Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Dr. Veronica Anderson is a medical doctor and an intuitive who is helping people throughout the world better understand themselves, their partners and other important people in their lives. During this episode, she shares a little about her professional journey and her neurodiverse family. In addition, Dr. Veronica provides information on the impact of the 3 parts of the mind: cognitive, affective...

During this episode with guest co-host Dr. Bronwyn Wilson, we talk about what it looks like to find the "Goldilocks Zone"...the "just right" for neurodiverse couples and what might be preventing couples from finding the path towards thriving in their relationship, including: The importance of both partners accepting the autism diagnosis, or self identification. Denial can lead...

WARNING: During this episode we talk about anxiety, depression, suicide and substance use. If these issues are difficult to hear about, please take care of yourself if you decide to listen to this episode. This is the last episode with my wonderful guest co-host, Nicole Knowlton. During our discussion. we go in-depth on some very important, and sometimes very emotional topics that we haven't discu...

During this episode, Katie Zitterbart shares a little about her neuro-spicy journey and the importance of double empathy and neuro-spicy embodiment and sexual health. In addition, we discuss: The importance of understanding the perception of others. Discerning between neuro-spicy traits and the impact of CPTSD. The autistic brain is "bottom up" and the allistic brain is "top down&qu...

During this episode, Mona is joined by Heather Parks and Natalie Roberts from the Loving Difference online community. Heather and Natalie have been on the podcast numerous times and they were both amazing presenters at the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference. On this collaborative episode, the conversation focuses on three myths that may be the source of some of the challenges you and your partner a...

For more then 20 years, Dr. Kenneth Roberson has been providing therapy for both autistic individuals and neurodiverse couples and he also conducts ASD assessments.. During this episode he shares some of the topics he discusses with clients to provide support and guidance for autistic clients who want to have successful dating experiences. Some of the topics addressed include: The importance of fo...

This is the last episode with one of the Season 5 guest co-hosts, Greg Fuqua. During this episode, we address a topic from a listener who wanted to explore the way we often look at emotional differences in a neurodiverse relationship as either “logical” or “emotional”. She suggested that maybe it would be helpful to change the way we describe emotional responses and consider using terms like “expr...

On May 30, 2018, Mona and her ex-husband divorced after 30 years of marriage. While that was one of the most emotionally difficult days of Mona's life, she took the time to heal and created Neurodiverse Love to help others learn from her lived experiences and lessons learned, as well as the expertise and experiences from others. In this solo episode, Mona talks about some of the emotional, com...

During this episode, Jes Diverges shares a little about her AuDHD journey, the lessons she has learned along the way (and in her current relationship), as well as the work she is doing to help other neurodivergent folks. (Please excuse the technical difficulties we had for the first few minutes of the episode...thanks!) Some of the topics Jes addresses include: Knowing where your partner is, accep...

In this solo episode, Mona addresses some important issues that are repeatedly discussed in the support groups she facilitates for neurodiverse couples and neurotypical/non-autistic partners. The topics are: 1) the importance of being vulnerable and real in your intimate relationships and creating emotional safety so this can happen; 2) The impact of feeling stuck in life and in your relationship...

During this episode with guest co-host Dr. Bronwyn Wilson, we address the challenges that many neurodiverse couples experience because of communication differences. We discuss what it takes to create a win-win conversation and the ways in which many neurotypical/non-autistic partners use prompts to create connection with their partners. This process is called the "Prompt Dependency Cycle&quot...

During this episode, Mona and Nicole Knowlton discuss the importance of self-acceptance and self-love, for both partners and how our negative thoughts can impact our relationships. Understanding how different thoughts feel in our bodies and learning more about what we may need to work on and how we can have more healthy stress responses can be so healing and helpful. We also discuss the benefits o...

