Man Within Podcast

Kelly is a Christ-Centered Certified Recovery, Transformation, and Life Coach, specializing in female sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. With an extensive background in the Human Services Field, Kelly’s coaching clients have extended from prisons to churches and everything in between. She currently resides in Alberta with her husband Deon, has 3 children 14, 16, and 25, and one amazingly cheeky...

This question is often asked within our communities so we decided to answer it on the podcast today. The short answer is, no. It's not a good idea, especially as you are pursuing your recovery. Your significant other should absolutely be INVOLVED, but this episode explains why it is better for you to have someone else designated as your spotter (accountability partner) that is not your wife. Pre-O...

By understanding the conditions that cause relapses, you can devise clever and preventative solutions moving forward. Today's episode explores the most common conditions for slips – BLT (Bored, Lonely, Tired) and practical things you can do to ensure they are not causing any more relapses. The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry   Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Attend my launch party for The Last Re...

The biggest mistake you can make pursuing freedom from pornography is doing it alone. The second biggest mistake is pursuing freedom exclusively with others who are struggling. To truly experience freedom, you must surround yourself with "lions" – men who are fiercely pursuing and/or protecting their freedom at all costs. This will put you on the right path. Once you are surrounded, "training" the...

Making radical changes to your life comes with a cost. At some point, you will likely feel like quitting. Today's episode explains why this phenomenon exists and how to combat it as you pursue lasting freedom. Sometimes that extra push in hard times propels you into your next level of breakthrough and healing. Keep going – if you don't quit, you win. Follow Sathiya on Instagram   Pre-Order my book...

Ron DeHaas is the founder and CEO of Covenant Eyes, chairman of the board of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation and producer of the "Dirty Dozen." He is wildly passionate about fighting pornography and sexual exploitation of all kinds, and is the leading pioneer in the recovery space. Many do not know that Ron birthed Covenant Eyes out of tragedy. After losing his wife and kids in a fatal...

Eddie Capparucci is quickly establishing himself as a leading authority in the men's addiction recovery space. Fresh off the release of "Healing The Inner Child" which has impacted thousands of men, his newest book is titled "Why Men Struggle To Love." In this episode, Sathiya provides an overview of the book, focusing on a few areas that were particularly impactful. If you are looking for resourc...

Modern churches are trumpeting 1 John 4:18 – Perfect love casts out fear. While this message rings true, especially for those learning their identity in Christ, is it complete? Today's episode explains while this concept is true, there are other dimensions that must be considered as well to fully understand the nature of God. A well-rounded understanding of the interplay between fear and love will...

When you embark on the recovery journey, you must push yourself out of your comfort zone. This dynamic in extreme form can lead to burnout, perfectionism, etc. The counterbalance is to give yourself grace, yet this is also has an extreme form which leads to complacency and enablement. Today's episode explains how excellence of the heart is the middle ground that you must strive for as you make pur...

Regardless of your relationship status, the truth is that we long to be attractive. We long to know we are worth of someone else's attention. Today's episode debunks the classic definitions of attractiveness, replacing them with a more Biblical definition and offering specific encouragement to live this out in your day-to-day life. Attractiveness is an attitude, not an attribute. Pre-Order my book...

In 2019 Carl launched Live Free Ministries and created the Live Free Community App to help bridge the gap between millions of men who want help but lack the safe and supportive community needed to find real freedom. In 2020 he also launched Live Free Wives, a free support community, for spouses who need help as well and in 2021 became the CEO of XXXchurch.com. In this interview, Carl talks about h...

At a recent mastermind experience, the phrase "Change your history" was coined by a consultant helping Sathiya with his business. The multi-faceted meaning of this expression has implications for you in your health and freedom. Pursuing freedom from pornography is about changing 4 different kinds of history: Browser history (clearing browser history is a real thing), addiction history, heart histo...

