Married and Connected

In this episode, we tackle one of the most vulnerable and misunderstood areas of marriage—intimacy. Using insights from renowned experts like Dr. John Gottman, Vanessa Marin, and biblical principles, we dive into the common challenges couples face in their sex lives, the role of stress and unspoken expectations, and how intimacy evolves over time. Whether it’s mismatched libidos, the impact of lif...

In this episode, we explore how stress and mental health challenges can strain relationships—especially during the holidays. Learn: The science behind stress and disconnection. Strategies to support your partner’s mental health. Activities to boost happy hormones and deepen intimacy. Tips for setting boundaries and navigating holiday stress. What my family is doing to better our mental health as a...

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most Googled marriage struggles: financial conflicts. Learn why financial integrity is essential, how breaches of trust impact your relationship, and what you can do to rebuild unity after financial disagreements. With insights from Dr. John Gottman, top financial advisors, and real-world examples, we’ll provide tools and strategies to manage money as...

In this episode, we explore the complexities of managing in-law relationships during the holidays. From understanding family systems to setting boundaries and staying connected as a couple, this episode is packed with actionable advice and expert insights. Key Takeaways : Why in-law dynamics can feel overwhelming and how to address them Practical examples of healthy boundaries Solutions to common...

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into one of the most powerful influences on your marriage: your mindset and belief system. Research from psychologists and relationship experts like Dr. Carol Dweck and Dr. John Gottman shows that our mindset shapes how we experience our relationships. When we believe in the growth and potential of our marriage, we become more resilient, empathetic, and connec...

In this episode, I debunk more misconceptions sent in by listeners, followers and clients. 5:56 My spouse should "just know" 8:51 Marriage with Fix Our Flaws/ I Can Fix Them 17:40 Our Relationship Will Stay the Same (as when we were dating) 20:04 We should spend all our time together/do everything together/no girls or guys trips 22:55 External influences have no power over your marriage...

Have you ever thought that marriage was supposed to make you happy? Or maybe that if you have an argument you're headed straight for divorce? Or maybe even that you were supposed to be passionate, in love with and attracted to your partner every moment of every day for the rest of your life? Well, if that's you, you're definitely not alone but you also believe a misconception that i...

In the first session I have with couples, we always go over goals for where they want their marriage to be, what's working and what's not. I've coached over 100 couples in the last 5 years and they have ALL said "we want better communication" and while coaching them, I find that they don't have a communication problem and neither do you. What is it really? Disconnecti...

Why do people fear falling out of love? This fear often stems from a deep-seated anxiety about the future. We all enter relationships with hopes, dreams, and a vision of everlasting love. But as time goes on, we might notice changes in our feelings or the dynamics of the relationship, which can trigger doubts and fears. This fear is not irrational; it’s a reflection of how much we value our relati...

An astounding amount of people report having significant amounts of resentment towards their partner. Bitterness, hardness of heart and maybe even thoughts of divorce have crept in and taken over their hearts and minds. What does resentment feel like? What does it look like? How do you overcome it after it's already built a wall between you and your partner? Take a deep dive with me as we unc...

Love is a verb, not just 3 little words. So when you're trying to divorce proof your marriage, how do you make "I Love You" mean a little bit more? In today's episode, we break down 5 ways to make "I Love You" mean a little bit more. 0:00 Introduction 4:16 Daily Intentional Effort 5:14 Respect 12:14 Follow Through 15:32 Eliminating Assumptions 24:26 Appreciating Your...

Today we are talking all about gratitude. Why is it important? How can you create a gratitude practice if you feel like you are one who is never grateful for anything? How does gratitude improve your marriage significantly and pretty much immediately? I'm not gatekeeping any of the answers to these questions and more! Check out this episode and share with your friends on socials. Tag me @divo...

Why does cheating happen? How do you move forward after it happens? Why do some relationships have so much arguing, toxicity and conflict? How do you fix it if yours does? Are love languages and attachment styles real? How does divorce impact children long term? How does it all fit together? In Episode 74, Dr. Andrea Vitz talks about emotional insobriety. In today's episode, she dives even de...

