Modern Masculinity

Hector sits down with Eric Fitzmedrud to have conversations about topics most guys avoid but need to have. Eric opens up about how he has navigated masculinity, sexuality, and relationships that break from the “traditional path.” They talk about everything from fatherhood and polyamory to the struggles men face around consent and personal identity. Eric doesn’t sugarcoat the reality of balancing r...

Hector sits down with Adam Lyons to explore the tough realities of trust, betrayal, and the role violence plays in a man’s life. Adam opens up about being betrayed by people he once trusted, losing over $120K in the process, and questioning whether men today need to stand up and fight, both physically and metaphorically. Drawing from his own experiences in business and martial arts, Adam shares th...

Tony DiLorenzo joins Hector to talk about the challenges men face when it comes to intimacy, relationships, and personal growth. They talk about the impact of grief, stress, and shame on men’s emotional and sexual lives, sharing advice on how to work through these issues. Tony also explains the six pillars of intimacy and how understanding them can help men build stronger connections with their pa...

Carl Lubbe discusses what it means to live as a man in today’s world, getting into the challenges of balancing work, family, and personal growth. He breaks down the myths surrounding masculinity, such as the pursuit of work-life balance, and points out the importance of presence, leadership, and authenticity. Carl also talks about how social media impacts men’s personal development and why it's cr...

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, shares how he overcame the "Nice Guy" syndrome and why so many men fall into the trap of people-pleasing and conflict avoidance. He dives into the deep emotional struggles men face, from setting boundaries to dealing with shame, and explains how societal influences have shaped modern masculinity. Dr. Glover offers advice on breaking free from thes...

Alex Charfen opens up about his decision to walk away from a successful business, despite its financial success, to focus on personal alignment and deeper connection in his life. He shares the intense physical and emotional toll that running a business can take and discusses the importance of recognizing when it's time to shift priorities. Alex pushes back against hustle culture, explaining the va...

Thomas Pfanner discusses the challenges and responsibilities of modern fatherhood, going into the importance of stepping up as leaders in our families. He shares his insights on balancing the role of a father with the pressures of societal expectations, particularly in the face of social media's growing influence on our children. Tune in to hear Hector and Thomas talk about the need for fathers to...

Chuck Chapman shares his transformative journey from a life shaped by societal expectations to one of authenticity and integrity. Facing a personal crisis, Chuck embarked on a path of self-discovery that led him to redefine masculinity and embrace a new set of values. He discusses the importance of courage, the process of unlearning inherited beliefs, and how men can navigate life's inevitable cha...

Jeff Boyer breaks down the myth of traditional success and the impact it has on men today. He shares how he went from achieving external success to realizing it left him unfulfilled and searching for deeper meaning. Jeff explains the pressures men face in trying to meet societal expectations, often at the expense of their true selves. His insights will challenge men to rethink what it means to be...

William Branum, a former Navy SEAL, joins us to explore the intricacies of modern masculinity. He shares his journey of embracing vulnerability, the strength in asking for help, and the critical importance of self-reflection through after action reviews. William discusses the balance between toughness and empathy, revealing how removing the metaphorical armor can lead to genuine healing and growth...

Tiziano Sguerso joins Hector for a conversation on the impact of family narratives and generational trauma on our lives. Tiziano shares his journey from being a professional kickboxer to becoming a family constellation therapist, and the insights he's gained about love, relationships, and the essential roles of men and women in the family. They also talk about the struggles of modern masculinity,...

Jasper Brown explores the concept of conscious sexuality, offering a fresh perspective on achieving deeper intimacy and pleasure. Jasper discusses the limitations of traditional methods and introduces his integrative approach, The Legendary Lover program, which combines education, mindfulness, and conscious practices. With insights into full-body pleasure, sacred sexuality, and the importance of r...

