Love Life With Matthew Hussey

What’s the best way to think strategically about finding love in the coming year? In this episode I had a chance to speak with the excellent Ali Abdaal who offers practical insights on productivity and simple habits you can adopt to improve your live and maximize your chances of finding your partner. Grab a copy of Ali’s awesome book “ Feel Good Productivity ” - available now!  --- ►► Discover the...

If you’re dealing with loss, sickness, or loneliness, this time of year can serve to magnify whatever you’re going through.  So in this weekend’s new episode, I wanted to do something a little different . . . While this message is for anyone who needs a boost during the holidays, it’s especially for those in the middle of a “complicated Christmas.” And today I want you to know that you’re not alon...

You know those tricky early dates? You go for drinks. Maybe a walk. You pretend you listen to cool music and hope you both enjoy a similar taste in movies. Then texting. Then maybe a kiss. Uh-oh, now you actually like them. Crap. I mean, great! Now what? If you want to know how to keep the attraction well after the first date, so you can finally stop overthinking and show your best self, this is t...

Here’s a common problem I hear, You feel ready for a relationship. You’ve worked hard to improve yourself and you have high standards for the person you want to be with long-term . . . but no one you date meets your standards. I know it can be so frustrating—but this feeling can lead to some dangerous mindsets that get in our way of finding love . . . often without us even realizing it. So in toda...

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere. You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s rewind episode I’ll show you… My hope is that...

How do you know if someone’s really over their ex? Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven’t 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?” This is a really important topic in today’s episode, and my answer...

Have you ever wondered what the right amount of effort to put in with someone is? Should you let them know you’d like to go on a date with them? And what about after the date. . . Should you let them know you’d like to see them again if you felt the date went well but they're not being proactive about setting up another one? Where is the line between showing someone you like them, and chasing some...

It’s not always easy to tell the difference between friendliness, playful affection, and genuine romantic feelings. In today’s episode, I dive into the psychology of attraction to share 31 subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that can reveal someone’s intentions. Whether you’re flirting with someone you’ve just met, or wondering if the person you’ve been dating for a while wants to be more serious, th...

Life is too short to put off our happiness until we reach certain milestones. It's great to make finding a relationship a goal, but the journey to getting there from being single doesn't have to be an arduous and unpleasant one. Too many people don't realise how much joy and happiness they can find when they are single and haven't met the right person yet. In this episode, I'll show you some simpl...

What’s the best way to go from casual to committed when you’re dating someone? There are two important things to remember here: • Our standards are a HUGE influence on someone’s decision to commit. • We’re more likely to drop our standards when we really like someone. So how do you show your standards in a confident way (without seeming demanding or needy)? In today’s episode, I share the best adv...

Do you find it hard to truly let down your guard with a man? What do you do when you get angry or hurt? Do you get quiet? Passive-aggressive? Lash out? If you know that the way you’re bringing things up isn’t productive, and has the tendency to push someone away, my new video is essential watching today . . . Let me know what you think. --- ►► FREE Video Training: "Dating With Results": DatingWith...

Some very exciting news to share today . . .  I made a movie! And it’s not just any film . . . it’s a romantic comedy special that will transform your love life while you watch it. We’ve gathered the very best moments from my last live tour to create The Love Myths: a 90-minute movie that’s been years in the making, and we’ve now set a date for its exclusive premiere and live Q&A next month. T...

One thing no one ever warns you about happy relationships is just how many awkward conversations they can require you to have. And despite all the big ones of politics, religion and family – I find one topic almost no one wants to talk about is money. Who should pay on a date? Should you be honest with your partner how much money (or debt) you have? How do you handle it when one of you earns signi...

When you're texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you're in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations. Today's episode is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 17 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection. Use these practical messages to inspire...

Have you ever been so frustrated by someone's mixed signals that you just decided to finally confront them and ask where you stand? It’s a scary moment. You feel like you’ve thrown your heart into the air, and you’re hoping they'll run to catch it instead of letting it fall and splat on the ground and make a huge mess. (I know, not the loveliest metaphor I’ve ever written…) And then… They reply. Y...

Have you ever felt like you had to walk on eggshells in a relationship? Or had a partner who criticized you or made you feel bad when you were succeeding? It’s often easier to see a toxic relationship from the outside than when you’re in the thick of it. Sometimes it can even be hard to tell the difference between something that can be worked on and a major red flag. For today’s new video, I’ve ga...

There's some really interesting psychology about compliments: not all of them have the same effect. You can give generic compliments, or you can give compliments that create real attraction and connection between the two of you. One of these compliments works for when you first message someone on an app... The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person... The 3rd one is for someon...

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of...

“How can I stop addictive thoughts about someone who’s wrong for me?” When we really like someone but know there are signs of problems, we’ll often overvalue them for their charisma and charm . . . and set ourselves up for massive future heartbreak. If you find yourself getting fixated on someone too quickly—trying to make them fit into a relationship based on who they could be—then watch this wee...

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and mor...

It’s easy to ignore red flags when we’re falling for someone. But our heart pays the price.  When you’re really attracted to someone, you can talk yourself out of acting on your concerns. You may pursue someone who doesn’t want a relationship in the hope of changing them, or prioritize someone else’s needs over your own because of your feelings of admiration.  For today’s episode, I’ve gathered so...

We often tell people they should be open in relationships. But what does it mean to be "open"? And can vulnerability become over-sharing, or is it always healthy? In this episode clip, Matt and Steve talk about the art of opening up to your partner and how to communicate vulnerability the right way. --- ►► Follow Matt:  MatthewHusseyIG Follow Stephen:  StephenHusseyIG ►► Learn 5 Techniques To Get...

Do you find yourself always chasing the same type of people in dating?  It can be incredibly frustrating when you get caught in familiar toxic patterns. You want to throw your hands up and say, “How did this happen again?” If you want to break this pattern, today’s new video of my conversation with author and entrepreneur Marie Forleo is a must-watch. Don’t miss it! --- ►► Follow Matt  @thematthew...

It's time to talk romance. What it is, and how to get it. Is it something you're born with? Or something you can learn? Join us as we talk about the kind of romance that matters in relationships and holds them together long-term.  --- ►► Follow Matt on Insta:  @thematthewhussey ►► Follow Stephen on Insta:  @stephenhhussey ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in 6 Magical Days. Learn More About...

Do you still feel under pressure to find love? Are people making you fearful that it's too late and you're not young enough to attract the partner you deserve? In this conversation, Matt talks to the incredible Marie Forleo ( @MarieForleo ) about her own path to finding love, how we may need to change our blueprint to find the right person for us, and what it takes to be truly fulfilled in a long-...