New Life Live

Caller Questions: How do I help my friend whose life imploded after she lost her marriage and job? I think she might struggle with shame and learned helplessness.  My wife thinks it’s OK our 12yo son skips church every Sunday for travel softball; how do I get her to support me in saying no?  Do I need to back off on the boundaries I’ve set for my 17yo daughter? She is mimicking her mom who has bor...

Caller Questions: How do I desire to look and think sexually about no one except my wife?  What does forgiveness look like? My parents divorced and my dad recently married a woman who is 25yrs younger than him.  Is it normal for me to have a lot of anxiety about marrying my boyfriend if everything is going well with him? 

Caller Questions: Am I doing the right thing in filing for legal separation if my husband gambles and there’s no change happening?  How can I encourage my husband, without nagging, to keep more in touch with his family?  My sister has Lyme disease; it seems like she may be in psychosis because she claims I physically abused her.  My 20yo granddaughter is using marijuana and no longer talks t...

Caller Questions: I have trouble dealing with people who are habitual complainers and only call me with problems.  What should my next step be if I’m thinking of asking my husband to move out? He went to Every Man’s Battle, and we went to Intimacy in Marriage, but he never made any changes.  I coach kids and am very overloaded, so I don’t have much to give to my family when I get...

Caller Questions: I’ve been married 38yrs and have eight children; where do I go from here after forgiving my husband for over 25 affairs?  What do you think about cognitive behavioral therapy? I have tinnitus and now insomnia, and my doctor encouraged me to do this therapy.  What does the Lord want me to do? My 18yo son is gay, and his boyfriend stays overnight in our home.  How do I navigate my...

Caller Questions: Do I need to ask for more forgiveness from my stepmom? There was a disagreement around planning my bridal shower 5yrs ago. How do I get my 75yo dad into treatment for alcohol addiction?  I feel stuck in life because the man I’ve been dating for 8yrs is an alcoholic, and I’m disabled; what’s holding me back?  How can I best help my friend who is struggling to discipline her 10yo s...

Caller Questions: What’s your opinion on God doing a bad job creating humans? Adam, Eve, and Noah all failed.  After physically attacking me twice 20yrs ago, my daughter says she would do it again.  How do I communicate the issues I have with my senior pastor without him feeling disrespected? 

Caller Questions: A young couple has come to live with us; can you give me help on how to set boundaries?  How do I deal with my aging father who wants to move out of the independent living facility we just moved him to last week? Should I share my concerns with my husband of 30yrs that his sister is a covert narcissist?  Do I try to help my adult nephew who is going through psychosis and may be h...

Caller Questions: Do I get a divorce if my husband takes his whole paycheck and gives it to the drug dealers? I am concerned with my grandkids whose house is cluttered and their hygiene is bad; how do I talk to my son and daughter-in-law about this? What should I do if my second husband drinks and I don’t feel like I can rely on him? My first husband was abusive and also drank. My son says h...

Caller Questions: My son-in-law struggles with sex addiction, and my daughter had an emotional affair; how much do my husband and I get involved?  How do I back off from acting like a life coach to my 32yo son who has bipolar disorder and has been to psychiatric hospitals six times?”  I’m depressed, have lost weight, and feel alone after my partner of 30yrs got cancer and died; how do I move forwa...

Caller Questions: My 19yo son lost his grandmother and then his dad, and now he is verbally abusive to me. How do I love him and put up boundaries?  How do I keep going if my adult kids don’t want to be a family and my grandkids aren’t allowed to be together?  What’s the difference between physical and mental burn out?  My husband strangled me and framed me as a bad mom, so I don’t have custody of...

Caller Questions: I went to Restore and when my husband gave me a full disclosure, I realized I wasn’t crazy!  After my husband of 30yrs betrayed me, I am struggling to love him; how do I get that love back?  I’m 64yo and have always lived in fear; how can I do what God wants me to do if I’m afraid?  I stepped out on my husband of 20yrs, and he has filed for divorce. Everything i...

