My Coach Kate

Skin in the game is a phrase that you have most likely heard before, maybe used yourself. But have you thought about how it can be used as an effective tool to help others get involved. Having 'skin in the game' gives someone more benefits than just taking a little bit of risk, hoping for a good outcome. We are going to talk about the way that you can use this concept in any area of your...

We all listen to other people's stories, hear them complain about a problem, and defend themselves to explain to you their side and their perspective. There is a secret trick that coaches use, that will help you to look at that situation differently. Once you see it, it's hard to unsee it. Once you know it, you can actually help someone that wants help with a problem. Listen to this epis...

When was the last time that you got into a little tiff with your significant other? We all have those moments when we are in disagreement. If it's not with our spouse, or partner, then it can happen in the other important relationships in our life. How do you handle it? How do you wish that you handled it? I want to share some insights into when it happens in my life. 

How many of us set goals for ourselves and then, somewhere along the way, we get stuck? We find that have have some goals lingering around that to-do list and we just don't accomplish them. And we might be a little stressed, because other people are seeing us not accomplish these things that they know that we want to achieve for ourselves. Let's talk, today, about the benefit of having a...

This week I am sharing a small, but personal example of a moment in which I find myself instantly irritated. We all have those moments when something happens, or someone does something or says something that triggers us and we instantly feel that familiar feeling of irritation. This week will give you a practical guide for handling those moments and getting back on track, with some understanding o...

Do you ever think about the fact that we wake up each day and think about all of the things in exactly the same way that we thought about them the day before? Our brain loves consistency and 'auto-pilot'. What if we shifted one of our thoughts just a little? What effect would that having in our life? A big effect? A small one? Let's jump in with some practical examples to see what w...

What do you picture in your mind when you think about yourself in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years? Does he or she seem like a stranger to you? How do you even start stepping in to that role when it all feels so unfamiliar and not so comfortable? We are going to talk about new habits, neural pathways, and baby steps, so that you can start becoming that future version of yourself. 

Most of us budget our money based on what income is coming in and where are money seems to go out. It is done after the fact. Then we work to pay off any debts, try to save any money left over, and look to the future to when we will have extra to spend on the things that we love. Or me might spend on some of those things now, building up more debt and then feel guilty for spending after-the-fact....

When a child comes to you and tells you what they accomplished: they scored a goal, they wrote their name, they shared with a friend, how do you respond? Sometimes we don't think much about exactly what we say, but is there a best way to do this? If we want to create the best possible soil for children to grow, how do we do that in a practical way? This podcast will give you the exact words t...

Have you ever been in a situation, in which you can begin to feel angry towards someone, or something, but you weren't quite sure why? We are going to talk about anger and about how we might use that as a security blanket. What are we protecting ourself from, really? Let's jump in and take a look with some examples. 

Who are your friends? Your true friends, your life-long friends? Let's have a real discussion about my friends and about why I might keep a friend and why I might not keep a friend. How do you make that decision and what is the right decision for you? Let's dive in and talk 'all things friends'. 

What are other people thinking? Do we really know? I think that most of the time, we THINK that we know. And what we make someone else's thoughts mean, determines what we think, how we feel, and how we act. What happens when we become aware that we truly don't know what someone else is really thinking? Let's talk about one really fun way to handle this. One way that can completely c...

What have you heard about manifesting? Maybe you are an expert and you easily call the things that you want to you. Or maybe you have heard a little bit, but it all sounds very woo-woo. Or, maybe it's all new to you and you are curious about what it is all about. Either way, come on in and listen to some tips and tricks to start manifesting at the highest level, whether or not you have ever t...

We all have a closet full of self-care strategies. But some of our closets are quite messy. We forget what is in there. Some things in there may no longer fit us or are just not what we really want anymore. We are going to do a closet clean-out together. Let's start by pulling everything out and finding out what is really in there. Once we are done, you will have an organized beautiful space...

Have you ever told yourself, when you make a choice to stick to your goal or to take actions against your goal, that those small little choices didn't matter? That it was easier to take the comfortable, familiar actions that you were used to choosing every day? Here's an analogy that might be able to help you. We all want to become that version of ourself that achieves that goal and move...

We all grow up with some ideas of what is supposed to happen in our lives. And some ideas of what things are not supposed to happen. We just accept it as truth. But let's take a look at what invisible filter or layer that it creates in our life and how it can change our perception and our expectations. We probably aren't even aware that this filter is there, or that we have the power to...

If you asked all of your friends, family, acquaintances what the ONE word was that described you, what would it be? Would they all come up with the same word? What would you WANT the word to be? Let's talk about what you consistently put at the forefront of how you live your life and see if it is something that you do deliberately. 

What are the tiny moments of connection that you have with other people, or with yourself, that add a lot of richness and meaning to your life? Let's break them down and see what those moments have in common, so that we can add them to our life. Adding more of these moments in can bring a fullness and a lot of meaning to your existence, and we will look at how they actually take very little e...

This week we talk about our brain. Specifically our brain, when it is focusing on the past, when it is focusing on the future, and what we can do to get that darn thing to focus on the present moment. Why do we want to look at the present? How does it benefit us? And how can we get that energy- conserving brain to learn that skill and form the habit of being in the moment. 

Let's talk about diet. We all try to eat pretty healthy, most of the time. Right? Maybe some of us more than others. There is one thing that we might be missing. A connection between what we are eating and how we are feeling every day. I am going to give you examples of when this is obvious and, in what ways, we might totally miss the boat on this. I will share with you what I am doing to res...

When things don't go as planned, what is your reaction? Is it hard? Is there blame? Who do you blame? We tend to thing that when things are not our fault, it makes us feel better. Listen to this episode to learn the secret benefit of taking on that responsibility for our part in things. You might be surprised!

Have you ever sat at the beach and watched the surfers ride the waves? It is so fun to see them, both, succeed and ride a wave all the way in, and to see them fall, but get right back up again, paddle back out and take on another wave. Let's dive in and see what we can learn from this analogy that can help us to build our problem-solving skills and become a great surfer in the game of life. 

To round up our series on temper tantrums, let's look at when adults have those same big feelings. We should know what to do, right? I mean, after all, we are adults. But sometimes our nervous system gets high-jacked. And we find ourselves in a trauma response: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. How do we un-high-jack that system and learn to do something new?

Do you have an infant in your life? At some point in time, we are around a crying baby. If you do have an infant in your life and you are in a position to help that child learn the important skill of self-soothing, then this is the episode for you. If you have an infant yourself and that baby wants to be held all the time? Then drop what is in your hands, get comfortable, and listen immediately. T...

This is part 2 in our Temper Tantrum mini-series. What are the things that you can be pro-active about, so that you can ward off those inevitable melt-downs before they happen? Is it possible to tantrum-proof your child? We will talk about what kind of expectations that you should have and what the practical steps are that you can take to teach a child about boundaries. As they learn to better abl...