Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

Not As We Planned

Kids EN ↓ 143 episodes

New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all. Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid. If you have a question or...

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Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris

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Latest episode

Jul 8, 2026

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Episodes

18. Reasons to Stay or Leave 09.11.2023

We talk about what we believe to be the key reasons to leaving or staying in a relationship. Of course no relationship is perfect but we feel like these topics we touch on our important foundations for successful relationships. We also share our experiences along the way as well as some of your emails. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-...

17. Trying to Parent With Your Ex 02.11.2023

Sharing your children and parenting with someone you’re trying to move on from can be a challenge to say the least. We share both ours and your experiences, hopefully showing you that your feelings and doubts are valid and so normal. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Com...

16. The Downside of Social Media 26.10.2023

This week we talk all things social media. Including the impact it has on mum guilt, pressure, comparisons and the list goes on ... Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/...

15. Mum Guilt... But has Anyone Heard of Dad Guilt? 19.10.2023

It’s like the minute you become a mum you feel guilty for everything? You can’t win because even if you don’t feel guilty you feel guilty for not feeling guilty. It’s safe to say mum guilt is real. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unpo...

14. He Asked Me If I Wanted to Be Spanked and Whipped 05.10.2023

Let's talk about sex fetishes. The sexy, the dirty and the downright weird. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episod...

13. Friends… some you gain and some you lose 28.09.2023

This week we talk all things friendship; how it changes with motherhood, going through different situations and how they can serve different purposes as we navigate life. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https:/...

12. Continuing the Healing Journey 20.09.2023

Discussing more into our healing journey, our biggest fears of ending our relationships and how it can impact new relationships. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Wa...

11. Becoming a Mother 14.09.2023

Trigger WarningWe chat all about our first experiences becoming mothers, explaining those overwhelming feelings and sadly some births not going as planned. We also touch on how becoming parents has an effect on your relationship with your partner. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.c...

10. Dating in your 30s 07.09.2023

Let’s delve deeper into dating in your 30s, talking about those first date rules and sharing your good and bad experiences as well as ours. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by...

9. Manifesting a positive mindset 31.08.2023

We share in more detail our healing processes through journaling, manifesting and vision boards. The perfect way to make change and you can start now. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org...

8. Second Chances 24.08.2023

Second chances… do you believe in them? With different opinions, we share our experiences and your stories that you’ve sent in to give you an insight into whether second chances can workProducer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY...

7. Let’s Talk Dating Apps 17.08.2023

It’s time to start dating again and we are here to talk all about dating apps, things to avoid on those first dates and knowing when you’re ready to start dating again after heartbreakProducer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-N...

6. Our First Holiday As Solo Parents 10.08.2023

Going on holiday with your children is hard enough but going without your partner was definitely a new challenge for us both in different ways. Also chatting about other firsts as single parents and accepting those changes. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Att...

5. Trusting Again After Heartbreak 03.08.2023

When trust is broken it’s hard to believe you will ever get it back. We share our experiences as well as some of yours and what we feel are the next steps in helping to feel like one day you can trust. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0...

4. Red Flags 27.07.2023

Talking about those red flags in relationships that we might be aware of but choose to ignore, or just find it hard to notice when we are living with them. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommon...

3. New Beginnings 20.07.2023

Episode 3 - Finding our feet with our new solo parenting journey and discussing the highs and lows of coparenting. Giving advice on how to tell your children about separation and sharing some of your stories and experiences. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / At...

1. It's Over 13.07.2023

When two single mums come together to talk about the realisation of their marriages ending. Chatting all about the new challenges and changes one goes through and managing it around your children whilst trying to heal. Come and join us on our journey and we would love to hear anything you want to share to. Email us on notasweplannedpodcast@gmail.comProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter...

2. Having your psycho moment 13.07.2023

We are talking all about healing and trying to move on from a break up. Learning that this stage isn't linear and hearing some of your stories about those crazy moments you had after a break upProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported...

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