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We live in a fallen and broken world. There is no doubt that people disappoint us and we become discouraged. Perhaps we didn’t get a job we wanted or the promotion we thought we deserved. What about a failed relationship or even financial challenges that seem insurmountable.  When you have a challenge before you, there is purpose in front of you!

I am pretty sure we aren’t here on this side of eternity to always be seeking and striving for something different than what we have been given, but rather to trust that if God made us, he doesn’t make junk and we should be happy, content and loving self because its who he made us to be! I do however believe that what happens on the insides of our bodies overflows to our ability to love ourselves...

Our health deteriorates when these things happen. When we eat sugar, carbohydrates, and sugary alcohol and beverage - that feeds the yeast in our bodies and when yeast grows, it becomes a beast of brain fog, sugar cravings, mood swings, increased belly fat, indigestion, acid reflux, bloating, gas, IBS, thyroid dysfunction, constipation, diarrhea, headaches, insomnia, lack of concentration, anxiety...

How do you do with recall of that year?  So many of us have people we know who are no longer with us. How do you recall or even honor a time of life that hurt so many people.  Some people find their voice in tragedy and some people lose it. Sometimes we even lose our voice because we can’t articulate our truest thoughts. I will not lie and tell you there were times (not extended) but brief times w...

This is the narrative I tell myself every day.  There is not a day that goes by where I don’t have doubt or fear creep in. They usually go hand in hand. Not a day that goes by where the enemy tries to ask me just like he asked Eve, “is this really what God said?” Is this really what God has called you to? Because THIS right here is hard. This is uncomfortable. Would God  really want YOU to be unco...

choosingthebestyou.com My question for you, is are you on the road to where God desires you to be? What will you do there? Do you know where you are going and is God in it?  Have you prayed and sought him for what he wants versus what you want   I know so many people who put limitations on their lives for what God can do based on what they want. It’s sad to see. It's sad to see people with limitin...

I have done a lot of assumptions in my life. I assume that if I work hard and make a great living that I can live accordingly right? If I can build this home or buy a home in a certain area that I deserve to live there? Just because we can do certain things, doesn’t mean we should. We are learning that God blesses us so we can bless others and that those worldly things we think we want, need and d...

Clearly, God responds. He wants our relationship with Him to be our consuming passion—what we think about, what we talk about, what we’re constantly hungry for more of and willing to do anything for—because He knows once we’ve experienced His manifest presence, our appetites will be whetted for more. And more. Those in the Scripture who didn’t let obstacles become excuses for not seeking Him, or b...

How does a mom get to a point where she leaves her kids husband and kids with no plan to come back?  Why did I feel like leaving the 4 people I loved the most was the only option and  why why why was a person who has tremendous faith and hope at the point of hopelessness? I thought that if I left, that would distance me from the sadness, from anxiety and from the hopelessness.  But the truth is, t...

You know the ripple effect that would and could happen if more people were living the life they are designed to live?? there would be less lack of confidence, less lack of hope, less muddy waters for what this life is about. The more we see the world through the lens of expecting things to be “not bad” vs less bad, we can move on smartly with purpose, for purpose and on purpose.

We are very much a socially connected and driven society. We value and connect with other people. We see ourselves in others and others see themselves in us.  We trust that connection. We were made to have that connection. Think about why this matters so much to God. He is a God of relationship- he made us. He desires to be connected to us and when we are connected to Him and connected to others -...

Somewhere along the lines, our mindset around money has become compromised. We tell ourselves a story that we can’t have both ministry and money or that if we have extra time, it should be devoted to ministry work.    I believe that wherever we go as Christ followers, its ministry because He lives in US and people who we come in contact with Get us.    If I didn’t have the revenue that I have, I w...

This is a very difficult topic for discussion. I imagine it could potentially even stir up some unsettled feelings for some people too. I know it does for me. I know I have ways that I can grow in this topic as well. I have been hurt. I know other people have been hurt  by people who are different than us, who have different life views, different lifestyle choices and are simply different. But dif...

Apathy -  Indifference and Passivity - the root of these 3 light dimmers is pride and self We want to look good. We want to feel good. We want to feel valued and recognized. No where in the Bible does it say we will always feel our best, look our best or feel valued. Those thoughts and feelings are around self. When we find Joy - we are thinking about Jesus first, we are thinking about others seco...

www.choosingthebestyou.com My question for you is what are you hesitating in right now? What is holding you back? What is the bigger picture of what will be accomplished when you move in more freedom and to not be held back in hesitation. What story are you telling yourself that simply isn’t true because your brain is wired to keep you safe?  Hesitation is a spirit and it has a powerful way of hol...

So when we look at our friends list and see we have 1000 friends and only 3 people liked or loved a social media update - we place value on our lives based off what we see as “not happening” or happening as a validation  that we are on the right path. We focus on the 997 people who didn’t validate us!  We are also programmed to pull the plug on what we put our hands to in life when what we are doi...

We are similar to a tree. We can have things in life happen that disappoint us, discourage us, sadden us and when we allow these things to deteriorate us, we erode on the inside. On the outside we are still living breathing normal appearing human beings but on the inside we are not even close to structurally sound. We are either sound or we are compromised.   It's ok to have less than desirable th...

  We will always have many areas we can put our hands to - in fact, its pretty much limitless what we could say yes to each and every day.    Sometimes though we say no to awkward, uncomfortable and challenging and tell ourselves a story that we don’t need to be in that kind of chaos and the truth is, we are already equipped to walk through the fire and have the ability to come out not smelling li...

What I see as injustice - something that breaks my heart is where I see people who are alive but are not living. Who have become master negotiators. They negotiate away the more meaningful things because they lack belief and hope for what is possible through them. We move in belief or we move in disbelief. Yes we can move in disbelief -its called putting our time and energy to things that don’t ma...

I do value what other people receive from me. But I should not be concerned or worried about how it is perceived. I cannot change people's perceptions because people see others based on a reflection of self. We don’t want to feel poorly about ourselves, so we will see other people in a way that justifies and protects who we are. We begin seeing things like a limited wardrobe as a way to help us fe...

We have the opportunity every day - every hour - to see our struggles that we face as opportunities to trust God, to step into the victory he has already laid out for us and to declare our ability to win even before the battle takes place. We don’t have to wrestle. When we are wrestling we are ultimately struggling with a mindset that hasn’t been declared victorious 

So my friends. I have a question for you. In the key areas of your life.  Marriage, family, ministry, work,  Is there any area where you are shrinking back? Where you are not showing up? Where have you have disappeared because you are hurt, angry, frustrated?  Are you willing to work through and seek forgiveness from anyone you many have hurt? Can you extend forgiveness to anyone who has hurt you...

So many people are surviving life waiting for the time, waiting for the resources, waiting to get better at things before they start something impactful and that is a lie. We already have everything we need. Stop getting ready to get ready. The only thing standing between you and what you are called to do is you. And, I am a BIG believer in choice. We choose what we put our hands to and we choose...

Time - is a commodity. We either invest it or we spend it. When we invest our time in meaningful things, those yield a return. Some will yield an earthly return where we get to see the fruit of it here and now and in our days here on earth ahead. Some will be things that will matter for all of eternity. Doing those things that matter most to God - like loving others and being in relationship with...

When I think about everything that happens in our world on a daily basis - especially this past year. Unprecedented things have happened. Things happened that we couldn’t dream up. Things that appear it would be a fictional movie played out before our eyes.   But the truth is, no matter what is happening in the world - what creates muddy waters are our roles in the thick of it all. We are always g...