Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT

Steve responds to a message from a person calling themselves "Alone." Note: the message was in response to Steve's Psychology Today article "How to Keep an Incel from Becoming a Sex Offender."  For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two...

The belief that "love conquers all" is an unfortunate and harmful fallacy. We cannot love our partners into wellness; we cannot love our partners into sobriety; we cannot love our partners into no longer being emotionally, physically, or spiritually abusive. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributin...

Your magic sex number is the ideal number of sexual encounters you require on a weekly basis to feel your best. Listen to learn more and how knowing your magic sex number can help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books o...

Join us for an open discussion on whether men and women can be friends. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of the true crime podcast Sex Crime Central. In 2022,...

If you want real love, let your partner know who you really are and what you really think.  For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of the true crime podcast Sex Cri...

If you dislike online dating as much as Steve and are interested in shifting your approach to meeting potential partners, this episode is for you. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is...

The subject of "sexual intimacy" is so much bigger than just "doing it” with our partners. True sexual intimacy allows couples to safely share and express the full spectrum of their sexuality with one another. Listen to learn more. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology...

The main idea behind "120 Days of Narcissistic Love" is that when you fall in love with a new lover, the things that you love about this person are the things you love about yourself. Tune in to learn more and how becoming aware of this phenomenon can help you manage love intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in foren...

Learning how to resolve the conflicts that are keeping us apart is one of the best ways to develop intimacy. Conflict, after all, is an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. In today's episode, you will learn how to  engage in conflict in an intelligent, healthy, and abuse-free manner. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a...

If we're committed to “Managing Love Intelligently,” we have to be open to the possibility that (1) we might make mistakes and (2) intelligent people learn from their mistakes. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is in the area of mate selection, the most disastrous of which is marrying the wrong person. Thankfully, there's a remedy for marital mistakes; it's called divorce. For...

Porn is not just one thing. For some, porn is a wonderful part of their bedroom activities; for others, porn brings up all types of body issues; and for others, it's distasteful and uncomfortable. Join us as we discuss porn from a variety of different angles and examine if it's an intelligent way to manage your sexuality. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family...

In 2023, the U.S. Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, said America is suffering from an epidemic of loneliness, and that men are the number one demographic most affected by that loneliness. Steve explains why he agrees with the Surgeon General's assessment and offers some advice to remedy the situation. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a special...

Ordinary human sexual needs are the one kind of human need our species hasn't learned how to discuss. Tune in to learn how acknowledging and understanding these needs can result in healthier choices for us all. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two bo...

Steve explains why the five love languages are a vague and bygone notion. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living. He is the creator and host of the true crime podcast Sex Crime Central. In 202...

Equality, for couples, means the end of loneliness. We have a partner of equal value in the relationship. And we each have a vital part to play and an opinion worth listening to. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like...

The Intentional Debriefing is an individual journey, where you look in the mirror, examine what went wrong in your last relationship, and learn everything you need to learn in order to move on and avoid making the same mistakes in the future.  For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology To...

Steve and Jason have an unbiased conversation about monogamy and polyamory. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creator and host of the true crime podcast Sex Crime Central. In...

Steve explains why he believes people should go on at least 30 dates prior to settling down. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creator and host of the true crime podcast Sex C...

Steve debunks some of the myths surrounding sex offenders and explains what they can teach us about managing our sexuality intelligently. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the cre...

Steve talks marriage and examines the benefits of slowing down, becoming more intentional, and learning more about your partner prior to tying the knot.   For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Livin...

The Abuse-Free Life is a powerful tool that can positively transform your relationships and your life. Listen to learn more and start living an Abuse-Free Life today!   For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and...

Steve explains what he means by the term "intimacy" and why it's the secret to lasting love. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creator and host of the true crim...

Steve shares his thoughts on sexual education programming in the United States and explains what a real sex ed class should look like. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creato...

Steve explains how sexual play and humor between partners can open up infinite possibilities in the bedroom.   For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creator and host of the true c...

In this episode Steve addresses sex addiction and explains what's really going on in the mind of a "sex addict."   For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and the author of two books on sexuality: We're All Like This and Get Busy Living . He is the creator and...