No Boundaries: Black Girl Magic Edition with Anousha Nzume

Since we believe in free parenting, we also believe that we should educate our kids about sex. We talk about the logistics, the dangerous parts and the pleasurable parts, and what people can do to protect themselves. We also leave the door open for our kids to ask us questions or come to us if they feel they need someone to talk to.  But not everyone was raised that way, and not everyone believes...

Millions of people have generalized anxiety disorder and live with it every single day. Some people take medication, like Lulu does, to help with the symptoms. But medication doesn’t solve all of her problems. She still spirals and gets caught in thought loops that can completely take over her mind. And for someone who doesn’t have GAD, her line of thinking may not make any sense in the moment. It...

If you’re looking for a new show to watch that has actually accurate Gen Z representation, queer storylines, and a director who actually knows how to show off the real-life beauty of LA, then you’ll love the new hit series I Love LA. It has absolutely everything we wanted in a show, and it’s already made us superfans.  Some people will argue that representation isn’t important, that it just pander...

Not all men are toxic; some are actually pretty great. No, they weren’t born that way, and they didn’t fall out of the sky like beautiful angel babies. They’re real, grown men who undid the misogynistic script they were taught to stick to and decided to live in peace with the other genders rather than live against them.  Our friend Quinn didn’t learn how to undo the patriarchy by taking a super se...

Recently, Huda and Louis were on live, taking random fans’ calls, and one fan called Olandria a racial slur on speaker phone so the live and everyone watching could hear it. The two laughed in the moment and didn’t say anything to distance themselves from the slur or its implications until after the clip went viral. And even then, there were non-apologies everywhere. Now Huda has lost two major br...

We all have friends who have toxic dating patterns. They go back to the terrible boyfriend or find a different version of him at every club you go to together. Or maybe they’re the problem (no shade) and they’re being toxic and can’t see it. Either way, it has to get addressed one way or another.  This episode is not to victim blame anyone, so let’s get that out of the way. At the same time, recog...

There should be no reason that an attractive young woman like Olandria should feel like a handsome young white man like Nic wouldn’t be attracted to her. But growing up in the American South and dealing with issues like featurism and colorism can take a toll on your worldview. Since we didn’t know too much about the subject, we called in our friend Tanisha Feverett to help us explore and understan...

Disclaimer! This is not a dig at male relationships or friendships! Male friendships and relationships are beautiful when they’re healthy and come with open communication. But when you’re whole life revolves around pleasing your friends and begging for their approval, that’s when we have to talk about it.  We’ve talked about homosocial relationships before. In our Love Island episode, we talked ab...

The Nicolandriacore account has revolutionized the way we watch Love Island USA. They were there for us during the good, the bad, and the ugly. They were hosting events before Nic and Olandria were together, and they blew up when they finally got together. They were the first to post updates and sometimes got exclusive content from Nic and Olandria themselves. And now, as our very first guests, na...

Puberty happens to everyone, whether we like it or not. And it can be such a confusing time for everyone involved. The child is going through such an extreme change, and the parents are overwhelmed with how to handle this. It can all be too much if you don’t know what you should be doing.  That’s why we want to share how our family handled puberty, so maybe it can help you handle puberty at your h...

The evil light-skins, Toby, Jonny, and Tyrique, are back, and this time, they’re worse! All three of them are in the same season of the same show, and, of course, they are wreaking havoc on all of the contestants. As usual, the women are feeling the brunt of their insanity, so naturally, we have to talk about it.  We haven’t forgotten about everything you’ve done, Toby, Jonny, and Tyrique. Between...

There is a huge Love Island debate going on right now, and we have to say, we think we’re on the winning team. Fans are going back and forth trying to decide if Nic and Olandria are a real couple, and we say they are! Look into their eyes, people, it has to be love.  And, let’s play devil's advocate, even if they aren’t in love per se, who cares? Why do they have to be ”faking it” or “lying to the...

