Mommying While Muslim

Dr. Saba Maroof joins Zaiba and Uzma on their quest to provide a one-stop-shop for mom answers while we navigate our Muslim American families.  As a mental health resource brought to our audience by MWM, Dr. Saba will be able to offer professional insight into some of our families’ most concerning issues and questions. We look forward to exciting offerings online for our audience with her and havi...

Maryam Munir, the founder of The Parent Empowerment Project, joins the Mommying While Muslim team in order to bring positive parenting expertise to our repertoire. Even though out on a family emergency, Maryam kindly joins us from overseas today to talk about key buzz words in the parenting field today. Links: https://youtu.be/NrB8Iamo0OA The Parent Empowerment Project: https://teepep.com/ Mommyin...

Do we hang up our womanhood, our God given sensual selves, once we have kids? And if we do, WHY? The Village Auntie spills it all, as she does best, to help us reclaim our feminine histories in order to be better mothers. Part of that reclamation includes restoring the fundamentals about what Islam teaches regarding feminine sexuality, and how critics are quick to forget or minimize those religiou...

Do you know if you have a “loosey goosey” or a “tight pelvis?” Let’s talk wetting our pants while we wet our pants (it’s on the video if you missed it), as well as pelvic pain, its causes, the physical and sexual dysfunction that results, and treatments. You may not have heard about vaginal massage before, but here’s where you can find out how terms like that and valium suppositories are actual me...

Zaiba & Uzma learn how prophetic sexual tradition is really female-centric. Saba explains the effects of Eurocentric and colonial influences on Islamic sexual beliefs and practices. Normalizing sex again, and normalizing our need to be fulfilled, especially in this aspect of our God-given nature, is our right and we need to learn to exercise. We also need to teach that to our kids, who are oft...

Three Muslim moms take on the glass ceiling of sexuality, exploring taboos on Muslim women’s sexuality and addressing the truths and half truths about it. Rather than have sex happen TO them, moms deserve to experience sex as active and important recipients of sex as a God given right. Hear Zaiba and Uzma channel their inner adolescent as they learn to talk about sex, baby, just like grown ups! Aa...

Rubina Cohen, our recurring contributor, joins us today to give insight into her unique experience with PPD. We compare notes, commiserate, provide some more facts, and talk about resources available to mom sisters. It’s just not talked about enough in our regular circles and we don’t want to see another mom go through this. So let us remove the multicultural stigma Muslim American moms face for o...

Dr. Fareeha Malik, DDS, and mom of 2 joins Zaiba & Uzma to describe how she felt after delivering her children, how it impacted her relationships, and how she found healing. Bringing home a baby doesn’t always mean mom’s eternal happiness. Not all mothers feel “the way they should” after the baby is born, and may feel lost if they don’t know where to turn for resources. This endangers not only...

Zaiba and Uzma review how they fed their babies, what led to those decisions, and the social backlash they received for their choices. What’s normal, what’s real, and what’s the Islamic perspective on our Muslim American boobs and bottles? Links:  Find Senators up for re-election in 2020: https://www.270towin.com/2020-senate-election/ Breastfeeding duration recommendations: https://www.nichd.nih.g...

Join your co-hosts today as they discuss their personal journeys of pregnancy and delivery, sprinkled with the Islamic tenets by which they tried to conceive and receive their little blessings from Allah. It may not always be rosy or even healthy, but it always happens when the time and His plan is right. Links:  Our Precious Sprouts by Muhammad Jibaly What to Expect When You’re Expecting by Heidi...

Fact check! Uzma misstated the TLC show as "Arranged Marriage," but it's actually "Married at First Sight." Neither is a very good reflection of the arranged marriages discussed today, but of the two shows, the first is a closer version, but we never got around to talking about it! We focused on the absurdity of never talking to someone before you marry them. Some people (...

In this first episode of the Mommying While Muslim of 2020 we discuss the rebirth of our popular podcast, changes that both Uzma and Zaiba are making in 2020, plus we will be talking giveaways. We have researched and have aligned ourselves with some extraordinary products. Now, we want to share what we have discovered. And, wait until you hear the promise that Zaiba makes to Uzma.    1) Web: http:...

