NVC Life with Rachelle Lamb

In this episode most of what listeners will hear are the words of Marshall Rosenberg curated from various sources and that speak directly to the dilemmas that human beings must wrestle with in the face of war.  Resource links: The Sun Feb 2003 article: https://www.thesunmagazine.org/issues/326/beyond-good-and-evil   Inquiring Mind Fall 2004 article: https://inquiringmind.com/article/2101_4w_rosenb...

Almost everyone fascinated with the inner workings of relationships is familiar with attachment theory. This episode invites listeners to wonder about the impact of their own childhood experiences. If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, please submit them here:   https://www.rachellelamb.com/contact-rachelle

Indigenous cultures the world over make it a daily practice to praise and appreciate the natural world. Such a practice would have the effect of keeping the natural world and the nature of our relationship with the natural world central to our awareness and to any decisions we make .. which in turn would deepen our connection with the natural world as well as with each other. Resources: Braiding S...

Do you ever wonder what it means to be a healthy person? This episode, following the September 30th Day of Truth and Reconciliation in Canada, explores the question of individual and collective health and highlights the work of retired Canadian assistant Crown Attorney Rupert Ross who has authored several books on Indigenous healing and justice. Book reference: Indigenous Healing: Exploring tradit...

This episode explores aging in an anti-aging culture, where defying one's age and looking much younger than one's actual age is applauded and encouraged .. leaving old age to those who seemingly lack the good sense to enrol in the 'stay young forever' programs and consequently risk falling into oblivion. If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore...

An episode that traces a connection between how humans understand their place in the world and the high levels of separation that plague humans in their interpersonal relationships with each other and with the world around them. Mentions: NeverLand with Stephen Jenkinson: https://youtu.be/4EF1rcbGxHE?si=aywpm5Ii1O6BCSTL Life Enriching Education by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.nonviolentcommunic...

Based on the number of people who tuned into last weeks episode on Jordan Peterson and free speech, I thought this week would be a good time to explore the subject of offence and being offended. Resources: Author Irshad Manji: Worry Less about offending people and more about being able to take offence (3m YouTube video | https://youtu.be/yvavBpQZBnM?si=Spyks2qRgIV5XCRX) If you have comments about...

On August 23rd, An Ontario court ruled against Jordan Peterson Wednesday, and upheld the regulatory body Ontario College of Psychologists decision, that he take social media training, a ruling that many consider to be a chilling development for the future of free speech for Canadians.  This episode explores how this ruling may impact free speech in Canada. References: Peterson v. College of Psycho...

It's 'Back to School' time! This episode cites the words of author and teacher John Taylor Gatto as he provides readers with the troubling lessons that he teaches children as dictated by the US education system. In Taylor Gatto's own words: The first lesson I teach is confusion.   The second lesson I teach is class position. The third lesson I teach is indifference. The fourth less...

This episode focuses on the the 4th step of the NVC process which is REQUESTS; and in this episode, we explore the “connecting request”. Connecting requests anchor the conversation in the expression of feelings and needs. We either ask for the other person to reflect back our feelings and needs or we ask the other person to express their feelings and needs. Tune in to learn how a connecting reques...

Developing skillfulness around conflict doesn’t mean that all relationships endure and that we live happily ever after, it does mean however that our way of being with each other can be less prone to being contaminated by poor communication habits .. those tragic reflexes mired in blame and hostility that are so unproductive. Developing skillfulness means learning conflict, learning what it asks o...

How does Nonviolent Communication help people to make clear observations? Do you know how to formulate an observation that you and those you’re engaged in conversation with can reasonably agree on? Can you describe what actually happened instead of your interpretation of it? Tune in to learn more. If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, pl...

This episode reflects on the question: why is NVC practice so hard? Hint, hint: maybe it has something to do with the fact that many people find it incredibly frustrating and challenging to make the distinction between a NEED and a WANT? If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, please submit them here:   https://www.rachellelamb.com/contact...

