No Regretz Marriage

Summer, the sweet spot of marriage. Summer is a time ofvibrancy and health in the marriage. The relationship is fruitfull and growing. Husband and wife are being intentional about keeping their relationship the priority. This a great time in marriage, but to stay here in summer, it takes work. You have to beware of things that can push the relationship towards fall. Intentionality is key!

Just as we experience the change of the seasons as each year progresses, marriage too has its seasons of Spring, Summer, Fall, and Winter. The seasons are not about how long a couple has been married, but focuses on the characteristics of that season:​ The hopefulness of spring when new things are on the horizon, a time of excitement and anticipation. The vitality of summer when life is bustling....

Happy Anniversary! Carla and I just celebrated 39 years of marriage. It has always been smooth, but I can honestly say that our relationship has never been better. Join us as we share some of the key principles that got us to 39 years.

Last week we looked at women's desires with C.H.A.S.E. This week we look at a man's desires in marriage with C.A.S.H. Do you know what your spouse's greatest desires in marriage are? Ask them and you may be surprised.

What are your wife's greatest desires from you as her husband? Research, both secualar and Christian based, shows that many women have similar desires. While every women and marriage is unique, today's podcast will hopefully give you some insights. This is a great podcast to listen to as a couple and then discuss together as you continue to forge a stronger marriage.

What are you doing on a consistent basis to grow your marriage? With the busy schedules families have these days, it's not always easy for couples to keep their relationship the priority it needs to be. One of the best tools we have found is "The 5 Questions." We first saw these in a blog post by Mike Mobley and we have incorp[orated them into our own marriage , our coaching and into many of our r...

What exactly is marriage coaching. Most people have heard of marriage counseling, but a lot of people don't know what marriage coaching entails. Listen in and see if marriage coaching might help your relationship go from good to great!

Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Handle it right and it can strengthen your relationship. Handle it poorly and you relationship can seem like an endless nightmare. In this final episode of the Healthy Conflict series, we will discuss some tools that help you learn to deal with conflixt in a healthier way.

In part 2 of our series on how to handle conflict in a healthy way, we talk about some of the unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict that couples may fall into if they are not prepared. The four responses to conflict that can damage relationships include criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt. Leran to focus on the issues at hand and avoid these.

Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Whether it arises from differing opinions or is caused by deep wounding, every marriage will face some type of conflict. The key is to deal with conlict in a healthy way when it arises in a relationship. Handled in the right way, conflict can strengthen and grow your marriage. This is the first of a 3-part dseries on conflict.

What did you think marriage was going to be like? Who cooks? Where do you go for the holidays or vacations? All of us go into marriage with expectations, but when those expectations are unrealistic and unmet, problems arise. How do you respond when the expectations you have for marriage are not being met. We will ttake that on in this weeks podcast.

In the classic movie "Casablanca", Sam sings, "You must remember this, akiss is just a kiss." Is a kiss really just a kiss? In this episode we talk about the importance of romance in the marriage relationship. Who knew all that happens with "just a kiss."

In the the third episode of the Enemies of Intimacy series,, we talk about the enemy, selfishness. Intimacy is hard to grow if one or both spouses are consumed with the idea that marriage is all about them. The love that God calls us to is marked by putting others ahead of ourselves. Following Christ in selflessness is a key to growing an intimate marriage.

What are some of the enemies or barriers that keep couples from building deep intimacy in each of those areas. In part 2 of a 3-part series, we take a look at the second enemy of intimacy - pride.

Great marriages are marked by spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy. What are some of the enemies or barriers that keep couples from building deep intimacy in each of those areas. In part 1 of a 3-part series, we take a look at the first enemy of intimacy - busyness.

Intentionality is key to building a strong marriage. In part 2 of this topic, we talk about the last two of the three C's - Connecting to both God and our spouse, and learning to cherish your spouse.

Great marriages don't just happen. They result from coup[es being intentional about doing the things that build strong, vibrant, lasting marriages. If you are not intentional about buliding your marriage, you will drift along and before you know it, find yourself disconnected from your spouse and wondering how you got there. This podcast is the first of two focuseds on being intentional in your ma...

Paul tells us in Romans that, "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,." I don't know that we believed that 26 years ago when our third son, Cole, was born. He was our second child born with a congenital heart defect. In the years ahead though, God proved his promise to be true. It was hard, we didn't always handle the challenges well, but God used Cole to help t...

Walk the same route through a forest over and over and you create a pathway. You continue to follow it because it has been ingrained in your mind. Often, our family of origen has created the same type of pathways in our lives. We come into marriage with established ideas about what marriage will be like, what roles a husband or wife should take, how we should spend vacations and holidays. That's t...

One of the keys to healthy relationships is communication. It's not just the words that are spoken, but includes tone and body language as well. Evn silence can be a form of communication. How well do you and your spouse communicate? Do you go beyond sheduling and surface levels. Good communication skills are essential in building deep intimacy in your marriage.

One of the big challenges married couples can face is learning to deal with the differences in the way that men and women think. A college professor once said, "As different as men and women are physically, the difference in the way their brains work is even more profound." If you are not careful, you can make brain differences into heart differences. Couples need to learn to celebrate and appreci...

Marriages run on love. How full is your love tank? How about your spouse? be intentional about showing love to your spouse.

Why did God create marriage? Understanding the why can give you both hope and stamina when you face the challenges of life and marriage. “Marriage is the relationship designed by God, patterned after the relationship of the Trinity, whereby God joins together an individual man and women into one flesh, fulfilling our longing for companionship, intimacy, and vulnerability; designed to raise godly g...

Carla and I finish our story as God takes us through the hardest days of our lives. Life can be painful, but God's grace is sufficient.

With a new podcast some people might be wondering, "Why should I listen to these people?" In this episode, we share the beginning or our story and the challenges we faced. We will finish the story in the next episode. It can be a little heavy at times, but I hope you enjoy it.