Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris
Not As We Planned
New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon. Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about. From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all. Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid. If you have a question or...
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Tash Gershfield & Carly Harris
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Latest episode
Oct 14, 2026
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Episodes
I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast 22.04.2026 53:19
This week, we discuss feeling like you have hit rock bottom, we have a look at the calibre of the dating pool and hear a story about a man whose little lies were just the tip of the iceberg. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Turning Pain Into Power | Not As We Planned Podcast 15.04.2026 46:22
When you think you need the concrete evidence but what you know is enough, when the man you thought was perfect turned out to be your biggest lesson, and questioning whether to continue the relationship or end it before you commit for life. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inform...
I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex | Not As We Planned Podcast 08.04.2026 40:37
This episode discusses worrying about your boyfriend’s ex moving back into town, feeling on edge around a suspicious colleague who's just disappeared into thin air, and dealing with fears about your partner’s connection with his children’s mum. We also hear a powerful story of a woman who’s been through hell and come out stronger. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon...
My Ex is my Guilty Pleasure | Not As We Planned Podcast 01.04.2026 39:48
Tash shares her news which is life changing, when you have an affair with your ex and you’re not sure what to do, when going no contact is the only way, and when your boyfriend has been hiding a whole other life for over 2 years! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Should I Have an Affair? | Not As We Planned Podcast 26.03.2026 42:06
Carly shares a deeply emotional update while trying to hold everything together. We hear from a woman in a sexless marriage considering an affair with her boss, a chaotic dating story involving a back-door escape, and a shocking discovery that points to a partner cheating. Plus, a powerful anonymous confession from a mum who admits she’s been gaslighting her own son. Please vote for us as Podcast...
Colin @loudsingledad: Our First Male Guest! A Man’s Perspective on Separation, Coparenting & Dating! | Not As We Planned Podcast 19.03.2026 1:16:37
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When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast 12.03.2026 43:31
Tash shares the hurdles she’s had to face during her break-up, when you stick by your partner through his addiction, a man shares an extremely moving explanation of his addiction, and needing the courage to walk away from a man who has allowed you to carry him through your whole relationship. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok H...
Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast 05.03.2026 1:10:21
Dating can feel confusing, frustrating and at times completely overwhelming. In this episode, renowned dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins us to answer your most pressing questions - from navigating no contact and mixed signals to building healthy, secure relationships that actually last. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagr...
I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast 25.02.2026 40:41
It’s a dating episode guys and we have delivered the goods! First up, the man that shat himself on a first date, the most shocking affair we have EVER come across, the romantic stroll along the dirty river and being the third wheel with the ‘platonic bestie’ Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com...
Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast 19.02.2026 42:42
We’ve had some shocking updates from our listeners. In one case, an affair turned out not to be just one, but two. Another story involved a man desperately trying to hide his whereabouts during a FaceTime call. One mum was excited for her family holiday, only to discover her partner had already been frolicking in the sea with another woman. Another man had an affair with someone 13 years younger a...
You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast 12.02.2026 41:47
Tash gives us an update on finally going no contact but what occurred beforehand, we share some dating stories just in time for valentines day… the man who wanted to drive into a brick wall, playing hide and seek when the date isn’t going well, being presented with a penis in the car, wanting to leave your marriage but guilt is stopping you and when you get caught in the lie! Watch the podcast on...
The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast 05.02.2026 49:16
When you realise you’re carrying your whole relationship, when your partner leaves you for someone else, when your baby daddy is mia for a year and then you find out the most shocking news as to why, and stopping the cohabiting with your ex! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more infor...
Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast 29.01.2026 48:43
Tash shares the sad update that her and her boyfriend have broken up. When the man you’re with punishes you for keeping your baby, a random Facebook message that brings you the truth about your partner and the worst pocket dial confession Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informat...
Nicole is this me: A Real & Raw Conversation About Her Husband's Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast 22.01.2026 1:03:52
We unpack how she found out and how she felt with it only happening 2 weeks ago! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married 15.01.2026 44:47
This week, we hear a confession from someone sleeping with her married boss, a long-term boyfriend exposed on an Are We Dating the Same Guy page and our advice as to whether we think a listener's boyfriend might be cheating on her. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth. 08.01.2026 58:48
Divorce week has hit us, and this episode is not one you will want to miss if you’re struggling with healing. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast 18.12.2025 48:36
We speak about the struggles we can face over xmas, being newly single or not having your children, when staying for the kids is not an option, an email that sets us off emotionally with a lovely thank you, and we hear from a male listener whose repeatedly being cheated on…. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. Se...
The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast 11.12.2025 49:07
Trigger warning: Domestic Abuse When your ex partner is using drugs and tries it on with your sister, a very abusive relationship that’s hard to get out of when you’re in it, and when your perfect life falls apart when he decides he wants to leave out of nowhere! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/...
Jessica Miller: The Truth Behind The Breakdown Of Her Marriage And All The In-Between | Not As We Planned Podcast 04.12.2025 1:12:43
Jess shares the reasons behind the breakdown of her marriage, behind the camera of OnlyFans and where she sees her life moving forward Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast 27.11.2025 47:44
We unpack the lies we’ve told ourselves to stay in an unhappy relationship, when your husband blames your appearance for the reason he left and when all the lies get uncovered from the dreaded phone!!! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast 20.11.2025 41:31
When your ex gives you an unintentional strip tease, the Christmas party affair that eventually comes out, when you’re chasing closure from the wrong person and questioning if you gave up too soon on your marriage due to motherhood. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast 13.11.2025 51:21
We hear about the constant betrayal throughout a marriage with some brutal advice given, a shocking story which left someone homeless, the reality of ignoring every red flag and the when love turns into survival Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast 06.11.2025 50:44
We give our brutal opinion on what we believe is bare minimum rather than princess treatment, when the guy you’re dating even lied about his name and figuring out whether a second chance could work. Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast 30.10.2025 43:44
We hear from a broken listener who we give some much needed advice to, when the trust is broken and if you can really move forward from the deceit, and we hear from an ‘imposter’ who shares a different story! Use code CARLY20 for 20% off anything site wide @ruci_uk Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.co...
Jessica May: the untold events of her partner's affair and the signs that she ignored | Not As We Planned Podcast 22.10.2025 1:10:33
For the first time ever, Jessica reveals the detailed truths about her partner's affair, the way she found out, and what she did afterwards!!! Not one to miss! Watch the podcast on YouTube Get a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon : Join Our Community Instagram TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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