New Life Live

Caller Questions: How do I curb my lustful desire to look at good-looking women? I stopped using porn 20yrs ago.  How do I forgive my dead father so I can receive and give love well?  My husband has watched porn and had affairs for 25yrs; how do you know if it’s an addiction?  I went to Restore and it was painful but good to be with other women going through the same thing.  I’ve been...

Caller Questions: My husband had sex with a prostitute a month ago right before he went to Every Man’s Battle workshop; what are my next steps?  How can I stop thinking of the married woman I used to be friends with and still care about?  How do I get rid of my anger? I get angry but don’t speak my mind and tell others why I’m upset.  My dad put me into the hero role, and my sist...

Caller Questions: When should I say yes if I struggle with rejection and boundaries and then turn to overeating?  My 6yo stepgrandson wets his pants; do you have any advice for my son who is his stepfather?  Am I doing the right thing to get my 12yo grandson to talk about his mom who died of a drug overdose?  How do we help our 33yo son who lives across the country? He is depressed after his engag...

Caller Questions: My fiancée and I both have PTSD. How can I be there to support her when we are both triggered?  I am going through a divorce that I don’t want. How do I demonstrate to my wife hope and reconciliation for our marriage?  My wife and I are separated and she has developed a cocaine addiction. How do I get her off drugs? 

Caller Questions: My wife puts her job and kids from her previous marriage before me; what is the biblical perspective?  What can I do if I’m estranged from my 32yo adult son who will only communicate by texting? His dad and I are divorced.  How do I handle my husband being addicted to porn since he was 10yo? We are separated because he won’t be honest with me and looked up porn in a support...

Caller Questions: Should I do more to build relationship with my narcissistic sister who only has superficial conversations with me?  How much should I share with a friend about why I left a church? The pastor’s wife thought I was trying to bring a revolt against her.  I’m a 66yo virgin who struggles with porn; why is God punishing me? 

Caller Questions: Did I make the right decision to set boundaries with a man who only wants a friends with benefits relationship?  Do you have any words of wisdom as I have stage 3 colon cancer and am staying in a hotel because my husband is emotionally unavailable?  How can I help my adult daughter who battles depression after losing her dad to COVID? 

Caller Questions: Because of you, I made a decision to not shake my fist at God or numb out my pain after my adult son recently died in a bridge collapse.  At Thanksgiving should I tell my son why I was cold and harsh to him when he was a little boy?  What is your opinion of Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation therapy? My 20yo daughter has suicidal thoughts.  What does the Bible say about divorce? I...

Caller Questions: My 69yo husband with Parkinson’s demands sex once a week despite being impotent.  My niece won’t talk to me after I offended her; how much time should I give her?  Can you explain more about an exercise on forgiveness in your book Healing is a Choice ?  My adult daughters discovered my husband had been having an affair for 36yrs. 

Caller Questions: I’m dating a man who gets angry easily; do I continue dating him if I can’t trust him?  After 40yrs, how do I press on with my wife’s borderline personality disorder? 

Caller Questions: I came into my marriage with sexual addiction and caused my wife to have PTSD with my disclosure. How do we navigate her triggers?  Restore was lifechanging for me!  I’m in my 60’s and engaged. I’m choosing to love but don’t have feelings of love. Is this a red flag?  How do I set boundaries with family? Also, how do I get help for my brother who has schiz...

Caller Questions: Since the Bible talks about abstaining from the appearance of evil, Christians shouldn’t participate in Halloween.  I was sexually abused as a child and couldn’t play with other kids; can you explain what happens in the brain when this happens?  On Halloween, Christians get it right by being accepting and kind to odd-looking strangers who come to their door.  Do I stay with...

Caller Questions: My husband packed up his car and left after I found out he had an emotional affair. I’ve been extremely critical of him; is it too late for us?  Should I tell my adult kids not to go to the restaurant where the woman works who had an affair with my husband? My kids don’t know he had an affair.  How can I know if I need counseling? What are the signs?  How do I lovingly tell...

Caller Questions: How do we do tough love with our 19yo son who lives with us and smokes pot? He has been charged with a misdemeanor.  My abusive husband died 7yrs ago, but I can’t get past being terrified of men. Where do I go from here?  Although I can minister to others and God delivered me from drugs and abuse from my prostitute mom, I still don’t believe God cares for me. 

Caller Questions: What’s the right thing to do? I want to tell my 9yo daughter that my husband is not her biological dad, but my husband doesn’t want me to.  My 25yo son struggles with a porn addiction. How can I help the Christian girl he is living with?  Where in the Bible does it say to call someone by the gender name they prefer?  The COVID lockdown was a blessing to us because we had our coll...

Caller Questions: What is generational trauma? I don’t want to pass on to my children the trauma from my husband’s adultery or my childhood abuse.  I lost my great job and now I can’t take care of myself. I really don’t know who I am or where to go from here.  How can I salvage my marriage? My husband tells me every day that he is miserable and wants to leave me. 

Caller Questions: I need spiritual warfare help for my 9yo disabled daughter who says she sees children who aren’t there and they tell her to do bad things.  Is there any difference between listening to an audio Bible versus reading the Bible?  How do I get out of my on-again, off-again relationship with my girlfriend? I have bipolar disorder and am a recovering alcoholic.  How do I show my Christ...

Caller Questions: I was abused so badly as a child that I was covered in cigarette burns; watching the movie I Can Only Imagine helped me.  Do I legally separate or divorce my husband of 54yrs who has been leading a double life? He was an airline pilot and had numerous affairs.  How do I speak in love to my granddaughter after she divorced her husband and is now in a lesbian relationship?

Caller Questions: What can I do if my 31yo twin sons stop talking to me for months even though they say they love me?  We are newlyweds, but I’ve never met my father-in-law.  My brother-in-law molested my daughter when she was a child, and my husband didn’t do anything. She is now a 35yo meth addict and is going to jail; what can I do?  I promised my parents before they passed that I would stay cl...

Caller Questions: How do I deal with parental alienation with my 19yo daughter? She was 17yo when I divorced, and now she is married.  Our 15yo son is receiving sexually suggestive texts from his friend; how should my husband talk to him about it? 

Caller Questions: How do I address my older child being very upset that my 22yo child is living at home and going to college but not working?  How do I move forward if my mom doesn’t want me to tell my older siblings that I have a different father?  My lesbian daughter has a partner and has been estranged from me for 3yrs. How do I restore the relationship? 

Caller Questions: I caught my wife sexting and lying about it; how do I forgive her? Like your first caller, my wife had affairs and my marriage was unable to be fixed.  I had a porn addiction, and reading Every Young Man’s Battle helped me to commit to making changes!  My 22yo daughter gained eighty pounds since getting married, and I saw a half-empty vodka bottle. Where do I start with her...

Caller Questions: What should I do to stop my wife from divorcing me? She just moved out due to our arguments.  I’m a pleaser in a friendship with a narcissist who always plays the victim; how do I put up healthy boundaries?  Steve, would you repeat your concise steps of recovery you talked about on the New Life cruise? How do I start all over again after I divorced my abusive husband? 

Caller Questions: I want to do what you do! Do you have any advice on what path I should take to be a therapist?  As a recovering alcoholic, what do I tell my adult son when his church friends tell him he only needs God and not AA?  Will I lose my salvation for dating a transgender woman? 

Caller Questions: After you gave me advice for my food addiction relapse, I met with my therapist and uncovered some reasons why.  My daughter found out her husband talked to other women before their marriage in May. What can she do now that he is deployed?