Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Happy New Year, Friend! Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the New Year's resolutions people make, and I'm curious how you're feeling about yours today. After indulging during the holidays, we often place our hopes in the hands of our future selves, determined that this will be the year everything changes. Of course, having goals is a good thing, but the biggest challenge with New Year's resol...

When someone’s betrayed or hurt us—especially when we didn’t see it coming—it’s hard to avoid the lack of trust that latches on to us and shadows us into our next relationship. Is there an antidote to this? Is it possible to regain trust after heartbreak? In this clip, I share an important message about how you choose to set healthy boundaries in a relationship when you've been burnt in the past....

Can you have a relationship that starts great - but becomes sexually boring? Can it happen with someone you're truly meant to be with? It's always a hard moment if you're with someone who ticks many of your boxes, but one crucial aspect of the relationship isn't working. So how much should you work to get the spark back? Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss why the spark fades, how to get mor...

As we roll into the New Year, it seems like as good a time as any to talk about our standards. We think of a new year as being a time where we reset our standards, don’t we? And yet, have you ever worried that you’re being too picky? And have you ever wondered if this “pickiness” is the thing that’s stopping you from finding a relationship? I was on stage when a woman stood up and asked: “Matthew,...

In this week's rewind episode, I take a question from Khalani on why, in modern day dating, many people are hesitant to jump into a relationship. We also discuss how she can be more trusting when meeting men who are looking for more than a casual fling. Enjoy! --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts You Can Send To Get More Attraction”: 9texts.com ►► FREE download: “Why Men Disappear”: WhyHesGone.com Hoste...

Casual relationships and hook-ups are more common than ever. Some even talk about a "hook-up culture". But even though we have more choice than ever, there are sometimes consequences we never anticipate. Society says we shouldn’t have stigma around hooking up and casually dating - and that's a good thing - but it can also be painful if we aren't honest about what we really want. We always have to...

OK, picture this . . . I’m in my local coffee shop, minding my own business—my business in this case is ordering an oat milk flat white (just in case we ever go to coffee and you want to know what my order is)—and I get talking to a woman who tells me she’s mad at me. She knows who I am, she’s a fan, she even said my program worked for her, and yet she told me she was mad at me. In this episode, I...

Do you know what really makes relationships fall apart? I do. Having now coached for over 10 years on the topic of dating, I’ve seen the worst behaviors over and over again. And if we don’t work on eliminating these toxic relationship habits, it doesn’t matter how attractive we are: we’ll always find a way to self-sabotage and drive our partner away. I don’t know about you, but a lifetime of painf...

Ever been betrayed by someone you love? How about having an ex start dating your best friend after putting you through a toxic relationship? It can be especially painful when you feel like someone has changed for the better...but only for their new partner AFTER you've already experienced the worst of them! In this episode, Matt and the JAMS crew discuss how to let go of your resentment, make peac...

“Why am I still single?!?” If you’ve asked yourself this question long enough, you might be starting to feel like finding love is simply a matter of luck. And sometimes that’s true. But most of the time, we may not realize that the way we’ve set up our everyday life and habits can inadvertently make it harder to find “the one.” If you’re struggling to figure out why you’re still single, in this we...

For a long time I thought it was crazy how many women asked me to talk about this topic. But now, I realize the reason is obvious: In 2022, more of us are doing long-distance relationships than ever. You meet a great guy on Instagram who doesn’t live in the same country... You start dating the perfect man in your city, only to find out he’s been offered a new job 1000 miles away… And suddenly, you...

You might feel like you’re seeing all your friends in couples, and you wonder why it hasn’t happened to you yet. Although we can’t control the exact moment we’ll meet “the one”, there are things we can do that make it MUCH more likely we’ll find a great relationship by having the right habits and mindset. So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss 5 reasons you’re still single a...

I’m curious if you can relate to this . . . You know you have a lot to offer someone, but you can’t seem to get out of the cycle of dating the wrong people—bouncing from one emotionally unavailable guy to the next. What you may not notice is that—without even realizing it—you’ve likely conditioned yourself to attract those types of guys. While a casual fling with someone like that may feel harmles...

Breakups are hard. Really hard. Especially if you didn’t do the breaking up. You’re left with questions about your own self-worth. You punish yourself for your deficiencies. You retrace the steps of the relationship like a detective on a mission to find out where you screwed up. And so we meet Roy, the subject of our clip today. Now you know Roy’s story. What can he do to wake from this fever drea...

Do you have a relationship that you are unwilling to lose, but that causes you daily resentment and frustration? Where you feel like you are giving, but not getting much in return? In this solo episode, Matt explains how to take a step back and reassess a toxic or difficult relationship we want to keep in our lives, whether it’s reasonable to expect someone to change, and what we can do to protect...

“Let’s just take it day by day.” “We may not be ‘official,’ but I basically act like your boyfriend. Aren’t actions enough for you?” “I like you too much to be with you . . .”Any of these sound familiar? Trying to decode the excuses guys give for the reason why they don’t want an exclusive relationship can get incredibly confusing. How is it that you can have great communication with a guy in near...

You're on a date with someone. You're both sharing stories. He tells you that he plays the guitar. You notice that he seems really proud when he tells you about playing his first gig. Then without missing a moment, you start enthusiastically telling him about your friend who's also in a band, is the best guitarist you've ever seen, and has just released and album. Suddenly, his eyes narrow and he...

There may be few more controversial and divisive topics than that of watching porn in relationships. For some, it’s cheating. For others, it’s a useful way to balance out differences in sexual appetites. For others still, it can be a fun thing for couples to share and explore sexually together. So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson get together to discuss healthy vs unhealthy attit...

In the early days of dating, figuring out if someone is actually open to a relationship is key. But what does it mean when you ask them whether they're interested in a committed relationship and they respond, "I could be open to that. . . with the right person"?This sentence can make us feel safe to dive in, but do we really know whether they're truly looking for a relationship. . . or just tellin...

Compliments are like gifts. In fact, they’re even better, because the right compliment can be something the receiver never forgets. When in a relationship, most people don’t give enough compliments, despite them being so powerful in creating connection and making people feel loved. So here are 3 compliments men love to hear that can get you started! --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” →...

Have you ever had a guy say things that give you completely mixed messages? Or you've heard a phrase several times and are left scratching your head wondering what it actually means?   You're not alone.   In this episode we asked YOU for your best examples of confusing phrases you've heard from guys and got together to crack the code once and for all!   --- Email us! You can in touch with the show...

You felt like the date couldn’t have gone better. They told you they had the best time, and as soon as you got home, you started counting down the minutes until you could see them again . . .  Except you never got that second date. Why would someone disappear after saying they had a really great time? Today’s episode reveals the #1 reason why this happens, and what you can do about it. I’ll give y...

Back in ye olden times, the fear that a partner might be cheating was enough to keep someone up at night. But in recent years, we’ve added a new layer of anxiety to the mix: “micro-cheating,” a.k.a. “back burner relationships.”   In fact, when Psychology Today recently polled people who are in a relationship, 56% revealed they had a back burner person: someone they’re in contact with who could be...

Why are toxic relationships so hard to leave? One reason is because you hold onto the small good moments and fail to acknowledge the extent of the bad. And when we feel sympathy for someone, this also makes us doubt ourselves. We think "Maybe I'm wrong?", "Maybe I'm being too harsh on this person?", "Maybe it's actually ok?"  In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about how to get...

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class. And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and in...