Man Within Podcast

After years of struggling in isolation to overcome pornography and coming to realize the power of peer-based support, Chandler Rogers founded Relay — an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. Chandler, 25, graduated from BYU in Business Strategy and Computer Science and lives with his wife in Salt Lake City, UT. In this discussion, he and Sathiya discuss:...

Today's episode is for both singles and those in relationships. While some loathe Valentine's Day, the reality is that they matter. You will learn how to approach valentine's day in a health way, while learning how NOT to handle his holiday based on a epic fail Sathiya shares from his personal life. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya...

We know that working through trauma is an important part of the recovery journey. But what happens when no matter what you try, you can't seem to move on? Are you just hopelessly stuck with trauma forever? What if the traumatic situation is ongoing? Today's episode addresses both matters while providing 3 things you can do immediately to change your situation. 1) Give It To God (the right way) 2)...

February 2023 marks 7 years that Sathiya has been clean from porn! In today's episode, he outlines 7 lessons he's learned that not only helped him get free, they have helped him stay free.  1) The power of close friends 2) The power of community 3) Act first, analyze second 4) Do the hard things first 5) Don't be afraid to ask for help 6) Pay experts for their expertise 7) Never stop giving thanks...

Teaching out of Matthew 5, today's episode breaks down what constitutes lust, why we beat ourselves up unnecessarily when it comes to how we view women, and why it is the intent of the heart that matters most. Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse

Jo Robertson is a qualified sex therapist who has completed her Master of Science in Medicine, with a focus on international consumption rates and impacts of porn on adolescents. Jo has trained health professionals, sexual health and sexual harm services, Police and Corrections staff and school communities on research based porn industry insights, the impacts on young people and navigating healthy...

Friendships are the plumbline of life. This episode explains how to establish and maintain quality friendships that stand the test of time. Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Edging is a neurobiological process that any man pursuing freedom must guard against. Today's episode breaks down edging, explaining why it is so dangerous, and offering practical ways to mitigate its effects to reduce and prevent relapses. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Without a clear understanding of what a feeling is, we actually further our emotional dysregulation and dysfunction. Today's episode explains the importance of defining a feeling so that we do not make the mistake of justifying behavior, attitudes or actions because "that's just how I felt." How you feel matters, so long as what you are communicating is in fact a feeling. Join DeepClean Inner Circ...

If you are interested in someone or currently dating, you have probably wondered when the right time is to have "the conversation" with your significant other. Today's episode provides a framework to bare in mind for assessing the correct timing of these conversations AND to ensure that they are done in a way that is positive for the relationship itself. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy...

Larry Hagner is the founder of The Dad Edge, a movement of fathers around the world who are striving to be better for themselves, their wives, and their kids. Larry is known for providing tactical approaches that help men create communication, connection and intimacy in their relationships, while enhancing their overall quality of life in the process. In today's episode, Larry and Sathiya talk abo...

Focus continues to be the name of the game for the modern man looking to make a difference in this world. Today's episode is a friendly reminder, using personal examples and stories, to guard your focus and make every effort to protect it at all costs. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The Last Relapse Follow Sathiya on Instagram

At some point in recovery, you will experience anxiety about a relapse, especially as you make progress. Today's episode outlines 2 areas you must address when experiencing relapse anxiety. The first is the real reason for the anxiety. Typically we resort to "fear of losing progress" or something of that nature, but if you dig a bit deeper you often find other areas that need more attention. Secon...

With the first month of the year coming to an end, it's about time for a check-in. Today's episode explores 3 areas to assess your progress in 2023 so far – metrics, activity consistency, and relapse response. If you have a clear picture of where you stand in these 3 areas, there's a good chance you'll be able to course correct accordingly to ensure 2023 is the year you kick porn once and for all....

Faking it til you make it has little to no value in most behavioral psychology circles. While it is easy to throw out the concept, today's episode explores some of the hidden truth that can be applied to a recovery context. Calling yourself a "free man" doesn't make you free, but asking questions like "What would a free man do in this situation?" and acting accordingly can begin to shape your thin...

Today's special episode features Sathiya's wife, Shaloma, on the podcast for the first time! Shaloma has quietly supported Sathiya behind the scenes, but today you get a chance to hear from Sathiya's far-better half. In this interview/discussion, Sathiya & Shaloma talk about: -What it's like to be married to a former porn addict -Why enduring so much hardship during engagement was a blessing in di...

The porn-addicted brain often asks "what can I get away with?" We are used to towing the line and playing with fire. Today's episode explains why we must become intolerant to anything that is remotely dangerous to our recovery, otherwise we risk it developing into something that derails our progress and dominates our lives. Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy of my bestselling book, The La...

Recovery starts as a seed. While many wait until they hit big milestones, the reality is that every moment you are in recovery is PROGRESS. Today's episode outlines 8 improvements you can expect "instantly" once you begin to quit porn. While some of these changes are in seed form, the point here is that we are not to wait until we hit landmarks to deem our recovery "commendable". The minute you be...

Anyone who has had a struggle with sexual misbehavior wants to change things not only for themselves, but for their lineage. Using his own parents' example, Sathiya explains in this episode that sometimes leading by example is the best way to ensure your lineage walks in the freedom you want for them. Follow Sathiya on Instagram

Sometimes, recovery doesn't work out the way we intended. Either we make progress but not the progress we intended, we find ourselves in the same situation as when we started, or we find our situation worse than when we started. Today's episode explains what to do in each of these situations, and how to know when to stop and when you need to keep on going.   Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE...

Heidi is a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. She is especially passionate about addressing the specific needs of trauma unique to sexual and relational betrayal. Heidi's work with partners of addicts translates across the spectrum of addiction: chemical and process addictions including sex, drugs, alcohol and gambling. Additionally, Heidi works with depression, anxiety, addiction and...

It's one thing to set priorities for your life, it's another thing to execute. Today's episode explains 4 things to consider when you are looking to set new priorities in your life habitually, including: 1) The importance of integrating with pre-existing routines 2) Starting with the one thing that will have the greatest impact 3) Keeping it small and building up 4) Evaluating longevity   Join Dee...

Today's heartfelt episode is a "letter" to the wife of a struggling husband. Sometimes, men do not have the words or the right skills to explain our side, to bring understanding and ultimately provide hope to our loved ones. If you are a man that has been struggling for a long time and you are sick and tired of hurting your spouse with your struggle, this episode is something you should listen to...

Effective solutions are always measured by their philosophy/approach to recovery. A challenge many face is choosing something that appears different, when in reality it is the same dogma packaged differently. Today's episode explains what to look for in an effective solution, highlighting different examples of what NOT to do when you are looking for something new. Book A Time With Sathiya's Team

Vulnerability is the name of the game when it comes to healing the heart, but what happens when you put yourself out there and feel naked and raw afterwards? Today's episode explains how to go about vulnerability with wisdom, and an easy way to recover/debrief after you choose to be vulnerable. Listen to Episode 12 - Man's Secret Weapon (on journaling)   Join DeepClean Inner Circle Get a FREE copy...