Man Within Podcast

Ray De La Nuez is a men's life coach, speaker, writer and host of the Becoming Men Podcast. He is an active duty Marine Corps Officer with more than a decade of experience in leading and helping men around the world become more authentic, confident, disciplined and faithful. In today's interview, Ray explains the wake up call he got early in marriage that caused him to mature spiritually, mentally...

Too many men make the mistake of sharing ONLY relapses with their wife while they recover. In reality, transparency includes both the highs AND lows of recovery. Today's episode explains why your wife must be let in on the small victories and improvements, in addition to relapses, while you recover so that she receives an accurate picture of your journey. This improves your relationship in the pro...

Many questionable conversations happen in male-centric environments today. This episode explains the clear boundaries you must draw in the conversations and content you engage with while you are recovering, and at what point you can consider 'participating' in locker room talk. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Today's episode talks about the spiritual aspect of recovery including why this is not a battle, the supernatural realities of porn addiction, and why hyper-focusing on your connection with God will always be the plumbline for lasting freedom. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

It seems that on a weekly basis moral failures are surfacing from some of the world's most respected Christian pastors and leaders. A few in particular recently have caused Sathiya to re-think local church ministry as a whole, and explore why so many trusted leaders continue to fall despite demonstrating godly character throughout their careers. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Rel...

Keith and Sheila Gregoire have a passion for marriage and healthy sex, and debunking common misnomers around them in a Christian context. Sheila is the author of The Great Sex Rescue and Keith is a well-respected pediatrician. Together they impact thousands of lives on a regular basis. In today's interview, Keith & Sheila do a deep dive into their latest findings, which includes data from a survey...

Cravings and appetite are often used interchangeably. When we experience either, we simply say that we are "aroused", "triggered", or "turned on". The reality is that appetite is biological, cravings are psychological, and a majority of our sexual experiences are the latter. Today's episode delves deeper into this concept, and offers practical ways to handle with cravings that may arise as you pur...

Attraction is God-given, but where is the line? Is all attraction simply innate? What about a pedophile who is drawn to children? What about a Christian man with same-sex attraction? Today's episode explores the multi-faceted nature of attraction, provides some clear parameters for when attraction goes too far, and offers Beauty and Honor as the lenses that we are to view humanity through to ensur...

A typical issue men run into as they pursue freedom is distrust from their partner, even though they are healing and changing as a person. Today's episode explains why this dynamic exists, and practical ways that you can win back her trust AS you heal and AFTER you recover. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Recovering from addiction is about self-discovery. This is why you must be weary of cookie-cutter solutions and unidimensional strategies. The better you understand yourself, the more effectively you can employ strategies and solutions for long-term recovery. Today's episode provides guidance on how to carry this out whether you are just beginning your recovery journey or well on your way to perma...

Stephen Thomas is a husband and father who has had sobriety from porn for over 13 years. In his personal battle he has overcome same-sex attraction, low self-esteem, anxiety & a broken marriage. He's passionate about seeing men who feel hopelessly buried by their addictions come alive and realize the strength God has placed in them. In today's interview, Stephen details his story of developing sam...

With the world constantly changing, the parameters for success and health also seem to change. But in reality, if you look at what has enabled people to live healthy, fulfilled lives over the years, there are usually just a few things they share in common. Today's episode explores three things every person will need in the next 20 years to thrive in their life: focus, consistency and contentment....

Science has become supremely valued in our society, so much so that we will do irrational things that contradict our own intuition simply because of a study. Today's episode explores the difference between science-based and science-bound and why knowing the difference is so critical for someone who wants to rid themselves of an addiction, change a habit, or enhance their quality of life. Get a FRE...

Having standards is an important part of manhood – without them, our lives become mediocre and aimless. But is there ever a good time to reduce your standards? Today's episode explores the one circumstance where reducing your standards is not only acceptable, it's encouraged. If you find that you are too hard on yourself, or that you are overwhelmed by the standards you have set, this episode is f...

You may be wondering if your situation is really "that bad" when so many others around you have it worse. While it's easy to justify minor amounts of dysfunction or addiction, today's episode explains the three indicators that you have a porn addiction. If you know you have an addiction, this episode will provide some empowerment for finding a path to freedom as well. Get a FREE copy of my bestsel...

Jason Vallotton is the founder of BraveCO – a global men's movement - and overseer of the Bethel Transformation Center. He has helped thousands of men and women discover their God-given identity, find freedom, and walk out their true calling. His personal testimony, insight, and wisdom have brought powerful breakthroughs to difficult situations for both leaders and families. In today's episode, Sa...

Being decisive is a learned skill. Instinctively, we fear failure, disconnection, making the wrong choice, and missing out. Today's episode explains why being decisive is so valuable, how it can change your life, and practical ways to overcome the typical obstacles we face in this area. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

"Blue Balls" (epidydymal hypertension) is a common physiological response in the PMO recovery journey. Today's episode breaks down the primarily physiological cause of blue balls, which gives profound insight into how you can craft your own solution to combat its effects. If you intend to get free one day, you will likely encounter blue balls – this episode will prepare you for when the time comes...

Today's episode focuses on the importance of running to God when you least feel like it. During times of mistake, shortcomings, and shame is the best opportunity you get to experience unconditional love. Using personal stories and a bit of nostalgia, this episode will give you powerful insight into the breakthroughs that come when you invite God into your mess. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling bo...

We know that sobriety and freedom are not the same thing. Sobriety is behaviorally focused, freedom is inner focused. One can be sober, but not free. Yet one who is free will eventually become sober. But when you start to have some success – how do you tell if you are sober or free? Today's episode answers this question in-depth while providing markers that indicate which side you have landed on a...

Helen Taylor is the Vice President of Impact for Exodus Cry, an organization committed to abolishing sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation. They are known for their award-winning documentaries and wildly successful activism campaigns against exploitation in pornography. On today's episode, Helen and Sathiya discuss the intrinsic link between pornography and sex trafficking, detailing...

Many men who want to be free of porn also simulataneously enjoy it. In this odd paradox, many men accuse themselves of being "perverted" or "messed up", when in reality, this is a very normal experience. Today's episode explains WHY this dynamic exists and how embracing it can actually lead to healing and strength along the way. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

In a culture and social climate that is daily conditioning us for instant gratification, we are finding it harder and harder to embrace the uncomfortable and inconvenient. Today's episode explains the less-discussed underbelly of instant gratification and the way it is wreaking havoc on our overall quality of life. It also outlines a very simple practical step you can exercise on a daily basis tha...

We know that the enemy lies and accuses us to pull us away from the truth. We know that he regularly bombard us with thoughts, schemes, and reasonings that oppose the truth of God. So instinctively, we try to identify the inciting events and heal from them. This may be trauma recovery, inner healing, etc. Today's episode explores why sometimes we can heal from traumas of our past, have moments of...

In today's episode, Sathiya gives rare insight into how he vets clients for DeepClean, including a question he typically asks applicants that often evokes a strong emotional response – including tears sometimes! While it is an evocative question, it must be answered if you are a man who is serious about overcoming compulsive sexual misbehavior. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Rela...