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Send us Fan Mail I've been getting a lot of heat from toxic parents in the comment section lately. So, this is an open message to every abusive and manipulative parent who hates the message that I spread. Get ready! You're not going to like it. For everyone else, this episode is very different. It's a love letter to you and the work that I do. Because the truth is this: the work isn...

Send us Fan Mail My clients are always so perplexed by the time they come to me. Despite years of therapy and hundreds of hours spent learning and researching, they keep falling into the hands of narcissistic people. Why? Haven’t they learned better? Haven’t they broken the cycle by identifying narcissists and every single trait they could exhibit? This week, we're going to get to the bottom...

Send us Fan Mail One of the hardest parts of reconciling any kind of trauma is rediscovering your sense of self. Authenticity and our strong sense of self-knowing disappear in the wake of abuse. We're not allowed to tap into that strength because it would pull power away from the people and circumstances that hurt us. A big part of the healing journey is figuring out who you are again. You mu...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when a narcissistic person is exposed? The results can be disastrous. The narcissist's biggest fear is being seen for who they really are. When that happens they can explode spectacularly in what is known as "narcissistic collapse". A terrifyiing time in the life of both the narcissist and their victims, it's important to be aware of the signs so y...

Send us Fan Mail Were you raised by emotionally immature parents? You’d be hard pressed to find anyone over the age of 30 who was raised by an emotionally mature person. Most of us are out here in the trenches healing and doing the hard work to become whole again. So how do we stop the chaos and break the patterns? It all starts with seeing the emotionally immature parent for who there are. Unders...

Send us Fan Mail So you survived narcissistic abuse. Maybe it was your mother, your father. Maybe you escaped the narcissist you married. What happens next? Lost in a land of confusion, it can be hard to know where to go next.  In this episode, I'll help you uncover what it really means to find ourselves again after narcissistic abuse. Far from the sugar-sweet, positivity journey that the inf...

Send us Fan Mail It's hard to believe that a narcissistic person would become a paren t. Why would someone so obsessed with themselves want to become a mother or a father? The choice becomes a lot clearer when you take a look at what real narcissism is, and how NPD can affect someone's choice to become the caretaker of another human life.  Seeking to understand why your narcissistic pare...

Send us Fan Mail Are you in the market for the perfect partner or the perfect relationship? Who isn't? Those who have found love are lucky, but many are still on their hunt for the ideal partner. Here's what most of those people haven't realized yet, though: the "happily ever-after" they want is going to bore them to death. That's because so many of us have been condi...

Send us Fan Mail My most requested episode. This week I'm tackling the question that I get over-and-over again. Are the Kardashian's a narcissistic family ? I'm going to break down what a narcissistic family looks like. We'll talk traits, behaviors, and what it costs those who grow up in this toxic family system. But I'll also be breaking down some of the most curious patt...

Send us Fan Mail In so many ways, you and I have been programmed to fail in this life. We have been told that we’re not good enough, that we can’t have what those on top have. We’re told to look at our satisfaction with guilt and our joy with suspicion. This week, we're breaking down programming. I'll explain what programming really looks like, how we are programmed throughout our lives,...

Send us Fan Mail The damage inflicted on our lives by trauma is serious and long lasting. It’s not a simple “emotional experience”. Trauma causes damage to our physical bodies, too. Our nervous systems are damaged by it , and even immune function and cognitive function can be affected.  The best way to deal with the depression and anxiety that often shows up on the other side of trauma is to preve...

Send us Fan Mail Do you feel like there's no room in your life for you? You probably spend all day showing up for everyone else. You take the kids to school, to practice. You make sure dinner is on the table and that the house is ready for the chaos of the next day. There's a good chance you spend a lot of time doing things for others, even if you don't give yourself that same energ...