The Ultimatum: Queer Love is one of our favorite queer shows on TV right now. While the contestants can be messy and a little bit toxic, the show does give an accurate representation of WLW relationships. Sometimes when you don’t see yourself in the media, it can be easy to lose sight of what’s realistic in a relationship.  It’s important to remind ourselves which fights are worth having and when...

Huda’s time on Love Island USA has brought to light some behaviors that make up what we now know as BPD. From the cursing, the tantrums, and the 0-100 behavior, Huda is exhibiting many of the signs that she may be living with Borderline Personality Disorder. And while BPD diagnoses have only recently entered the mainstream, many people have been living with BPD for a long time, sometimes their ent...

It’s so important to know our LGBTQIA+ history - now more than ever. If you’re going to celebrate and party all night, then you need to know why you can go out and party all night. People fought and died for your right to be out and free. Pillars of the community like Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera need to be remembered because when we know where we came from, we know why we can’t go back.  O...

Social media has turned our current social culture on its head. People can have parasocial relationships with absolute strangers, teens are finding it harder and harder to socialize in real life, and parents have no idea how to regulate any of it. And should parents even be regulating social media use? It's a common question that no one seems to have the answer to.  There might not be any broa...

Internalized misogyny will inevitably eventually creep into female friendships, especially as we start to get older and start caring more about the opposite sex. It's just how the system works. But does it have to ruin every single friendship we care about? Not necessarily.  Female friendships are so beautiful and so fulfilling. The best part of our days is oftentimes the hours we spend hanging ou...

If you’ve been listening to our podcast from the beginning, then you know that our co-host Lulu has been in an abusive relationship before. It was devastating and incredibly confusing to go through at the time. Now that it’s been a few years, Lulu is ready to talk about just how abusive this relationship was and how she finally ended it once and for all.  And this topic isn’t just about straight r...

Hook-up culture can be a way to explore your sexuality in a fun, no-strings-attached way. Both of our hosts have had (safe and healthy) hook-ups, make-out sessions, and one-night stands. It’s a part of growing up, and it helped us become the women we are today. Female sexuality is not often talked about. Mainstream media tells us to keep our legs closed and our virginity to ourselves until we get...

Disordered eating is such a nuanced topic, especially when your family can see how it’s affecting you and when you can see how it’s affecting them. On top of that, there’s society’s idea of what is healthy and beautiful, and usually, it means being as thin as possible. So while you know your behaviors are hurting you, someone may think you’re doing what’s right for you. We’ve had friends and famil...

Dieting, binging, and purging are all signs that what our host, Anousha, was experiencing was an eating disorder. But that didn’t matter at the time. What mattered was that she was a size 6, and everyone else her age was a size 0. Growing up, people were always commenting on her weight, pressuring her to lose a few pounds, and even poking at her body when she was a young girl. It wasn’t until Anou...

Hot Take: Ultra strict parenting styles do not work. So why do some parents still swear by them? They think that by isolating their kids and imposing restrictive rules on their teens that they’re protecting them. But it turns out that these parents are doing more harm than good.  Take this week’s guest is Nayelli. Nayelli has been friends with our co-host Lulu  since they were sixteen. Lulu saw ho...

Parenting styles are tricky. Some people do free parenting, like our family, and give their children a bit more freedom at a younger age. Some parents are more strict and want to have a bit more control over their kids in order to keep them safe. Each parenting style comes with its own benefits and consequences, and since we don’t know much about the stricter parenting style, we’re going to talk t...

Adolescence sheds light on how violent communities can indoctrinate young boys through social media. The main character, Jamie, is only thirteen, but he is accused of murdering a female classmate over bullying he faced on social media. But as the show goes on, we start to see Will verbalize dangerous dog whistles that prove that he may have started to deeply resent women and want to punish them in...

Love is love. No matter what. In this week’s episode, we’re talking all about coming out, exploring our sexuality, and embracing a beautiful thing called love. Lulu shares her personal experience with being outed — a moment that should have been her choice, not someone else's. But as you know, if you’ve been listening to the first few episodes of the podcast, this person is horrible. While being o...