John and Norman D'Agostini are sitting down with Hector to discuss fatherhood across generations. They talk about the importance of physical and emotional connection, and the challenges of raising children in today's world. Norman shares his experiences of overcoming a traumatic upbringing and the lessons he learned about being a loving and dedicated father. John adds his perspective on masculinit...

In this episode, Hector and Kent Frazier discuss the challenges and rewards of single fatherhood. Kent shares his personal journey of balancing responsibilities as a solo dad, entrepreneur, and community member. They talk about the importance of creating healthy rhythms, managing intense emotions, and redefining traditional roles in modern parenting. With stories of overcoming adversity and findin...

Fitness trainer Steve Lutsk joins Hector to talk about the ongoing challenges and misconceptions surrounding fitness and modern masculinity. They discuss the struggle against complacency and the mental battles that accompany physical fitness. They go into the psychological benefits of maintaining a rigorous fitness regime, explaining how it goes way beyond just physical appearance to fundamentally...

Greg Wasserman talks about how societal expectations and traditional gender roles shape men's dating experiences and explore the importance of vulnerability and emotional healing. Greg also touches on the unique challenges men face when dating without a car in L.A.  He shares his perspective on the often-unspoken pressures men deal with in modern relationships. This episode offers a look at h...

Matt Beaudreau is here to talk about sovereignty and its impact on family, education, and personal freedom. Matt explains his mission to help families take full control of their lives. He shares his experience as an educator and leader, discussing the flaws of traditional schooling and the need for critical thinking. Matt also talks about practical ways to teach children self-reliance and responsi...

Matt LeBris joins Hector to discuss the importance of authenticity and consistency in achieving both personal and professional success. Throughout this conversation about his own experiences, Matt talks about facing life's challenges, the process of emotional healing, and the significance of community in personal growth. He introduces various healing techniques, including breathwork and grounding...

This episode is an exploration of the multifaceted challenges men face in striving for the ‘exceptional life.’ Joined by serial entrepreneur, leader, facilitator and speaker Chaz Wolfe, they explore the delicate balance between professional ambition and personal fulfillment. From the trenches of fatherhood to the pursuit of business excellence, they discuss the evolution of manhood and the search...

Coach Raph helps men lead a life in a way that a woman naturally wants to follow. He provides a safe place for men. In today’s episode, Coach Raph and Hector discuss the pressures of male stoicism and the liberation found in vulnerability. This powerful conversation not only questions the pillars of traditional manhood but also offers you a new vision for a more emotionally connected and authentic...

This episode features Reggie Marra. He is an educator, coach, workshop facilitator, poet and author. Reggie discusses the unspoken rules and myths that have traditionally defined manhood and the personal and societal challenges that men face today. He shares insights from his latest book, offering perspectives on how men can redefine their identities in a way that embraces authenticity and emotion...

John Authier, a longtime friend of Hector’s and fitness coach, discusses the intricate dance of navigating life's challenges, from the trials of fatherhood in today's digital age to the pressures of maintaining physical and mental wellness. John shares his personal journey, shedding light on the realities behind the social media gloss of parenting, the transformative power of fitness on mental hea...

Keith Edwards’ life journey embodies the essence of adaptability and resilience. Once set on a path vastly different from where he stands today, Keith has embraced the unexpected turns, transforming his narrative into one of profound self-discovery and evolution. As a newly published children's author, his story extends beyond the pages of his books, reflecting a deep engagement with the challenge...

Today’s conversation with Markham Rollins encapsulates a profound journey of transformation and growth, touching on retirement redefined, personal development, and the essence of modern masculinity. Markham shares his transition from a successful career in insurance to finding purpose and passion in his later years, highlighting the importance of staying active, embracing change, and serving other...

This episode is from your host, Hector Santiestaban’s appearance on  "The Vulnerable Man" podcast. Hector opens up about the intricacies of modern masculinity, the struggles of fatherhood, and the transformative power of vulnerability. This episode will take you on a ride through Hector's experiences—from facing personal trials and embracing vulnerability to building resilience and fostering...