Loving On Purpose

It can become so easy to feel some self-pity when we are not having the relationship we would like to have with our adult children.  We justify having these pity parties but they never help us feel better.  They just add "fuel to the fire".  Why?  Because feeling sorry for ourselves keeps us stuck in the cycle of thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to our thoughts about...

Have you ever done a zig saw puzzle before and you just knew when they cut the puzzle they left a piece out?  Sometimes our problems in life feel the same.  Sometimes we create problems that aren't even problems.  It's so much easier to whine about a problem than to embrace it.  We know they are coming but we still avoid or neglect them.  What if we thought about them as being a part of...

Who do you want to be?  This podcast will help you become that person.  I will give you step be step instructions on how to become this person.  It's one of the best uses of the Model you will ever use, but we work backwards. Action:  Kind Person Feeling:  Compassionate, loving Thought:  People are doing the best they can at this moment in their life. You can reprogram your brain to default t...

The land of being curious is safe, compassionate, and loving.  We can be judgmental, or loving is best, but to get there we might need sometimes to go through being curious.  Curious about our thoughts and whether they are good thoughts to focus on; curious about why our adult children make some of the choices they make; curious about who you want to be to your adult children and the world when un...

Instead of hiding and running from adversity, why not welcome it.  Adversity can teach us lessons, strengthen us, and show us how God is the the details of our lives like nothing else can.  We are dependent upon having adversity in our lives to have those amazing moments be so amazing.  It is part of living a well lived life so let us give a big welcome to adversity.  After listening to this episo...

We are impatient beings, we human beings are.  It is so uncomfortable being uncomfortable.  What if we welcomed the negative emotions that come on a daily basis.  Those negative experiences make the good experiences even better.  It is when we are feeling discomfort that we go to work to solve some of our most important decisions.  It is in the midst of hard things that we grow strong and resilien...

It upsets our lives when our children stray from what we tried so diligently and purposely to teach them.  We grieve over our heartbrokenness ..... which is a very healthy and repairing thing to do.  But then what?  Sometimes we get so stuck in our despair and disappointment that it has a major impact on our lives.  We want to accept what they have done and move on with our lives but we don't...

Our brains do not like change.  So it hangs on tight to thoughts that often times don't serve us. They hang onto thoughts that want us to keep believing that when our adult children make choices contrary to our values, they are making the wrong choice.  But maybe exercising their agency the very way they choose to, offers them opportunities to figure out who they want to be in this life.  Our...

I am excited to be interviewing Jodi Schilling today.  She is a certified Life Coach who works with moms who are navigating raising children with neuro diversity.  A neuro divergent child is a child that is born with significant challenges in learning and in communicating their needs.  She doesn't view being neuro divergent as being negative.  After all, we all struggle with learning and comm...

This has been the most influential, amazing concept I have learned from being trained as a life coach.  I need to give credit where credit is due, to my mentor and instructor Brooke Castillo.  Responsible adults do not intentionally wake up in the morning with the intention to make someone feel bad.  When your adult children say things to that are unkind, do things that are hurtful, or seemingly i...

If you or any one you know, goes through life with generally a poor attitude, you'll want to tune in to this is episode...  You can train your brain to look at situations, relationships, or even past events from a different perspective.  A perspective that serves you; that enables you to find peace in having a well lived life.  Practice.  You just need to know what to practice; the more you p...

Do You feel you have to “walk on eggshells” when you’re around your adult children?  Do you worry if you don’t say and do the right thing, you’ll lose the relationship?  You can be YOU if you can figure who you want “you” to be and how does that person not only act but also WANTS to act when they are around their adult children.  Tune in to learn how to make this happen in your life. I offer an 8...

Why do some people see the glass half "full" while  others see it half "empty".  The ones that see it half full have different thoughts when they look at the glass of water than those who see it as half full.  In this episode you will find an amazing way to solve any problem.  It really is the magic sauce, sometimes referred to as the secret sauce.  To contact me , email me at...

Having a manual with lists of how loving, responsible adult children should treat their mothers belongs in the garbage.  If we have expectations of how people should operate we are setting ourselves up for disaster!  Tune in to find out how to have our needs met that are not being fulfilled by our children. I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to support...

The natural man wants to default to judging another person for causing him to feel hurt.  Some of us know that other people don't have the power to make us feel hurt; our thoughts make us feel hurt.  Compassionate thoughts never cause us to feel hurt; they cause us to feel the most amazing of all emotions.....LOVE.  We have the power within us to default to feeling compassion rather than hurt...

Do find yourself more often than not focusing on the negative outcome of circumstances instead of being hopeful that everything is going to work out?  It's just your brain trying to protect you from future disappointment.  But what if you trained your brain to give some "air time" to it could all work out?  In this episode I give you some ways you can start reprogramming your brain...

Do you have some painful feelings that keep surfacing in your life?  Are they getting in the way of living the life you want to live?  If you are having negative feelings that are surfacing often, or are very intense, or seem to turn up in certain situations, I teach you how to de-intensify those feelings.  Turning to alchol or drugs or donuts or even running is not the fix.  Too often we want to...

It is ten days before Christmas.  Are you feeling stressed, tired, frazzled?  Are you worried about all the details Christmas brings with it?  How about that crazy uncle with all his corny jokes that bores everyone to tears?  STOP.......take a deep breath, grab your favorite beverage and sit down and take a listen to the suggestions I give to have a merry Christmas.  What if I guaranteed you would...

We know that loving everyone is something we have been asked  to do.  Christ asked us to love everyone, not to show Him respect, but for the benefit to us.  All any of us really want is to feel good.  Love always feels best, just every time.  Easier said than done.  I talk about how to choose to love someone even if they are difficult to love or who might even reject your love.  When we choose to...