Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since. The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected. I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actua...

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up). What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment. And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and...

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you. One of them works for when you first message someone on an app… The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person… The 3rd one is for...

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you!  It's time to start being ok with being weird... --- ►► Email us at podcast@matthewhussey.com Follow Stephen: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informa...

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of...

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and mo...

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better? If so, this is required listening. To do something special for my Love. Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch ( @GuyWinch ) on for a special h...

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing.  Including: Why we get sucked in by love bombing What "red flags" to look for early on How to be (healthily skeptical) before diving into romance How to move on after heartbreak --- ►► If you're ready to deep dive into your love life and want to see Matt answer real love questions on our live webinars, join our Love. Life VIP Memb...

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time? This episode solves that problem for you. In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know...

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, that’s a bold statement. But when you see it, you’ll know why. My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life. And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situ...

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads. They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spend hours waiting for texts back only to get one-word answers, and they chase intimacy from people who only want attention/sex/validation... I don’t have a dog in this fight. Being in a relationship can be incredible. But being single is also AMAZI...

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. But there is...

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where w...

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years. Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day. I know these things are hard. Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems. But if you want to kn...

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere. You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s episode I’ll show you… My hope is t...

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws? In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak.   --- ►► Ready to transform your confidence and get the relationship you deserve? Get your copy of the At-Home Retreat at...

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence. I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never ha...

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples. Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at podcast@matthewhussey.com!   --- ►► Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.c...

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, r...

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you a...

I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives. Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you...

“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one. I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai ( @thejeanniemai )– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “ Listen Hunnay .” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind...

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person?  How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave?  It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder.  In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice. --- Fol...

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could...

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www. AskMH.com   This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That mean...