Metal Motivation: Daily Screams for Living Aggressively

You can program yourself for anything you want. Your mind might want to go into that negative monologue. It will start with its usual stuff about it never going to work. Everything is against you. I guess I'm always going to be this way. I hate this. This is too hard. It's taking too long. All of that stuff. You can't allow anything negative. Even if it's true, maybe it does take a long time to ge...

When your negative outlook on life starts to affect you emotionally to the point of depression, that's when you start contacting somebody to get help. I had this happen in a coaching group with an individual. After a couple of minutes of talking with him, I said, "Even right now as you're listening to me, you are feeling more positive, aren't you?" And he said, "Yes, I am." I continued, "Well, why...

Working at a desk all day, I have to be proactive to prevent clotting in my feet. For example, I have to keep my ankles moving or raised. And by doing that, I won't end up at the doctor's. It's the same thing with our mentality, the way that we think. If we don't do things every day that stretch our minds, that promote good circulation, then we're going to end up in misalignment. And that means we...

When you've got back and neck pain, you go to the chiropractor to get "adjusted." When your car is out of alignment, you take it in to get adjusted. And when someone at work or home has a bad attitude, you say, "They need an attitude adjustment." But by the time you go to the chiropractor or mechanic, it's already at a crisis point, and things reach a crisis point because we don't do the daily adj...

Self-therapy follows the same model as an actual therapist. If someone has a false belief about something, they still have a reasoning process going on. It's just messed up. And so a breakthrough is when irrational suddenly becomes rational. When you realize you were thinking irrationally about something or someone, and you realize the coin dropped, that you were thinking wrong about something, an...

Whether it's a therapist, psychiatrist, or a coach, they are helpful because they can look at you and go by what they see. Is Tiger Woods's golf coach a better player than Tiger Woods? Absolutely not! So, how can they coach him? Because they know all the principles, they can watch him from the outside where Tiger is making mistakes or where principles are going unapplied. The coach is very helpful...

If we're going to fix our own head, it's going to come down to self-awareness first. Are we finding identity in something outside of ourselves? Or is our identity based on what it should be based upon? Which is our value system, deeply held beliefs, gifts, talents, abilities, et cetera. This is our worldview, an all-encompassing philosophy of life. We all need one. Whether you take yours from reli...

There are fundamental things you can do for your mental health, ways you can work on your mindset by being more cognizant of the way you process information and form your identity. Sadly, this is something most people don't do. Signs of this are people who obsessively post selfies, complain online, or fight about politics for example. Basing your identity on the validation of others will eventuall...

If life keeps defeating you, maybe it's time you changed the way you perceive life and learn to fix your own head. When it comes to you and I and any form of working on our own heads, performing some self-therapy, the goal is to change our beliefs and perceptions because they can be distorted. Those things can be irrational. You'd be amazed at how many of us are irrational. If you haven't done any...

All this week, we've been talking about the four things that represent POWER, and they are ability, authority, creativity, and influence. And these are all determined by our words.   * Our words affect our ability when we say, "I can't," instead of, "I can." * Our words affect our authority when we start to say, "I'm in control." * Our words affect our creativity when we affirm who we are and what...

As we continue to shift into using POWER WORDS instead of just learning to lessen our negative speaking, it's important that we learn about the CREATIVE power of words.   Power is also creativity, and that's when you bring into reality something that wasn't there before.   When I say this, I'm not talking about anything magical, although it can often appear that way.   The MOST IMPORTANT thing tha...

This week, we're moving beyond just learning to speak more positively. We're shifting into POWER WORDS, which is a way of speaking that changes ourselves as well as our environment.   In the last episode, we mentioned the four things that represent POWER, and they are ability, authority, creativity, and influence.   We covered ABILITY, which is found in the statement, "I CAN."   Today, we're talki...

