No, You're Not Dying

Today's episode is brought to you by two recent experiences Joyce had that made her realize that perhaps the way we speak to ourselves does, in fact, matter (and also that we need to be a lot nicer to ourselves). We're chatting about the often automatic nature of our negative voices, where they might come from, and how to rewrite them. We cover whether our internal dialogue is really a r...

Ideal world: you come back from vacation rested, recharged, and ready to take on the work week. You pre-planned, your to-do list was to-done before you left, and you're at inbox zero. Reality: you haven't had a routine in weeks, every project you put off from before your break is due, everyone is circling back, and your inbox is out of control. Oh yeah, and your to-do list? Miles long. I...

We've made it to the end of the year! Have you made your resolutions yet that you'll probably give up on by February? (sry not sry)...but maybe we can help. Today, we're discussing whether resolutions are worth making for the start of a new year and why we struggle with following through. We talk about why any day can be 1/1, why the intention behind a resolution really does matter,...

Are you approaching the holidays with a bit of a 'what's going on here?' mentality? Do you normally feel excited for the season, and now you're just...not? Is there a feeling of 'meh' where there's usually a feeling of 'merry and bright'? Us too. Today, we're getting real about the complex emotions around this time of the year. We kick off with our...

Every year in late fall, we are blessed with the return of Hallmark Holiday movies. Do we watch them because we are obsessed with small-town holiday festivals, can't wait to watch strangers drink hot cocoa, or want to live vicariously through someone else decorating a freshly-baked, intricate gingerbread house that we know we could never make? Or do they serve a bigger purpose? Today we'...

If you've ever felt insane stress and pressure around the holidays to come up with the perfect gifts for the people in your life, this episode is for you. This week, we're talking about consumerism culture, the early-onset holiday season, and why finding the 'perfect' holiday gift is kind of a fool's errand. We chat about why having more options to buy from can lead to mor...

A tale as old as (recent) times: being addicted to your phone. What started as a way to stay in touch with loved ones has ended up as a small pocket computer with hundreds of ways to distract you, from your own photo album to news apps to looking up every single thought you've ever had on the internet. Does it help that so many of us can't even remember a time when we didn't have a...

We're back with Part 3 of our Friend-ly Advice series! Have you ever had a 'friend' that you genuinely care about who only contacts you when they want to brag about how amazing their life is, or use you for favors, your connections, caretaking, etc.? We have, and it's a real bummer. So today, we're talking about how to recognize if you're in a one-sided friendship and...

There comes a point in our lives when we realize that our parents and our children are not exactly who we thought they would be - they're flawed, imperfect, and perhaps incredibly irritating, but we have to accept them as they are because the alternative is just being constantly angry and giving ourselves tension headaches and ulcers. And if you're thinking...yes 100% absolutely but how...

Things We Should Have Said is a new segment, where we include conversations that we forgot or had to cut for time in the original episode.  As an addition to 'Settling is for Bar Tabs, Not Relationships', this bonus segment includes: Why who you pick as a life partner is one of the most important decisions Why you need to be honest with yourself about what you value in a relationship and...

Beth went on her first vacation in a looooong time, and we're getting the full recap! Today's episode starts with a debrief of the Montana ranch experience, with special mentions of the best thing about Laguardia's bathrooms, and why you need to step out of your comfort zone to experience life. Then, we're diving into settling in relationships - inspired by our own observations...

~iT's $p0okY s3@SoN, w!tChEs!~ Anyway... Join us for a spooktacular episode where we take a trip down memory lane, recapping and reminiscing on our favorite Halloweens from our childhood! We're talking about our first costumes, why we originally thought trick-or-treating was a scam, and our definite opinions on whether you can leave your neighborhood in the pursuit of candy. We're a...

It feels like these days, dating is harder than ever. Either people met their partner on 1) a dating app or 2) in college, and there's no miscellaneous third option. So when you're in your thirties and don't want (read: refuse) to swipe, where are you supposed to meet people?  *Cue: Raye's 'Where Is My Husband?'* This week we're trying to figure that out, whether...

If ever there was a vent sesh episode, today's would be it. We're kicking off a new, totally random segment called 'unfiltered thoughts', where we share our - you guessed it - unfiltered thoughts. We're talking emotional support shirts, laser tag, and packing tape. We have strong opinions on all 3 and so should you, tbh. Then we're getting into the problems with produ...

Being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be, which is probably why so many people are holding onto the last time they felt joyous freedom: being in college. The stakes were lower, there were fewer responsibilities, and you existed in a bubble. At some point, we all know we need to put our big kid pants on and grow up...but do you ever feel like you're the only one who did? Today&...

Close your eyes and raise your hand if you have a family member who you'd consider toxic. Now open your eyes: bet you didn't think we'd all have a hand in the air, now did you? Today we're talking about why nobody talks about having a toxic person in their family, and the quiet shame that comes along with knowing that you do.  We dive into how your feelings are impacted by your...

Well, one of us is sick and the other is crying to The Lion King again, so you could say we're hanging on by a thread! Anyway... Following the finale of The Summer I Turned Pretty (!!!!!) and Belly's moment of talking to a photo of herself as a child, we felt inspired to talk to our younger selves today - because you don't have to wait until your birthday or NYE to reflect. Getting...

The names Whelmed...Over Whelmed. The world feels heavy at the moment, and when that combines with chaos in your own life, it creates the perfect storm for feeling downright weird. There's a sense of being lost (cut to us throwing our socks in the garbage and packing 2 sandwiches for lunch...listen and you'll understand), being unsteady, and not knowing how to react because there's...

Alright, so you've decided you might want to go to therapy. What the heck now? In today's listener-requested episode, we're giving you the Therapy 101, because like with doing your taxes, they don't teach this in schools. We go through how to go about finding a therapist and knowing when you've found the right one, the different types of clinicians, and why (spoiler alert)...

It is even really a birthday if you don't have a crying selfie?  In honor of Joyce's 31st birthday - in our 31st episode, no less - we're talking about the complicated feelings around celebrating another year around the sun. On one hand, yay, it's your day of birth and there's so much to look forward to! On the other hand, time is flying and you're just getting older...

We've all had moments where we want to tell people in our life to stop doing something - being friends with someone we think is toxic, dating someone that we think is undeserving of their love, engaging in bad behaviors that we ourselves have done that ended badly, and, and, and. So what do you do about it? Well... Today we're talking about why you shouldn't give unsolicited advice...

We know you were thinking, 'I Wish You Would do an episode on Taylor Swift this week!' Well... You can't deny that she is one of (if not THE) most influential musicians in the world. She has Forever & Always had a thriving fan base, aka the Swifties (of which Joyce is an active member), but the negative sentiment towards her seems to be stronger than with other celebrities. Plus...

There are two kinds of people in this world: 1) those of us who act totally fine when we have a health symptom, and 2) those of us who freak out and convince ourselves that we have every illness known to humankind and also probably might die. If Option 2 feels ~familiar~ to you, join us for today's episode as we chat about hypochondria and what it's like to have health anxiety. Starting...

Some of the most daunting words that can be spoken in a relationship: 'let's try long-distance'. In today's listener-requested episode, we're diving into what the heck to do when this happens - and yes, it does also impact the person who is leaving - and how to make sure your relationship lives to tell the tale. We discuss why you need to define 'distance', how t...

Ugh, here we go again with another lifestyle trend on social media that got taken way too far and then people absolutely lost the plot! Today, we're dissecting the 'princess treatment', which started as a way to describe being cared for and pampered by your significant other, morphed into a breakdown of what's 'bare minimum' vs. what's 'princess treatment&ap...