Ethical porn is a term that surfaced a few years ago to describe pornography that was produced under appropriate and legally sound circumstances. Often used to justify porn consumption, today's episode explores the irony of ethical porn and why it is not in fact ethical at all. If something toxic is produced under ethical circumstances, it does not alter its toxicity. Read Producing "Ethical Porn"...

Commitment issues are on the rise, in large part due to cancel culture, loose ethical and moral standards, and a plethora of other dynamics in society today. So what does true commitment look like? What's the secret to really committing and having a healthy, long-term relationship? Today's episode explores the subject using a few profound stories that have reshaped Sathiya's perspective on long-te...

Today's episode was inspired by a client who recently felt challenged by his lack of a romantic relationship. His solution was to find a relationship so his life would be better. After further prodding it became clear that a relationship would not fix the problem – there was actually a deeper need that he was looking to get met. We explain what this deeper need was and why relying on romantic rela...

Jonathan Daugherty is the founder and president of Be Broken Ministries and host of the weekly podcast, Pure Sex Radio. He has appeared on Oprah, ABC's Nightline, and has authored several books addressing the subject of sexual integrity.  In today's episode, he discusses with Sathiya what it was like starting a podcast about healthy sex in 2005, the key to inciting heart transformation in someone...

How we handle rejection reveals how we perceive ourselves. Today's episode outlines how to handle rejection in a healthy way and how to extract the invaluable insights that rejection offers. If we can learn to leverage these experiences, we become healthier men who are confident, stable, and secure. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your free copy of The Ultimate Recovery Guide For Porn Addic...

Men are rarely taught how to handle their emotional life in a healthy way, leaving them in one of two positions: 1) Numb and oblivious to their inner life or 2) Overwhelmed as they start to explore their emotions. Today's episode gives an account of both scenarios and offers practical ways for you to heal, learn, and master your inner emotional life. Pre-Order my book The Last Relapse Get your fre...

If you are struggling with your sexual health, integrity, and development, it is very possible enmeshment is at play. Enmeshment is a form of 'symbiosis' often between a parent and child that blurs the lines of healthy relational functioning. Often masked as "overprotection" or "extremely loving", enmeshment catalyzes sexual dysfunction. Today's episode explores this reality in great detail, provi...

Jason Gingerich is an ordinary man with an extraordinary story. In this bonus interview, he shares about how he came to DeepClean looking to tackle porn once and for all. Little did he know resolving the root issues of pornography was just the start. During Jay's time in DeepClean, he has quit his job so he could start his own business AND boldly decided to move his family to a new country. This i...

Modern psychology is beginning to trumpet the importance of "being in your body." Today's episode explores this concept in greater detail, specifically applying it to our sexual well-being. Using a powerful anecdote from Dr. Nicole LePera, this episode will provide insight into why you've found it challenging to stay focused, why experiences that are normally pleasurable seem lackluster, and pract...

Matt Cline is the director of Restored Ministries, an international ministry helping men and women live free from sexual bondage and the effects of sexual betrayal.  In today's interview, Matt shares on the importance of cultivating intimacy with God on a personal level, how it impacts the recovery journey, truth about masturbation from a biblical perspective, and the challenges that come in a mar...

If you grew up in the church, you were taught that sex is for marriage. The numbers are clear that this standard has been a challenge to uphold, which can often lead to shame, self-loathing, and a feeling of being "damaged goods." Today's episode gives practical advice for how to respond if you've had sex outside of marriage and want to make things right. The mistake itself is not the end of the w...

For people who have finally achieved freedom, the question is what's next? There are both psychological and practical steps that are necessary to capitalize on the freedom you've obtained, they are explained in detail in today's episode. This is worth a listen even if you haven't experience freedom yet, as it will prepare you for when the time comes. Ep 133 - The Day After Freedom   Pre-Order my b...

Temptations can be panic-inducing if we have not learned how to see them appropriately. When we are panicked, we become hasty decision makers. Today's episode will help you respond more effectively to temptations by dissipating the chaos that often ensues in our brains and bodies when we are triggered. Episodes referenced: 79 – Two-Step Process For Calming Your Nervous System