***Trigger warning*** Infant loss, miscarriage, grief This week's episode features Kate Carson, a former teacher, engineer and now a love, sex and life transitions coach. Kate talks all about her own grief with late term pregnancy loss, miscarriage and not only keeping your marriage strong through those experiences but also the different secondary experiences that come as a result of those st...

1. Show Affection and Love Towards Your Partner Kids learn a lot by observing their parents. When you show affection and express love towards your spouse, you’re setting a powerful example. This teaches them about healthy, loving relationships and the importance of emotional expression. Action Tip: Make a habit of daily gestures of love—whether it’s a kiss, a hug, or a simple “I love you.” Let you...

David Lea & Paige Stuart Lea are married in life, love, and business. Their channel shares innovative trauma-informed polarity insight, information, and expertise. Journey through their conversations, teachings and insights on how to effectively heal your trauma through a masculine and feminine energy lens to realize your most extraordinary relationship. In this episode, David, Paige and Kamer...

Barbara Thompson is originally from New Zealand and now lives in Australia, is a passionate and dedicated therapist with a private practice known as Self Care Studio. Barbara specialises in helping individuals understand and nurture the mind-body connection, guiding them to use their intuition to break free from barriers holding them back from living their best lives. With a deep understanding of...

Do you or your partner suffer from erectile dysfunction? Is your sex life dwindling or non-existent and you're not sure why? Does your partner struggle with massive shifts in circadian rhythm, take sleeping aides, use alcohol or marijuana before bed? Dr. Elliot Justin, a leading sextech expert and medical doctor talks about the FirmTech cock ring he has created and sold over 12,000 of and how...

Contemplating divorce? Wondering what a life of reconciliation would be like? Want to chat with a couple who was divorced over 3 years and then reconciled? Sherman and Semise Daley are your go to couple for just that. After being married, divorcing and then remarrying, Sherman and Semise talk all about the lessons they've learned, what they would've told themselves before they got divorc...

WOW! I have never been blown away by a guest like I was by the coaching and information Dr. Andrea Vitz provided during this episode. As a hurt healer and an emotional insobriety coach, Dr. Andrea Vitz and I sit down to talk all about how your arguments, behavior, choices, attraction, chemistry and how it all shows up in your marriage and other relationships comes back to your emotional insobriety...

Oohhhh y'all. Get your notebooks and pens ready! This hour long episode is jam packed with the absolute BEST nuggets around overcoming people pleasing, why you fall into the trap of people pleasing and how to stop requiring your partner to make you happy and how to make yourself happy instead! We dive into how to make your relationship happier by owning your own happiness. Christy Holt is a s...

In this episode, we are going to break down the importance of maintaining or regaining your individuality while also balancing togetherness. What does that mean? What's it look like and why is it important? Fostering individuality is going to not only keep your own cup full, it's going to keep you interesting and attractive to your spouse. Meanwhile, creating a culture of togetherness is...

This episode features answers to questions that followers and podcast listeners have sent in. The first question is basically asking if validation feels fake instead of calming and connecting, how do you approach validating your partner (who is most likely avoidant)? The second question asks if marriage is "just a piece of paper" and how to avoid divorce if you're engaged but terrif...

Warning. Today's episode may be quite convicting. Emotional safety is a foundational element to having a connected, trusting, fulfilling relationship! Sadly, we are seeing less and less connection with parents and their kids, adults and their friends, and even more so with couples as the divorce rate has risen to 54% post pandemic. Emotional safety is just as important as physical safety and...

In today's conversation, Karen and I talk about her experience with marriage and talking about money, how she became a coach for couples on how to get on the same financial page as your spouse, how to budget and what her top tips for talking about money without arguing are. Money is a hot topic for many married couples and I hope that today's episode alleviates some of the stress and emb...