your focus.  In this episode we’ll explore how a shift in emphasis gives new meaning to a simple question. Have some fun and listen in.   As your focus broadens and you ask questions differently, your world expands!   Enjoy!   Thank you for listening to One Sharp Sword!  Be sure to also check out Wednesdays With Wayne for...

Author, podcaster, tv host, and life coach - Jocelyn talks about the journey of what it takes to Break Down To Wake Up (also the name of her book). She had a “normal” life and was doing well. She and her husband decided to make a big life upheaval and move across the county. She got the blessing from her job and off they went, as a family of three. Something still nagged at her and she began a jou...