OneSharpSword

Fear, doubt, worry, guilt, and shame! Yep! Happy holidays!!! This time of year is filled with all of that. And, somewhere in there, shines a glimmer of hope. None of that, not even the hope, truly serves you. The bottom line is this: fear, doubt, worry, guilt, and shame are all paralyzers and lead you closer to death. People say that fear is a negative emotion. Others write that fear is necessary...

NOW more than ever, we need to move beyond kindness. We need to create large ripples that go far beyond our engagement. And we do that by being conscious. By being deliberate and intentional, we engage with others human-to-human. We lift them in ways that are subtle, yet powerful.  Being deliberate also means taking action. You can’t just think nice thoughts, you must do something… something...

Being sucked into drama is a choice. The stories we have told ourselves, so many of them just aren’t true. We don’t need to play in the land of judgment or the need to be right. The 2020 pandemic has given us the opportunity (and excuse) not to visit various family members. Well, what choices will you be making when the pandemic resolves?  Do you let the drama of others run (or ruin) your lif...

This is pretty simple to think about but it’s a whole lot harder to practice consistently. When I work with my elite 1:1 VIP clients, we focus on Values to begin with. Not only what you value now, but what you might need to aim towards to become who you wish to become. Think about someone you admire. Do they have traits that you don’t yet express? Practice those. Decide that you want to live into...

James Williams is one of the best High-Performance coaches that I know. A longtime friend from the High-Performance community, James and I have been on Facebook Lives together as The Socially Ambitious Chatterboxes. His insights here guide us to new heights! James reminds us not to believe the expectations that others have for us.  He noted that though he stayed in a job too long, staying sha...

Trying to manage everything can be a struggle. Details slip through. Managing others too tightly can get you the opposite results. In relationships, the same is true. You’ve got to be able to hold on with slightly open hands to be more flexible. Give the other people room. Give yourself a chance to not have to hold - or manage - everything. When you hold on too tightly, you’re left with very littl...

Dr. Gottfredson is a leadership professor at California State University, Fullerton. He earned his doctorate in Organizational Behavior and Human Resources.   He notes that most people think in terms of what leaders need to DO. And that we need to be more focused on what leaders need to BE.   Key Points: Horizontal Development is broadening skills vs. Vertical Development is ga...

In a time where everyone seems to be drawing back and we might feel like we’re living in “lack” which is only fear-based, it’s still important to have redundancy. Redundancy, especially in communication, is exceptionally important. In the IT world, having systems that duplicate is important in case one goes down. What about at work. Do you need people that do the same things? No, but you need peop...