Caller Questions: How do I control my anger and communicate better with my girlfriend of 4yrs? She never learned to communicate growing up.  Two adult children are living on our property and paying rent, and my daughter is upset that she and her fiancé pay more than her brother.  My 16yo son is unmotivated and doesn’t want to go to school; what angle do I work at to get him to do things? 

Caller Questions: What’s the best way for me to show my 14yo gay grandson that I support him? I’m 2yrs sober and don’t want to take medication for my anxiety.  I called you last year about a woman that I was involved with emotionally whose husband had Alzheimer’s and wanted to give you an update.  My wife gets a lot of notifications from men on social media; if she doesn&#8...

Caller Questions: I attended Every Man’s Battle last weekend and couldn’t be happier that I went!  Is it wrong to not want to stay in a marriage where my husband of 28yrs refuses to get help?  I became a Club New Life member years ago and am so thankful for the lives that have been changed!  What is my next step with my husband of 4yrs who just shared that he came into the marriage with a lot of d...

Caller Questions: My 13yo son is homeschooled and wants to go to public school; should I let him?  Do I confront my 24yo drug-addicted daughter about her pregnancy? I took her to the doctor, but he never gave her a pregnancy test.  I have an unhealthy attachment to my ex-husband even after we’ve been divorced for 15yrs; how do I set boundaries with him?  What do I do after my husband filed for div...

Caller Questions: I’ve been estranged from my adult son for 3yrs and found out he is transitioning to a woman; how can I have a relationship if he won’t respond?  How do I support my daughter after finding out her husband had an affair when she was pregnant? I want to be Jesus to him but not approve of his affair.  My home business has been very successful but has depleted me to the po...

Caller Questions: How can I be free from the unforgiveness that causes me to overeat and be bitter, angry, and anxious?  Is it possible that my husband can’t show affection? He rejects my advances.  Do I leave my alcoholic husband if I just can’t do it anymore? He is ruining our family.  How do we do an intervention with my 44yo son who is in denial of his marijuana addiction and is mo...

Caller Questions: If you had a 21yo granddaughter who has bipolar disorder and ADD, what would you do? She was living in the woods in a tent.  My wife told me she didn’t want our marriage, so I packed up my bags and left.  My daughter is getting married to a woman and wants me to give her away; how can I tell her that I don’t want to take part?  I’m homeless since September becau...

Caller Questions: I was a single mom and I think it’s so powerful for parents to tell their kids when they are wrong and feel sorry.  I’ve been married over 35yrs, but there’s no communication or intimacy, and I feel like I’m all alone.  After absence due to military deployment, divorce and remarriage, how do I have relationship with my estranged adult daughter? 

Caller Questions: I’m a tattoo artist and my fiancée is a model who does lingerie photo shoots. Where should I draw the line in how she uses her sexuality?  My emotionally distant husband of 7yrs is abrasive and tells me he hasn’t healed from his previous marriage.  Do we try to have a conversation with our nephew about our concerns for his 6yo daughter? She gets bounced between his home and her m...

Caller Questions: How do I strengthen my marriage without being criticized by my wife for everything I say?  I was at Every Man’s Battle this weekend as an alumnus, and I wanted to let people know it is a life-changing program!  My 40yo daughter has made comments about me being passive aggressive; can you give me clarification on what that means?  My 11yo daughter is struggling with social m...

Caller Questions: My 24yo stepson is a heavy metal drummer and wears really ugly clothes; what do I do?  What’s the connection between lack of self-control, anger, and porn addiction?  I have two teen stepdaughters who lost their mother to brain cancer 9yrs ago; what can I do to help them grieve? 

Caller Questions: How do I deal with the grief of all three of our adult kids turning away from God and us? Holidays and birthdays are so hard.  My wife separated from me 11mos ago and wrote in an email that our spirituality was at two different levels; how do I respond?  I’m saved, love the Lord, and looking for a guy to date who can be a godly father for my 3yo boy. 

Caller Questions: How do I react to not being invited over to my son-in-law and daughter’s house for New Year’s? They said my ex-husband doesn’t want me and my new husband there.  Do I move on or try to find my autistic grandson after my 41yo son stopped talking to me? My son put charges on my credit card and owes me the money.  My well-known neighbors tried to have me arrested and have fined me f...