No Visible Bruises

Are you ready to break free from the shackles of narcissistic abuse and reclaim your life?  Healing from narcissistic trauma requires intentionality and a deep understanding of the impact on your nervous system. Gone are the days of simply waiting for time to heal all wounds. Instead, you must actively engage in embodied practices that address the physiological responses triggered by the narcissis...

Have you been dreading the holiday season due to the presence of narcissistic individuals in your life? I have a transformative solution which is guided meditation.  By focusing on grounding exercises and intentional breathwork, you can effectively down-regulate your nervous system and cultivate a sense of safety, even amidst the stress.  Affirmations like "I am allowed to feel joy" and "I deserve...

Grief can resurface at any stage of your healing journey, even years after a traumatic event, and giving space to these emotions is crucial for your well-being.  I reflect on my own experience of grief resurfacing during a funeral, and how allowing myself to fully feel and express those emotions was essential for my recovery.  By addressing the sensations and emotions in our body, you can better n...

It’s almost Christmas time again and the holiday season is starting to get into its swing! Because of the rapidly approaching festive season, I want to share with you how to cope with the narcissist over the next month as it’s very common for the narcissist to ramp up their aggressiveness at this time of the year. From dealing with Christmas dinners with a narcissist to who has the kids for certai...

Have you ever felt like your emotions were dismissed or invalidated by someone close to you? The manipulative tactic known as gaslighting is often used by narcissists to undermine your sense of reality.  Narcissists are driven by a deep-seated need for control and validation and use gaslighting as a means to maintain power over you.  This is a form of emotional abuse that chips away at your confid...

What is the hidden danger of the narcissist that we must be aware of? Through my personal journey of healing from narcissistic abuse, I know the importance of understanding the narcissist's behaviour and the impact it has on our self-worth and trauma.  You need to shift the focus from the narcissist to your own healing, as continuing to obsess over the narcissist only perpetuates the cycle of abus...

Have you ever heard your partner say, "Don't worry, I'll handle everything and put it in my name," or "Just let me know if you need anything"? While these phrases might seem like generosity, they can actually be signs of financial abuse. In this episode, I’ll explore covert financial abuse and how narcissists use it to gain control, leaving you with little financial independence and making it hard...

Introversion, anxiety, empathy… these definitely aren’t behaviours we think of when we picture a narcissist, but they are the traits that the hardest to spot narcissists have. Let me introduce you to the covert narcissist. The covert narcissist can fly under the radar until it’s too late, and I want to share with you 10 signs that someone may be a covert narcissist to help you steer clear of them,...

Do you ever notice that whenever there's a special event in your life, like Christmas, a birthday, or an anniversary, there's always someone who seems to spoil the celebration? This behaviour is often associated with narcissism. In this episode, I’ll explore why narcissists often disrupt special occasions, how to identify the warning signs, and I’ll share tips on how to navigate these moments. Wha...

In a narcissistic relationship, it's common to blame ourselves for the problems instead of the narcissist. Discovering your partner's infidelity often intensifies this self-blame, making you think, "It's my fault." I'm here to affirm that you are enough, and you should hold your partner accountable for their actions. It's time to reclaim your power and begin the journey to heal from this abusive r...

Do you feel stuck in your healing journey from trauma and narcissistic abuse, struggling to find a way forward? You may find yourself feeling frustrated, like you’ve been talking about your pain without truly healing. Traditional talk therapy, while helpful, often overlooks the body’s role in healing. To move forward, you must address the nervous system, where trauma is stored. Somatic healing tec...

Are you living in a state of dissociation? If you have experienced long-term toxic or a narcissistic relationship you may find yourself disconnected from your body to numb out the emotional pain.  Dissociation is a protective mechanism, but it's not a healthy way to live. Dissociation can lead to chronic illness, difficulty engaging socially, and a lack of joy and connection. To shift out of this...

