Love is a Battlefield - The Domestic Violence Podcast

Using & manipulating others to isolate their victims and gain more power and control sounds sick? It is! Learn about What is Triangulation and its different forms in this episode. As usual I spill tea, sharing my own experiences. The pennies drop as I realise this not only happened but the constant efforts for a perpetrator to use this to attempt to continue abuse and control was actually ridi...

Ohhhh gee willy winkers, yet another unhinged episode recorded in the wee hours. The cringing is so real I couldn't even listen to it before sending it out into the world. Listen at your own risk. In today's episode, I explore why the statistics in all countries reflect a significant increase in domestic violence in the Christmas period. We start with stats and facts then dive into why abu...

What really is Misogyny and what is this Misandry word all these men keep calling feminists? Are the definitions really the opposite of each other? The answer may surprise you because honestly I'm shook, and in a good way! I won't ruin it for you, have a listen and email in to let me know your thoughts (address below). xx EPISODE DISCLAIMER CONTACT:  Email in to share your story or for adv...

DOUBLE LENGTH EPISODE What does happen if you fight back? If you defend yourself? The drive and determination of many abusers to frame their victim as the perpetrator is so common and relentless. In this episode I share advice about what to and not to do when faced with abuse. I describe how I got justice and what would've prevented that. I describe how the "system" expects a true vi...

That’s right. Insecure men are dangerous. I run my mouth in the most unhinged episode to date where the ‘why’ of this is explored.  We look at short man syndrome (love a short king), cheating and all the signs of insecure men.  We don’t blame the men but blame patriarchy for feeding them with the notion they aren’t enough if they don’t fit the toxic ‘macho man’ view.  This way of thinking leads to...

Don't adjust your eyes because yes, you read that right! I was raised by nudists. I briefly brushed by this subject in a recent episode and as promised, have dropped all the details of what this means and what it was like. While it isn't a direct DV subject, it reveals some of the dynamics that can lead to different boundaries. CONTACT:  Email in to share your story or for advice with ANY...

ANOTHER DOUBLE EPISODE-CONFESSION TIME! EP 21 is my confession that growing up I was conditioned with misogynistic values, ideas and beliefs without even knowing it. I then took those beliefs into adulthood and had no idea what feminism really was. Now my eyes are open! Unfortunately, so many women continue to spread Internalised Misogyny to this day.  I share many personal stories, even about a W...

DOUBLE EPISODE! Ever wanted to know a victims personal experience of getting justice? When I came out of DV I had no idea what was happening and would've literally paid to hear someone else's experience! In this episode I read the lists of charges and sentenced charges and describe what the criminal did that was related to each charge. Note that these charges are from one event only. There...

Can you believe I had no idea what 'boundaries' were until after 30! I aways thought it was just a cricketing term if I go outside the boundary haha. Well now I don't only know, but have learnt the hard way why they are so important, especially regarding Domestic Abuse & Violence! In this episode I describe in more than one way what they mean so it actually makes sense. I also shar...

Following on from Ep 17 FINANCIAL ABUSE, I (over) share a story from when an ex used manipulation to move in and lie about contributing financially, only to steal and never contribute a cent. I expose many ways in which I was able to be fooled in the hopes others may dodge a similar situation. Even if this doesn't help someone practically, I do hope you feel less alone (or silly) if anything r...

What is it? It comes in many forms but the heart of it is abusers sick desire for power and control. This episode explores what it really is and I learn that I experienced this in a situation I didn't even realise was financial abuse (but now makes SO much sense). Email me!! Share YOUR story. loveisabattlefieldpodcast@gmail.com Stay safe legends xx References Ep 17: https://www.forbes.com/site...

I was stalked. Someone who shall not be named had many charges against them and one of those was literally 'Stalking'. The reality of stalking as a crime is A LOT and in this episode I share all the graphic details of what was done to me when it comes to STALKING. CONTACT:  Email in to share your story or for advice with ANY relationship dilemma or dating nightmares at:  loveisabattlefield...

In this episode, we explore the psychosocial phenomenon, the BYSTANDER EFFECT and how many survivors have reported witnesses ignoring pleas for help/not calling police. Many of us have heard that "if you're being raped, yell fire because people will be more inclined to assist in a fire, but turn a blind eye to rape". There is a psychological theory behind this. It is devastating to l...