Send us Fan Mail Were you raised in an abusive or toxic family? Whether they neglected you or outright harmed you - the results are the same. We end up enraged and looking for a way to rebel. You want to break their hearts as badly as they broke yours. But can we actually rebel without burning ourselves to the ground? If you were the product of toxic parents - then this is the must-listen episode...

Send us Fan Mail Childhood trauma isn't something that magically goes away when we turn 18. The side effects linger and affect our lives for decades. That includes our ability to be happy in ourselves, and even our ability to build happy and stable relationships with others.   If you struggle to trust others - to build healthy connections - then this episode may be for you. We're going t...

Send us Fan Mail Are you in the trenches? Still recovering from a toxic or abusive childhood? Trying to find yourself after years of narcissistic relationships? In this episode, we're talking about choosing the path of most resistance. It's the best way to become who we want to become, and to get what we want to get out of this life. Stop playing small and taking on the weight of the wor...

Send us Fan Mail Who is the covert narcissist as a parent? That's exactly what we're talking about today as I take you deep into the world of the covert narcissist parent. I'm exposing how they think, how they behave, and most importantly how they affect their children and families for generations.  Think you know the covert narcissist? Think again. When it comes to these parents, i...

Send us Fan Mail Toxic Spirituality is one of the biggest threats facing the younger generations of our society. Through a focus on hyper-individualism, it's creating a whole new sea of people obsessed with themselves. Carrying this "main character energy" into the future, they're wrecking families, relationships, and even entire economies with their blissed-out beliefs. It&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Hulu's new documentary - "The Deep End" - has everyone talking about the internets favorite new age mental health guru. But is Teal Swan the healer she claims? Or something far more sinister? In this episode, we explore communal narcissism and how it plays out in cults, celebrity fascination, and popular culture. Learn how communal narcissists get their supply, and...

Send us Fan Mail Not all of us are blessed with loving and supportive family. Sometimes, children are raised in families that lack in empathy, understanding, and (most of all) love. Were you raised in a toxic or abusive home? Does this toxic family continue to affect your life to this day? You can break the cycle of toxic family and find the strength to stand up for yourself, but it's going t...

Send us Fan Mail One of the hardest things you will ever do (as a parent) is to navigate the challenge of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex. Yes. It's the reality that millions face every single day, and it's one of the questions I get asked most often. How do we co-parent with someone who only cares about themselves? In this episode, I'm breaking down 8 approaches and strategies...

Send us Fan Mail The sibling relationship is forever warped and changed by narcissistic abuse. When our parents pit us against one another, or set us up for toxic competition, we stop seeing the humanity in one another and see the conflict instead. Part of healing from the pain of our childhood, for many, requires acknowledging the pain of their sibling relationships, too. In this relationship I&a...

Send us Fan Mail No one resents their daughters more than narcissistic mothers. To them, their daughter is more than an extension or an accessory. She is a mirror through which their greatest fears and insecurities are reflected. This daughter threatens to destroy the ego of the narcissist mother, so the mother is forced to destroy the daughter - slowly, little-by-little. In this episode, we'...

Send us Fan Mail Were you a victim of this super insidious narcissistic parenting tactic? Millions of children are exposed to neglect and trauma each year - especially when it comes to medical and psychological care. Take my own mother for instance, she only provided care that made her look good as a mother...and I was the one who suffered in the long run. In this episode, I help you break down yo...

Send us Fan Mail Toxic positivity and pseudospiritual self-help advice is more rampant than ever. You can hardly throw a stone without hitting a new "life coach" or influencer guru who promises to hold all the keys to your happiness. But all their knowledge rarely leads anywhere but confusion and resentment. Why?  It's important that you learn how to spot this bad advice, these toxi...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that more than 70 million people live with nervous system dysfunction of some kind? This might manifest as anxiety, depression, or even PTSD and C-PTSD. We lead high stress lives, and when you combine that with a history of trauma, it can be a toxic combination for your nervous system. In this episode, we're talking about trauma, the nervous system, and regulatin...