Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

Welcome, Guys!! We're so glad to have you here! It's our 1st ever Backstage Pass episode! We are here to answer the dating questions you've always had, but didn't know who to ask. We'll give you an honest female perspective on those things you've wondered about. Up first today, we are looking at some things you might want to stay away from on your dating profile. You don't ever get to see other gu...

Sometimes long distance relationships get kind of a bad reputation as just being awful all around. There are some good aspects to them though. and we wanted to give those good things some air time along with the bad too!

Whether you're high school, college, post-college, or in your 30's and beyond... trying to figure out dating for the first time is a daunting task! We've got some tips for navigating this tricky experience regardless of how old you are and then some specific things you can do to make dating as a beginner in your specific life stage easier too.

Such a great question! We talk about the pros and cons of dating a co-worker and the steps to take beforehand to hopefully alleviate any awkwardness if it doesn't work out. And, obviously there are some references from The Office... I mean, come on, do you know us at all?? :)

Season 5 is here!! This is the premiere topic you guys voted on over on IG! We're covering 7 different ways to tell you might be trying too hard and coming across a little desperate for a guy's attention and then several ways to know that you are putting in an appropriate amount of effort.   

Have you ever been told you're too picky? Have you ever wondered if it's true? Today, we're talking about the standards that you should hold high and the ones that it might be ok to let go of... were they ever really standards or were they just preferences that got a little out of control? Find out!

Sometimes we default to assuming that anytime a guy doesn't want to go out with us it's because he doesn't find us attractive... sure, this can be part of it, but it's not always the whole picture. We've got some helpful tips for not taking rejection so personally and some ways you can change your mindset to make it easier. 

Have you ever had to deal with a guy who just didn't seem to get the hint? Maybe he's asked you out several times and you always tell him no, but he still won't let it go? That's the situation we're dealing with today. Ideas for being direct, but not rude, when to involve other people, and when to just cut off contact entirely.

In Christian circles, we're told to "leave the ball in his court", "make him pursue you", and on and on... this can easily translate for us girls into playing hard to get. Is this really ever a good idea? That's what we're taking a look at today!

This is a fantastic question! When (is it ever?) is it ok to date someone who isn't a Christian or someone who believes some very different things than you do as long as they're willing to learn/try your way? There is a lot of nuance and moving parts to this question, but we're so glad you asked it and think it's a really important topic!              

We're taking a quick look at what a Godly relationship looks like today. This is a really broad topic and could get really deep, but we're just pulling out a few major categories and talking about what it means to have a Godly relationship in those specific areas. Communication, Conflict, Community...

This was such a great listener question! It's always so tricky figuring out how much to share, when to move to only talking to one person, what questions to ask, all of it. We're taking a deeper look at our own experiences with this and sharing some tips we've learned along the way.

I don't think this one needs much explanation! Enjoy laughing with us at us! :D

Whew! This is a loaded question guys! We're talking about ways to make it easier when your ex starts dating someone new... everything from handling social media, to getting your heart right, to maybe finding someone new yourself!  

It's the season 4 finale! This episode is dedicated to the (currently hypothetical) men we'll date next. This is an episode looking at what we want guys to know about dating and relationships from the female perspective and also the things we are committing to do now to prepare ourselves and our lives for when we meet them.

What topics should you discuss before you accept a proposal? That's what we're talking about today... there were 4 main topics that we thought were important. You'll have to listen to find out what they are!

We started this episode with a question and a blank slate. Then, we posed this question to our listeners on Instagram and boy did they have answers! This episode is inspired entirely by those answers! Be sure to listen to the whole episode... you may just hear your answer read on air!

Today we're talking about the best pace and frequency for messaging on an online dating app. This is a tough one to narrow down to a specific time, but more about matching the interest level you feel. Listen for the details!

Oh the age old question.... today we're taking a stab at it! We're also looking at the problem of extended adolescence in our culture and the impact it may have on this. Do I wait for him to change? Grow up? Figure out what he wants?

Today, we're going through several different things that you should really avoid putting on your dating profile online or on an app. Lie about your height/body type? All group pics? Try to gloss over the fact that you're not divorced yet? Nope. All bad ideas. Listen now for the rest.

Clarity, Patience, Balance... These are all words that came up over and over in our interview! And, I bet these are all things you're looking for more of in your relationships. Today, we sat down with Dylan in an extended conclusion to our Men Tell All series from back in December. He brings some perspective to our younger listeners who are in high school and college.

In today's CouchCast, we're going through some of the resources that have benefited us greatly in our singleness. One book that was even one of the biggest inspirations in our starting this podcast! Links to the resources we talked about today: Love in Every Season True Love Dates She's Got the Wrong Guy: Why Smart Women Settle Passion & Purity

Dating is tough these days guys, we get it! We've all been tempted to lose hope when it comes to trying to find someone. We've all had to navigate not giving into that temptation. Today, we're talking about the different times we've been frustrated or felt hopeless when it comes to dating. We're talking about things we've said or done that have been helpful with that and also a few that haven't to...

This is such a tough place to be! You just got your heart broken and now you have to see the cause of that heartbreak constantly! Today, we're talking about how to practically navigate something like that as well as looking to the Lord and realizing that no matter how alone you feel, you never really are.

We are here with part 2 of the 6 guys you should not want to date. Today, we're talking about the guy who won't talk about the future, the guy who is controlling, and the guy who isn't teachable. All very important things to look out for in someone you want to or are dating. We'll tell you how to spot them and when it might be time to end it.