As I said, my goal in this series is to move beyond just stopping negative speaking and learning to speak more positively. The goal is to shift you into POWER WORDS.   What are power words?   * Power means ability. * Power means authority. * Power means creativity. (esp. our environment) * Power means influence.   Today, we're talking about ability, and how our words need to align with the power w...

"Those people who tell you not to take chances, they are all missing on what life's about. You only live once so take hold of the chance. Don't end up like others the same song and dance. Motorbreath, it's how I live my life. I can't take it any other way."   You don't want to end up like others who never create the life they want. They never go for their goals. They stay where they are in life—fo...

A big problem with those who deal with anxiety is when they don't have a long-term solution. Understandably, they would focus on short-term solutions like medications to deal with the overwhelming nature of anxiety, but real deliverance is only found in something long-term.   The typical argument is that anxiety and depression are chemical, so the solutions need to be based upon the chemical suppo...

You can live in a paradise of your choosing if that's what you spend your time meditating upon. As we've said, worry is more of a mental thing. It's something that can be stated in certain terms.   For example, if someone tells you they're worried, and you ask them what they're worried about, would they say, "Oh, I don't know. I'm just worried?" No. They would tell you specifically what they're wo...

If we don't walk in the "gatekeeper mentality," then we create a vicious cycle of allowing things in that will fester and grow which we will later spew out of our mouths and attitudes. This is how we get trapped.   So, if you are fretful and worried, then you know have allowed these things in your life.   As we said previously, fretfulness is a general emotional state from which we approach everyt...

There are three levels of a troubled heart: to be fretful, to be worried, and to be anxious.   We have the potential to deal with all three of these at all times.   What's important to note is that just because you worry, or are fretful, from time to time, does not make you a weak person. People with great responsibility have good reason to be overcome with concern—especially when it involves thin...

What is a troubled heart? It's a heart in conflict. It's a heart that's agitated constantly by life. A troubled heart doesn't get much relief, but the torment—a great deal of it—is self-created.   A troubled heart usually shows up in three ways:   1. Fretting 2. Worrying 3. Anxiety   Fretting is a general emotional outlook on situations and people in which someone is agitated or sensitive at just...

Winning the daily battles of life means we need to quit being soft with what resists us and enter the dog fight, and that means being ferocious, or as I've been saying this week, "creating density to your intensity."   Creating density means doing things that affect us more deeply much the same as the bodybuilder lifts very heavy weight to stimulate more muscle fibers at a deeper level. This creat...

We do need to get stronger, but winning will come down to something more than strength. It'll come down to a superior technique in personal disciplines.   1. The technique of self-talk. 2. The technique of visualization. 3. The technique of thought control. 4. The technique of self-control (reactions). 5. The technique of self-discipline.   We also need to direct the images of our mind, because no...

Today, I want to talk about the struggle itself, which we'll define as "striving to attain something in the face of difficulty or resistance," and that which we're after is supremacy.   So think of the main things you're fighting against.   * Is it your body? * Is it your emotions? * Is it your relationships? * Is it your finances? * Is it your career? * Is it your stress? * Is it your depression?...

A dog fight is a ferocious struggle for supremacy, so that means you need to get ferocious!   What does ferocious mean? It means to be "savagely fierce," and being fierce means having "an intense aggressiveness."   Predators are naturally fierce, but on the human level, we see it in competitive sports—particularly any sport involving contact. Fighters, for example, know that a deep ferocity is nee...

Life is a war and each day is a battle. That's how merciless life can be. It doesn't let up. It just keeps coming. Yet, for some reason, we think there will be easier days ahead if we just had enough money, just had the right job, just looked the right way, just had the ideal relationship.   The old saying goes, "Higher levels, bigger devils." In other words, there's no letting up in the dog fight...

Whenever we come up against life's resistance, we have two options: we can whine, or we can work. We can bitch, or we can build.   The only way to defeat life's resistance is by work—by continuing to build no matter what storms are blowing.   This is the force of consistency—when you keep at your daily disciplines regardless of what others do, or don't do, and no matter the social, cultural, or po...