Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris
Not As We Planned
New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all. Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid. If you have a question or...
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Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris
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Latest episode
Jul 8, 2026
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Episodes
68. And People Say Men Can’t Multitask 12.12.2024 38:37
When you find a new partner but you’re missing the bad boy, a segment of women in male fields, struggling to let go of your abusive ex and we finish with a gorgeous happy ending after a narcissistic relationship. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-N...
67. He Would Shag His Mum If He Could 05.12.2024 40:38
When your partner just ups and leaves for no reason, talking about how divorce doesn’t fuck up the kids, when he leaves you for his ex and hearing from a man who wants our advice on coparenting Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unporte...
66. I’m a Girlfriend 28.11.2024 42:41
Tash makes an announcement about her relationship, Carly has an emotional birthday, we share some epic hacks you’re going to want to know and a fiancé gets up to no good on his stag! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND...
65. I Knew He Was Proposing 21.11.2024 46:24
An email that has us disagreeing with the outcome, having someone leave you and blaming it on your weight, how to find hope on dating apps and a confession about a proposal!!! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)h...
64. You’ve been Exposed!! 14.11.2024 39:39
We get a response from the woman who got cheated on by the man who wrote in to us a few weeks ago!!! We get such a warm felt update from an OG, we hear about a swinging holiday and someone’s feedback on taking our advice. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attr...
63. Your Husband Gave You Chlamydia 07.11.2024 48:50
We reflect on how far we have come in the last year, we have a sneaky peak of the new love honey calendar, when your husband gets caught with the other woman by your boss, and finding out you caught chlamydia from your cheating husband!! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreati...
62. His Thumb Was Bigger Than His D*** 31.10.2024 41:33
We talk about if you would have kids with someone who only wants to have them for you not him, an update where he got two women pregnant at the SAME time and finding out you’re not only the other women once but TWICE! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribu...
61. Baby Loss Awareness Month 24.10.2024 49:52
Trigger warning: we talk in detail about baby loss, having to deal with you partner going back to his ex in your darkest days and stalking your ex on social media Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creati...
60. I’m One Of Those Men Who Cheated 17.10.2024 40:01
We hear from the cheating man himself, we share the ultimate instagram hack, finding naked AI pictures of your friends on your partners phone and deciding whether to stay after he cheated or if it’s time to finally let go. Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / At...
59. Green Flag or Bare Minimum 10.10.2024 43:04
Figuring out if it’s a green flag or just bare minimum, getting the inside scoop at a swingers club, seeing the repercussions of taking back that cheating ex husband and finding out you’re the other woman and his whole story was a lie! Producer: @TristanHehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative...
58. I Fell In Love With My Friends Husband 03.10.2024 46:15
We delve into the world of swinging, hotwifing and dogging, when you fall in love with your friends husband and hearing from someone who found out their husband was cheating today! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND...
57. What A Mistake I Made 26.09.2024 48:58
Tash talks about Blake’s diagnosis, having your partner stop you going ahead with your planned ivf, having your ex breadcrumb you and the ultimate betrayal right under your nose!! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3....
56. I Met HER 19.09.2024 40:13
The first encounter meeting the new woman in your children’s’ life, an update about fuck buddy situation, a woman at rock bottom struggling with the worries of custody and divorce and a man who got two women pregnant…at the same time. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
55. He Had a Porn Addiction 12.09.2024 38:33
Married to a porn addict with an ending we were not expecting, when he pretends his mental health is the reason for his shady behaviour, and a man’s story when his wife finds another one. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC...
54. A LOT happened this summer…. 05.09.2024 49:34
We are so happy to be back and with a new name and look! We have a big catch up to update you on what you’ve been missing, we hear from the ex husband of an email we’ve shared previously and seeing how he never changed because he’s gone and done it to the other woman!!! Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https:...
53. My Husband Had an Affair With a Lesbian 25.07.2024 42:37
When he’s playing away from home with 3 different women, finding out your husband is having an affair with a lesbian, and the continued abuse from the ex wife. Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativec...
52. Not Just Another One… Another 3 18.07.2024 39:49
Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acas...
51. The Micro Penis Debate... 11.07.2024 51:15
Learning that sometimes the news we dread is a blessing in disguise, finding love again but losing the naivety of forever, the coparenting dilemma and the micro penis scenario Producer: Tristan Hehir City Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)ht...
50. All He’s Bringing To The Table Is Chlamydia 04.07.2024 43:45
A man’s side of the story, the getaway escape, catching your partner paying for prostitutes and do you tell your friend their husband is cheatingProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licens...
49. Can Women Really Have Casual Sex? 27.06.2024 44:12
We discuss the coparenting holiday, the fuck buddy dilemma when dating a walking red flag, how many chances you should give before it’s time to leave and we talk about having a partner with an addiction problemProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDer...
48. Control Your Hapiness 20.06.2024 39:30
Talking about the challenges of co-parenting, seeing that therapy can make all the difference and infinitely doesn’t always ruin a relationshipProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses...
47. The Hunky Hot Fireman 13.06.2024 41:48
Our theory on being ghosted, whether a rape fantasy is a red flag and a major breakthrough from a previous story. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast...
46. He Left because I Got Too Fat 06.06.2024 47:56
When you are to blame for your partner cheating, the 29 year old barmaid, and a dog shit blowj*bProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a...
45. Gaslighting 101 30.05.2024 40:10
Talking about getting the snip, when your partner cheats on you with his ex, working out if money can really buy you happiness and phone full of prostitutes. Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommo...
44. What's That Around Your Ankle? 23.05.2024 45:18
When you realise you’ve been dating a criminal, trying to catch your sister cheating on her husband and turning lesbian when you’re sick of men! Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licens...
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