Being codependent could be the reason why you are struggling to heal abuse. Narcissists use "love bombing" tactics to make their codependent partners feel worthy and exploit your lack of self-worth.  When a narcissist's abusive behaviours (e.g., shouting, silent treatment) trigger your codependent's core wound of not feeling good enough, it can lead to chronic illness due to the body's stress resp...

Order your copy of One More Day now at  www.onemoredaybook.com   Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of suicide and suicidal ideation. If someone you know is struggling emotionally or having a hard time, you can be the difference in getting them the help they need. It’s important to take care of yourself when you are supporting someone through a difficult time.  If you or a loved on...

Order my NEW book here:  https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   In this episode, I share a deep conversation I had with my children while on holiday, discussing how to navigate online bullies and trolls, especially in the wake of my recent media appearances discussing narcissistic abuse. I talk about the overwhelmingly positive response I received after being featured on the popular UK daytim...

Join my FREE masterclass on How To Parent With A Narcissist:  https://carolinestrawson.com/parenting-masterclass   Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   On today's episode of Trauma and Narcissism Redefined, I'm discussing the difficulties of parenting alongside a narcissist - even after separation. Narcissists will often try to use your children against you, whether...

Join the waitlist for my Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coaching Certification:  https://carolinestrawson.com/ntic-waitlist Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   I've dedicated my life to understanding and overcoming the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. In this episode, I take you on a deeply personal journey, sharing how my own harrowing experience with a nar...

Join the waitlist for my Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coaching Certification:  https://carolinestrawson.com/ntic-waitlist   Order my NEW book here: https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   In this episode, I explore the importance of addressing trauma and narcissistic abuse not just through traditional talk therapy, but also through somatic and nervous system-based approaches. I am passionate a...

Order my NEW book here:  https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   In this episode, I explore the concept of reactive abuse - how narcissists can provoke their partners to react in ways that make the partner appear to be the abuser, when in fact they are the victim of the narcissist's manipulation.   I also discuss the feeling of not recognising oneself due to the changes in behaviour brought ab...

Order my NEW book here:  https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   Are you aware of the hidden relationship between ADHD and Trauma? Today I delve into ADHD and trauma, exploring how these two conditions often overlap and influence each other. By understanding this crossover, we can better support those affected by both ADHD and trauma.   ADHD and trauma can create a complex interplay of symptom...

Order my NEW book here:  https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   Are you stuck waiting for some external validation to prove that you are enough? That you deserve to be happy? Well guess what, you DO deserve to be happy, but you don’t need a knight in shining armour to come along and save you to prove it.   It’s easy to tie your worth to another person, but their validation may be narcissistic...

Order my NEW book here:  https://carolinestrawson.showit.site/book   There are ten distinct types of narcissism, but the most prevalent is the communal narcissist. 'Communal Narcissism' is characterised by the same sense of entitlement and grandiosity familiar from traditional narcissism, but is often hidden under the guise of doing the right thing.   When you first encounter a communal narcissist...

Order my NEW book here:  http://carolinestrawson.com/pre-order   It’s official – my new book has launched, and I’m absolutely thrilled to share it with you all! Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that I would be writing about my journey through a relationship with a covert narcissist. Eleven years ago, I hit rock bottom, both mentally and financially. Each day was a struggle to stave off pan...

Pre-order my NEW book here:  http://carolinestrawson.com/pre-order   Celebrities, just like regular people, sometimes face abusive relationships with narcissists. In this episode, I'll explore how these high-profile individuals cope with such challenges and heal from their emotional wounds. Drawing from my experience working with celebrities, I'll share valuable insights into their coping mechanis...

Pre-order my NEW book here:  http://carolinestrawson.com/pre-order   I knew that stress & trauma could cause physical issues, but I never knew it could affect your gums!   Following my abusive relationship and stressful divorce I began noticing the physical toll it took on me, but it’s only recently I noticed the impact on my gums. I have been ignoring frequent gum bleeding, but lately it has turn...