Love Each Other Better

In this episode of Love Each Other Better , I'm thrilled to welcome Roxy Manning, PhD, a psychologist, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and the author of  How to Have Anti-Racist Conversations . Together, we explore the concept of the Beloved Community, inspired by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and how it ties into Roxy's work and activism. We dive into topics like having authentic and courageous c...

Welcome to a special New Year's episode! As we say goodbye to 2024 and look ahead to 2025, I'm diving into the idea of Relationship Resolutions. Whether it's your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or even yourself, the relationships in our lives shape so much of our joy and fulfillment. In this episode, I share simple, practical ideas for strengthening those connections in meaningful ways. Using...

In this thought-provoking episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I sit down with Jen Lumanlan, host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast and author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World . Join us for an introduction to how white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism shape family dynamics and influence parenting approaches, and...

In Episode 21 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I'm joined by clinical psychologist,  neuropsychologist, and certified parenting coach, Dr. Gila, to explore self-regulation strategies and their transformative impact on intimate relationships. Dr. Gila is a master at simplifying complex concepts in interpersonal neurobiology while providing practical, actionable tools for managing emotional st...

In this enlightening episode I'm joined by Sarah Peyton, a renowned neuroscience educator, author, and certified Nonviolent Communication trainer. We delve into the fascinating intersection of neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication, unpacking how our understanding of trauma, nervous system states, and attachment styles can profoundly influence our relationships. Key Topics Include: The neurosci...

  How do you keep the spark alive with your partner when life feels like a never-ending to-do list? In this very special episode, you get to be a fly on the wall as I sit down with Noelle and Frank, a married couple caught in the familiar struggle of staying emotionally and physically connected amid the demands of modern family life. Through live, real-time coaching, we: Uncover the hidden assumpt...

In this inspiring episode, we explore the nuances of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) with Dr. Rachael Meir, addressing common questions and concerns about polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of ethical/consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Meir breaks down the distinctions between terms like ENM and polyamory, explaining how ENM serves as an umbrella concept for a variety of relationship dynamics. We...

In this episode, we dive into the hard-to-admit but common feeling of "hating" your spouse. What does it really mean when those emotions surface, and where do they come from? We'll explore the dysfunctional communication patterns—like criticism, contempt, and defensiveness—that often fuel resentment and emotional distance in relationships. More importantly, we'll break down how unmet needs can dri...

In this episode we're diving into the most common and critical mistake couples make—and it's not what you might think. Join me to explore why waiting until your relationship is in crisis before seeking support can be a recipe for heartbreak. I'll share insights from over two decades of working with couples, revealing the patterns that lead to thriving partnerships and those that struggle to surviv...

This episode is a bit different from my usual focus on romantic relationships, as I dive into the parent-child dynamic. While today's discussion is tailored for parents, the principles I'll explore are just as applicable to your relationship with your partner or anyone you spend time with, making this episode valuable for everyone. As a mom to a four-year-old, parenting has become a central part o...

In episode 14, "Client Spotlight: Margot and Dan," I have something truly special for you. This is my first episode featuring a real, live couple who have been coaching clients of mine. Margot and Dan sat down with me to share their journey, experiences, and the transformative impact of NVC and coaching on their relationship. In this episode, you'll hear firsthand about the challenges they've over...

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by anger and wondered what's truly fueling it? In today's episode, "What's Underneath Your Anger?", I dive deep into a cathartic experience I just had that unveiled the tender feelings lurking beneath my own anger.  Join me as I explore the vulnerable emotions that often underlie anger, such as stress, fear, guilt, and helplessness. I'll share how a powerfu...

Welcome to today's enlightening episode, "From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship." There's a timeless quote, often attributed to Viktor Frankl, that encapsulates the essence of our discussion: "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Have you ever felt the s...

In this episode, we're diving into something many couples struggle with: breaking the cycle of recurring fights. If you and your partner find yourselves stuck in the same argument loop, this episode is for you. Brought to you by my new eight-week private coaching program for couples, "Stop Fighting Without Stuffing Your Feelings or Sacrificing Your Needs," this episode offers a glimpse into transf...

Join us in this profound episode of Love Each Other Better as we delve into the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) within the autism community and beyond. My guest, Bob Yamtich, a seasoned NVC teacher and former Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked extensively with the autism community, shares insights into the beauty of needs awareness and its profound impact on relati...

In this episode, I dive into a common critique of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): that it feels robotic, formal, inauthentic, and unnatural. Have you encountered this criticism before, or do you share these feelings yourself? Or maybe your partner has said this? NVC is a powerful framework for communication and conflict resolution, but some struggle with its structured approach, particularly the s...

One of the most inspiring parts about Nonviolent Communication for me is how it helps people connect across differences. But let's be honest: there are some differences that are harder to navigate than others, and that's why I'm devoting an entire episode to this one.  Picture this: Partner A is dissatisfied with an aspect of the relationship and attempts to discuss it with Partner B. However, Par...

In this thought-provoking episode I interview NVC trainer, Mary Goyer, about one of the most challenging topics for couples to talk about openly: sex. Why is it so hard to discuss sex openly, compassionately, and connectedly, and how can Nonviolent Communication help us through this so we can have the amazing sex lives we long for? Exploring various barriers to communication, Mary addresses societ...

Welcome to Episode 6 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, where we dive deep into the complexities of relationships with compassion and understanding. Today, we're tackling a topic that's essential for anyone navigating the ups and downs of love: the art of the authentic apology. In every relationship, there are bound to be moments where we inadvertently hurt our partner, whether it's through ou...

In this illuminating episode, we delve deep into the heart of conflict within relationships. In my work with hundreds of couples I've noticed a common thread that keeps couples stuck in endless cycles of conflict: they're stuck in what I call "courtroom mentality," where both people are putting all their energy into trying to prove who is in the right and who is in the wrong. And this never leads...

In this episode, I dive into a topic that's crucial for fostering peace and connection in your relationships: How to Get Your Partner to Change. Now, I know what you're thinking – isn't trying to change your partner futile? We've all heard that the only person you can change is yourself. But let's be real: most of us find ourselves wanting our partners to change certain behaviors, especially when...

Welcome to Episode 3 of the Love Each Other Better podcast! In this third installment of my 3-part Crash Course in Nonviolent Communication, I delve into the transformative power of listening as an act of love. In a world where communication often revolves around speaking, listening tends to take a backseat. But listening is not just about waiting for your turn to speak—it's about truly understand...

In Episode 2 of our Crash Course on Nonviolent Communication, we delve into the transformative concept of moving beyond blame. Join me, your host, as we explore how to navigate conflicts with compassion, focusing on understanding our own needs and those of our loved ones. Today, we take a closer look at a core principle of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): every act of violence, including blame, is...

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the "Love Each Other Better" podcast, hosted by Ali Miller, a seasoned licensed marriage and family therapist and certified coach specializing in couples communication and conflict resolution. In this episode, Ali introduces the core theme of the podcast: how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps us love ourselves and each other better. Drawing inspiration from h...

Welcome to the Love Each Other Better podcast! I'm your host, Ali Miller, and for over 20 years I've been helping people love themselves and each other better. As a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Couples Communication Coach, on this podcast I will be sharing with you transformational tools and principles from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which I've been practicing and sharin...