"If you've been through DV before, no-one will believe you if you tell them I abused you". This explains why I found an abuser sharing fake stories and sexy selfies on Domestic Violence FB groups. Like a fisherman looking for their next catch, this predator intentionally went looking for his next victims in Domestic Violence Survivor Groups. In this STORYTIME episode I share this sho...

What is a SMEAR CAMPAIGN? We explore yet another sick tactic abusers use to manipulate their victims and those around them. This one is extra ICK as it involves revenge among other disturbing reasons for doing such harmful behaviours to others. I also share a very CONTROVERSIAL opinion about a very public smear campaign (don't hate me!). Reference: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/narcissist-sm...

EPISODE 12 Starts with the trial of splitting storytimes from the more informative episodes. While Personal experiences are shared through episode, this one is about the time I went back. It takes guts to be so vulnerable and share this EMBARRASSING situation, but if just one person can feel not so shame filled, isolated or stuck in a situation with an abuser, it's worth it. xx CONTACT:  Email...

Ever wondered what an unedited podcast episode sounds like? Join me for Episode 11 Cycle of Abuse! After transitioning to Mac, I've been learning a new recording programme. The results are in- I'm shit. Please enjoy this peak behind the curtain into a real, raw, boring pauses, slowwwww talkingggg and all episode. I have always wondered what professional podcasters unedited versions sound l...

Episode 10 brings part 2 of Justice System Flaws- When Police get it Wrong. This episode is one HUGE storytime share of an intimate story I was reluctant to share. In the end, what I do is not about me, it's about you and future generations and being one small voice for change. A voice against the silence that enables abusers and a broken system to allow the continuation of violence against wo...

An episode so HUGE it had to be split into two parts!! Part one starts with the discovery that many women imprisoned are victims of domestic abuse and I share storytime's from survivors I've met. I then spill a storytime from long ago and how courts have changed how they treat victims. However, I end up sharing a recent storytime that shows there is still a LONG way for the police to go wh...

Welcome to one of the most important episodes of LOVE IS A BATTLEFIELD, the podcast. Why? TRAUMA BOND is one of the most shame-filled, hidden experiences of many victims of domestic violence & abuse. It is also used by cults and other organisations as a technique to prevent people from leaving. We are bringing it to light today by explaining what it is & share a listener’s & my persona...

Ep 7 continues the definition series of Domestic Violence terms, discussing what is Circle Talk and how abusers use this to maintain control while avoiding responsibility. Flying Monkeys finds myself and a listener both sharing experiences of this when leaving our abusers. The similarities are unnerving, knowing this happens to many victims each and every day. The creepy, manipulative moves of abu...

Ep 6 REACTIVE ABUSE, CONFESSIONS & MORE! The & MORE! is due to a confession about how I was a part of the patriarchy, its impact on both women AND men, and JUSTIN BALDONI and his books that help attack the patriarchy by supporting boys to grow up without the pressures of toxic masculinity. The weekly storytime is about a very unsettling threat by a perpetrator and the assessments you have...

Ep 5 NARCISSISTIC ABUSE In this episode we ask what is NARCISSISTIC ABUSE and how does it differ from any other types of abuse? If you thought last episodes storytime was a bit creepy, this one takes the creepy cake- and ends up getting me all in my feels! So hop on board the Tangent Train as ADHD and I take you on a convoluted journey to learn about DV and share stories to both empower and offer...

We kick off the Narcissist series by asking 'What is a Narcissist?' and how this relates to domestic violence and abuse. A very creepy, personal storytime is shared of some of the sick ways an abuser tried to frame me for his crimes-yuk! The narcissist series proves that Love really can be a Battlefield xx Email in to Spill Tea or for advice with ANY relationship dilemma at: loveisabattlef...

Ep 3 Green Flags Running on from last episode's RED FLAGS, it's only natural to follow up with some GREEN FLAGS. It's positive vibes with all the beautiful green, good things in dating & relationships. Then we shift gears for a very vulnerable, intense Storytime about hiding on peed on floors and other absolute BS experiences of Domestic Violence. This episode starts off light and...