During this episode, Shawna and Kevin Meek talk about how different their marriage, and their lives, could have been if they had known Kevin was autistic 20+ years ago. Kevin received his autism diagnosis less then 6 months ago, at the age of 50. Since that time, he and Shawna have worked together to learn how they can thrive individually and as a neurodiverse couple, and they share how different...

During this episode, guest co-host Bronwyn Wilson shares more about her seminal research with neurodiverse couples. In addition, we provide an in-depth look at how alexythymia and having different emotional needs may be impacting your understanding of your partner. So many misunderstandings can occur when one or both partners don't understand what they are feeling, or the emotions they may be...

During this episode with therapist and coach, Lisa Anzaldua, we talk about ways in which the neurotypical/non-autistic partner can heal and thrive after experiencing "unknown neurodiversity" and Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome aka: Cassandra Syndrome. We address the ways in which Lisa helps others heal through her support groups, therapy and coaching. The topics discussed include the follo...

We recorded this episode on March 31, 2023, which was International Transgender Visibility Day. During this episode, we talk about how differences in identity can be used as a way to divide people through fear. Whether you are neurodivergent, LGBTQ+, or different in some other way that some people may not understand, we hope you will find this episode enlightening and inspiring. According to the A...

During this episode, Mona and her guest co-host Nicole Knowlton share how "unknown" autism and neurodiversity impacted the relationships they had with their neurodivergent father's (and other members of their families). In addition, they address how the issues in their "family of origin" impacted their relationships with their ex-husbands. The other topics addressed include...

During this episode, Mona is joined by her guest co-host, Dr. Bronwyn Wilson. Together, they share information about masking and camouflaging from the neurotypical/non-autistic perspective. Some of the topics addressed include: What masking looked like in our families and relationships. How unknown neurodiversity impacts masking and camouflaging. Masking to avoid conflict and as a coping mechanism...

During this episode, Renee Rosales, the Founder of Theara shares the journey that she and her family have traveled to better understand the strengths, differences, challenges and learning opportunities that neurodiversity brings to their lives. Renee talks about how being an advocate for her son, took her down a path that helped pave the way for her passion for the "neurodiverse collective".   Thr...

During this episode,  Mona is joined by her guest co-host Greg Fuqua for a great conversation about unidentified autism, awareness and understanding of autism, recognizing and normalizing autism, and the Generation Gap.   Greg was also a guest on Season 4 of the podcast, so if you haven't listened to that episode please check it out. Other topics we discuss are: The change in prevalence...

If you missed the First Virtual Neurodiverse Love Conference, no worries...tickets are still available for $98 at: www.neurodiverselove.com.  You will be able to hear the 27 Fantastic pre-recorded conference presentations & check out some of the Q&A chats that were held during the conference.  All of the conference sessions will be available to watch until May 15, 2023. ____...

If you missed the Neurodiverse Love Conference, tickets are still available for $98 at: www.neurodiverselove.com.  You will be able to hear the 27 pre-recorded conference presentations &  check out some of the Q&A chats from the conference.   All of the conference sessions will be available to watch until May 15, 2023. ________________________________________________________...

During this episode, Mona talks about some of the emotions and feelings both partners may experience when one or both discovers they are a neurodiverse couple. She shares the shame she felt when she was struggling with postpartum depression for 2 years and attempts to normalize the feeling of not wanting to disclose to others what you are experiencing for fear of how people will respond or judge y...

Dr. Bronwyn Wilson is an educator, researcher and author.  In her personal life she is married to an autistic man and in a neurodiverse family.  Increasing understanding of neurodiverse relationships is her passion, and she will be one of the three guest co-hosts joining Mona for Season 5 of the Neurodiverse Love podcast. During this episode, we talk about the fact that many people still...

Liz  McClanahan is a therapist who is in a neurodiverse marriage and family.  During this episode, she talks about the expectations she had and the work she did after her and her husband divorced and then remarried (before they knew they were a neurodiverse couple).  She also shares how her husband's autism diagnosis changed "everything" in their relationship and family.  For t...