Love Life With Matthew Hussey

When a relationship ends, or someone stops calling after several dates, do you need to know why? What does it mean to get “closure” in dating? As humans we put a lot of emphasis on how things end. We want answers: “Was it the way I dressed? Is it something about my body? Or something I did that turned you off? Was it too desperate?!” But what answers are we looking for? And how much brutally hones...

Dating is tough. The person we’re meeting up with may have been on multiple other dates this month. How can we stand out when there seems to be so much competition? The #1 way to separate ourselves is through great conversation. And yet most of us spend all of our time trying to look hot without ever thinking about what we’re going to say when we get there. I’m sure you already have the “looking g...

We all long for financial independence, relationship bliss, greater familial connection, and a generally peaceful life with fewer hardships. But as it happens, life doesn’t care about the straight-line trajectory we've planned for ourselves. But life is cyclical and doesn’t trend in just one direction. This is why it is imperative for us to take our focus off of where we feel we “ought to be” and...

It's easy when we like someone to feel like we have to make excuses for their avoidant behaviour. Sometimes they may have genuine psychological issues that need to be resolved. But how much should you wait in limbo if the person you're dating still hasn't figured themselves out? Should their issues with their previous ex be an excuse to not move forward? And what can you do about it? Matt, Jameson...

Who pays on a first date? Six years ago, I made a controversial video tackling this very subject, and it went viral. Millions of people watched and reposted it (wikiHow even used it as the definitive video answer to the question) . . . It was so popular that it went viral AGAIN earlier this year when someone posted it under the title “Man Humbles a Room Full of Women.” So this week, I decided to m...

In the early stages of dating someone we like and feel excited about, everyone is worried about coming across too keen and blowing it. This is a very human experience felt by men and women alike. And it is that very emotion that will have us mute our needs and desires as we go into overdrive to impress the other person. But as we know, people like what they value, and communicating our standards e...

We asked men "what is the brutally honest truth about why you get scared of committing to someone?", and boy do we have some answers for you! Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about whether they agree with the reasons men give for avoiding commitment, what makes some men want to stay single, and what we can do to influence it. --- ►► Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! Claim...

Does it sometimes feel like men are afraid of commitment? You could be dating someone for a few months—and have a ton of chemistry and a great emotional connection—and yet, like clockwork, you hit a wall the moment the relationship gets to a stage where it feels like it should be progressing to the next level. Just when you start to feel that this could be something real, he puts his guard up and...

Is there someone in your life who keeps going hot and cold with the attention they're showing you? One minute they want to see you, and the next, you feel them pulling away... What's up with that? When someone you like disappears and then reappears, it's easy to drive yourself crazy trying to work out the BEST way to get their attention again. You think, "Do I ignore them to teach them a lesson? D...

One of the unchanging truths about love is that even though it's beautiful when we find it, there's always a chance we can lose it. But how do we move on from an old chapter when it's over? How do you develop the right mindset to get back in the game when you've faced a major setback? Matt and the team sit down to discuss starting over and why it can be both a painful and beautiful experience. ---...

I’ve heard this story a thousand times before . . . A woman goes on a date with a guy and they hit it off. Things seem to be going well, and pretty soon, they’re seeing each other all the time. He’s texting her daily, making plans with her for the future, and every time his name pops up on her phone, she feels a surge of happiness and excitement. That very same excitement keeps hitting new peaks u...

It's easy to feel like our struggles, or past, our pain, is holding us back in life. And I'm not here to pretend it's easy to deal with those burdens we carry with us. But they don't have to define you. In fact, if you choose, you can make them the start of a completely different story that gives you more power than you could possibly imagine. So today, here is a personal message on what it takes...

Do you have a dating type? Have your previous relationships always been with a similar person, in terms of looks, personality or behavioural dynamics? It's easy for us to look at the past and tell ourselves, "This is who I am. This is who I like." And it can affect how we date now simply because of what we're used to. But is it helpful to lock ourselves in on a single kind of person? Or should our...

On dating apps, first impressions matter. And after you clear the first hurdle of endless swiping and find someone who piques your interest, it’s often the next step that’s the hardest . . . That is, of course: What on EARTH do you say to them?! You scan their bio, hoping inspiration will strike and you’ll manage to figure out the perfect opening gambit. You think: Would a simple “hey” or “great p...

You wouldn’t believe how many people read every blog, watch every YouTube video, and follow every Facebook post I put out, and yet still say: “Yeah, Matt… I get it. But there’s this one guy that I really like…” And because they’re so head-over-heels for this man, all of the advice goes out of the window. In this episode, I’m about to reveal 2 simple words that will tell you everything you need to...

Today Matt and the team answer a listener who asks what she can do about fear of abandonment. When you're scared of someone else leaving, it can make you bail at the first sign of an argument or problem. You make assumptions and think the worst any time you have a negative moment. If you've struggled with the insecurity of worrying someone else will leave, this episode will give you some tools and...

In today’s new episode, I’ll share with you exactly how to do that through 13 highly practical tips to get him to take you more seriously. Some of these are subtle, but each one of these points can have an outsized impact on how your relationship moves forward. I really wanted to make this because the tone you set in the beginning will serve you throughout your entire relationship, and the influen...

You may have at some point said to yourself: “I know a guy who acts really charming and friendly, but I have no idea if he actually LIKES me!” It’s annoying, right? Especially if the guy is a naturally charismatic guy anyway. How do you know if he has eyes for you, or if he’s just like that with every woman he meets? Taking the risk of putting yourself on the line for someone could mean embarrassm...

If you truly feel like you had a once-in-a-lifetime connection, it can feel like you'll never get over a past relationship. Sometimes we can still idealize a relationship from years ago because we feel like we'll never replace that person. And then we get locked in a story: "I can never move on from this because that's the strongest chemistry I'll ever have". In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey...

Over the years, have you found yourself repeatedly attracting: . . . people who appear to be emotionally unavailable? . . . selfish people who don’t respect you in both friendships and romantic relationships? . . . maybe even narcissists? Have you ever wondered why you seem to be a magnet for these kinds of toxic people? If any of this rings true, and you want to break this cycle, then this episod...

When it comes to attraction, it's not enough to just have visual chemistry. Deep attraction - that keeps someone interested well beyond a few weeks - requires 4 different stages you need to progress through. In this video I explain the 4 stages in a live coaching call and show how you should decide when to invest more or less in a budding relationship. --- ►► Download our BRAND NEW guide on "How T...

Commitment in 2022 can mean many different things. Typically it means a decision to either be exclusive, or commit to a future together, and a decision to take yourself off the dating market entirely. But many of us can get into situations where WE DON’T EVEN KNOW if we’re in a committed partnership or not. We never know where we stand because we make assumptions and forget to define the relations...

Have you ever been with a guy you were certain would never settle down? The type who would declare to all his friends that he just “wasn’t made” for a relationship . . . only to one day announce he’s in a serious relationship or even getting married? When this happens, we think, “What did the woman he committed to do that I didn’t?!” What makes a man suddenly decide to commit? In this week’s video...

Just because we've accepted it's over, it doesn't mean we've truly moved on. We can still obssess, think about past times, and romanticize someone in a way that stops us ever moving forward. If you're stuck right now, don't miss this message and take your power back! --- ►► Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts: podcast@matthewhussey.com ►► FREE guide to down...

We all like to think a great relationship is just about finding the right person. But it's not. It's also about how you communicate with that person. It's about the inner thoughts you share. The way you divide tasks. How you both share your worries. The time you schedule you together. In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson sit down to talk through a recent New York Times article by Cat...