Is it still a dilemma? When does assimilation cross the line into imitation? And what happens when you have a non-Muslim family that observes Christmas? These and many other questions, including above all, how to maintain our kids’ Muslim American identity are on today’s show. Fun fact: This episode was recorded fall 2018 as we started planning the podcast, edited ourselves, but it hasn’t aired un...

Today's episode features TWO special guests, CCF Associate Director Leena Al Arian and Legal Director Kathy Manley. Leena has lived through the arrest and detention of a family member and can speak to the psychological effects on families of laws that target and entrap Muslims in the United States since 9/11. Ms. Manley describes the legal realities uniquely faced by Muslims in the United Sta...

FACE is helping us spiritually and physically cleanse our worship spaces of the crimes of hidden marriages, physical, sexual, and financial abuse that sometimes occurs by leadership. Although our minority Muslim community plays ostrich, MWM is not about that game. We want our masajid to recruit the right people to guide our families, and stop protecting leadership at the expense of those affected...

This episode is NOT meant to be heard by children unless our mom audience feels they're ready for it. If you're a survivor of any sexual trauma, as a child or as an adult, you may not be ready for it either, so gauge your ability to revisit the past. We are here for you either way. If you need resources to deal with PTSD due to a history of abuse, we have links for you below, and we are...

While holidays may look different for everyone, the spirit of the season is gratitude and family. Zaiba and Uzma discuss their "Thanksgiving" histories and how they became enlightened by motherhood, adulthood, and "getting woke" to all the hidden truths they didn't learn as American kids. How do we come to grips with our dark past to push a better way forward? Pull up a ch...

Zaiba & Uzma, as big fans of FYI, want all moms to know about the amazing resources FYI makes available on teen device use, suicide, being a black Muslim teen, how to talk to our kids, and SO MUCH MORE. You don't need to have kids to benefit either! Share what you learn today and earn hasanah (reward) for it. All of our links should be SUPER EASY to memorize! And don't forget to RATE...

When are we being paranoid and when are we being stereotypical ourselves? Muslim-American moms have to be extra careful to be friendly enough, but also safety savvy in a way other moms don’t. The identity of “being stuck” or “ABCD” vs. the firmly planted identities of native-born Muslim-American children will be addressed as well as offensive vs. intentional curiosity. Let’s talk about discriminat...

On retreat this week with a special and recurring guest, Rubina Cohen, Zaiba and Uzma review the last 6 months of podcasting: what they’ve learned, what else is coming, and how they plan to improve to suit their Muslim American mom sisters. Links 1) The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD 2) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 3) Email: mommyingwhilemuslim@gmail.com 4) FB: Mommying While Mus...

Zaiba and her husband take time to sit down and talk about the importance of being on the same page while raising children.   How they set goals for themselves, their children and learn their secret to raising kids that are not attached to their phones.  Did you know you can send us a text? Feedback, questions, or recommendations welcomed! Support the show 1. Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 2. Em...

This week, Uzma's pre adolescent son, Usman, provides points for Muslim American moms to be successful and operate better on their day to day. See if you think what he says is just for Muslim American moms or not, and maybe you'll find a pleasant surprise. There are plenty of revelations for some here, at least for those who have been raised with some "back home" style parentin...

Come unpack all the guilt Muslim moms feel and what we can do about it. We try to prove that everything we feel guilty about is made up, and remind ourselves about the Thought Model as well as, oh yeah, Allah's promise to us! Explore the limited resources we have to learn more about Muslim mom guilt from the professionals (why aren't more people studying this?!?!?), but mostly feel bette...

Zaiba and Uzma explore the mom bully and how she is definitely one of the toxic people in our lives. They discuss how to identify bullying behavior some adults demonstrate, review instances of being bullied themselves, and how to avoid becoming one. The mom field is supposed to elevate all of us, not push anyone down! How can we work so hard to raise awesome humans and not strive to be the same ou...

After a singular incident, Zaiba and Uzma talk about what it feels like to be invisible despite showing up every day in a million big and small ways for our kids. They recount what it feels like to be "the one" as well as "the none" in the family. Maternal identity, being seen, being appreciated and the opposite of all those show up on today's episode. Review some more tho...