In this episode, I share a story from a book published in 1992 titled Millennium: Tribal Wisdom and the Modern World written by anthropologist David Maybury-Lewis. As I consider this story, I encounter a different way of thinking, a vastly different orientation around what it means to live communally, to cooperate, to understand the world and one’s place in it. The book: https://www.amazon.ca/Mill...

We are each one of us entitled to our own opinions, viewpoints and paradigms .. so we say and so we're told. The thing is, our opinions, viewpoints and theories significantly shape and determine the choices we make and the lifestyles we strive towards .. and none of these, though intangible at the outset, are without consequence. Tune in to hear more .. If you have comments about this episode...

On today’s episode: Not all conflict is resolvable Is is always possible for conflict to be effectively resolved? One of the things that drew me to Nonviolent Communication was the idea that conflict, when skillfully addressed, is always resolvable. I don’t remember when I stopped believing that all conflict can be resolved but I no longer believe it. And I continue to believe that, no matter how...

Welcome to Episode 1 of my 2nd year of podcasting! This is episode explores the question: should I end our relationship? Inspiration: Sweet Darkness by poet David Whyte https://onbeing.org/poetry/sweet-darkness/ Music: Unspoken by Luke Wieting (Audiosocket/Canva) If you have comments about this episode or topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, please submit them here:   https://ww...

So today is episode 52 .. a whole year of podcasting! So what to talk about on this episode? In last week’s episode Our modern obsession with comfort , I read from Jean Liedloff’s book The Continuum Concept. The truth is, there was more I wanted to read from her book but I decided to reserve it for another episode .. today’s episode! I hope you'll join me as we go fetch water with a group of Y...

This episode explores modern culture’s obsession with comfort, including its relatives: ease, convenience and efficiency. Questions for reflection: Where did you inherit your ideas about comfort? How does the strong need for comfort, ease, convenience direct your thinking, your biases, your choices? How does our modern obsession with comfort impact our capacity to be human, to belong to a place, a...

A few weeks ago, a listener reached out to me with a question around the link between epigenetics and NVC. Reference was made to a TEDtalk given by Professor Moshe Szyf in 2016 who is recognized as a pioneering geneticist and researcher at McGill University. The title of his talk was: Epigenetics - our bodies' way to change the destiny written in our DNA (https://youtu.be/SrqmuYvk3iQ | 17m) Th...

It could be said, that in spite of the fact that many of us living in today’s modern world experience longer lives, greater affluence and far more safety than our ancestors did, it doesn’t register as good fortune in our minds. While it's probable that something is missing and that something isn’t quite right from our lives, it's probably not safety. This episode is an exploration into the...

This episode asks the question: How can we possibly know what we need when we're so disconnected from the natural world that we are so dependant on? "Our society is made up of vast numbers of traumatized individuals, and our culture has come into being through universally traumatizing process." —Chellis Glendinning "We've had a hundred years of analysis, and people are getti...

In this episode, I have the privilege of introducing you to renowned storyteller and mythologist, Dr. Martin Shaw. Dr Shaw was born and raised in England and is author of seventeen books, including "A Branch from the Lightning Tree: Ecstatic Myth and the Grace of Wildness”, ”Snowy Tower: Parzival and the Wet, Black Branch of Language,” and “Scatterlings, Getting Claimed in the age of Amnesia”...

Following last week's episode on Borderline Personality Disorder, this episode explores one of the more effective treatments for the condition: Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (aka DBT) developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan. Resources: Building a Life Worth Living: A Memoir by Dr. Marsha Lineman, https://www.amazon.com/Building-Life-Worth-Living-Memoir/dp/0812984994/ref=sr_1_5 Loving Someone with Bo...

May is Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness month, and while many people may believe that their lives are not touched by this disorder, the chances are even higher that you know someone who is either diagnosed or undiagnosed with borderline personality disorder, also known as BPD. This episode aims to reduce stigma and raise awareness on a painful condition that people can recover from when t...