Living Inside Out with Toks

This week on Living Inside Out, we dive deep into the roots of weariness and its impact on our lives and goals. Toks explores how chronic disappointments can spiral into discouragement, hopelessness, apathy, and even depression. Discover practical strategies to stay energised and focused on your God-given purpose, despite the enemy’s attempts to derail you. Episode Highlights:  • Understanding Wea...

Welcome to The Living Inside Out podcast. I’m your host, Toks Aruoture. This is episode 97: “Challenges to Opportunities: Steps to Help You Change Your Perspective.” Hello, my friend. I hope you are well. If you’re in the UK and have a 16-year-old, congratulations! The exams are over. I, too, have a 16-year-old, and now that exams are done, I told him he’d need to get a job. Initially, I thought p...

Episode Summary In this episode, we explore the concept that circumstances in themselves are neutral, and it is our thoughts about them that shape our emotional responses. As always, I draw from personal stories, reflections, and examples, to see how our perceptions and attitudes can transform our experiences of pain, so we are not crippled by it, but instead we advance in spite of it.   Episode H...

We’re just five episodes away from our 100th episode, and we’re planning to celebrate big! I have some exciting ideas, including recording in front of a live audience. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, so please let me know what you think. Embracing Challenges This week, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak to graduate students in Brazil, and it has left me on a high. It got me thinking...

Hey you! Would you agree that we are in a pivotal moment in the world? It feels as though the rebate of change and evolution is at the highest speed. Social media, pandemic, wars, economic crises, artificial intelligence? Imagine someone who has been in a coma foe the past six years, waking up today? They’d freak out 😅   This episode explores how we can live authentically in a rapidly changing, a...

Are you an overwhelmed entrepreneur struggling to find balance? In episode 93, we dive into practical strategies for overcoming overwhelm and reclaiming control of your business and life. Overwhelm is a common challenge for busy entrepreneurs, but it's not insurmountable. Join us as we explore actionable solutions to help you navigate overwhelm and achieve greater freedom in your entrepreneurial j...

Today we're diving into the topic of overcoming impostor syndrome. In this episode, we explore the insidious ways impostor syndrome can manifest in our lives: 1. **Seeking External Validation:** Relying on others' approval to feel worthy, even when we've achieved success. 2. **Crippling Self-Doubt:** Allowing impostor syndrome to undermine our confidence and hinder our ability to make decisions. 3...

This week we are continuing our 'entrepreneur' series and exploring what it looks like to be a Christian entrepreneur. I considered naming this episode The Spiritual Entrepreneur, but I realised that "spiritual" can mean many things to different people. So, it helps to be clear on this. Personal Story: Finding Guidance My earliest recollection of leaning on God for guidance as a Christian business...

Are you lacking confidence as an entrepreneur? Do you make business decisions confidently?   As we look forward to the future, we must reflect on our past experiences and learn from them. This episode explores decision-making and the correlation between confidence and results. We'll examine how our external and internal factors influence our decision-making process and how we can improve our confi...

How often have you felt stuck, unable to make a business decision because your gut does not align with your logic? The Practical vs. the Intuitive: Entrepreneurs often prioritise the practical and tangible aspects of business, which are undoubtedly essential. However, the gift of intuition, particularly prevalent in women, should not be overlooked. The Challenge of Intuition: Intuition is a deeply...

🎙️ Welcome Back to Living Inside Out! Thank you for tuning in!! Whether you're a returning listener or joining us for the first time, I'm thrilled to have you here. In this episode, we dive deep into the intersection of faith, mindset, and entrepreneurship, exploring themes of self-discovery, growth, and overcoming obstacles. 🌟 Highlights from My Recent Trip: I share insights from my journey to L...

Compliments of the season!! Can you believe 2023 just happened? It's a behind-the-scenes situation because I still feel like it's June, and I have six months to do what I intended. 😂   Thank you for the comments, shares and feedback on my TEDx talk, The superpower of Authentic Storytelling If you haven't watched it, click to do so, and please continue to share it. More on that next week.   To tha...

I hope you had a glorious summer and autumn. Is that how much time has passed? LOL!   My much-needed break from writing and recording has ended, and I am happy to be back! In this episode, I bring you up to speed with what's been happening. My recent trip to Lagos left me feeling incredibly inspired. Nigeria always does that to me. When you consider the challenges the masses face with the high cos...

Today's episode is birthed out of my frustration for living in overwhelm and constant stress. There's a lie some of us have believed that the more complex and challenging a task is, the more important it is. Sometimes we deliberately complicate issues because we respect the complex and spectacular over the simple and easy to do.  We pack so much into our day and have grown accustomed to living hig...

I hope you're having a great day and taking some time to relax and unwind. 😊 When it comes to growing our businesses, there are countless books, talks, videos, and articles out there that offer valuable insights and advice. They often highlight the habits and routines of successful individuals, suggesting that by emulating them, we can move closer to our own version of success. And hey, those tip...

I recently had a fantastic time hosting a fun and casual conversation on my podcast with two amazing entrepreneurs, Amanda McKoy Flanagan and Ginny Oliva's-Smith. We got real and talked about the ups and downs of building businesses while being married with kids in beautiful Colorado. We laughed and debunked the glamorous myth surrounding entrepreneurship. Instead of luxury, we highlighted the non...

I truly believe everyone goes through their fair share of failures in life. It's part of being human, after all. But you know what's interesting? When we talk about our own stories, we often hold back and only share the highlights. Well, in this episode, I want to change that. Let me take you on a journey through the extraordinary life of the iconic Rock Star, Tina Turner. Now, when you hear her n...

When I became a mum, I was hit with the sobering realisation that I was now responsible for the direction an entire human would take. It was heavy. The truth is, I had been accountable for my life for many years before then. When making decisions, we can go in one of three directions; throw caution to the wind and go for it, contemplate and consider all possibilities; or do nothing. Relying on our...

This is a special episode, as it is our 80th one, but made even more special by  my guest, a Rock Star, Ashley Randolph. Ashley is the founder of Glo Preemies and Co-Founder of the Alliance for Black NICU Families. And she is a ROCK STAR because she turned her challenges, literally into a purpose. I believe purpose must tick three boxes: 1. Glorify God. 2. Help others. 3. Grow you in the process....

This episode is for you if you've ever felt stuck and unable to move forward- despite knowing you should. We often hear about mindsets and limiting beliefs, but what does that mean?   First, you have to understand where your mind sits in the process of manifesting ideas. Your mind is sandwiched between your spirit and your body. Ideas and pictures from your spirit are fed into your mind; you then...

How can comfort, you might ask, be the thief of anyone's destiny? Shouldn't we be moving more towards rest and protecting our mental health? Hear me out... Somehow, some time ago, we were led to believe we must stop to correct every wrong and stoop to straighten every curve. But what if the way to the smooth is through the rough?  Recent experiences led me to Make Peace with my Trials., episode #7...

"If you're not invited to the table, create your own table"   In a male dominated industries, women who are openly ambitious are frequently labeled as “aggressive” by the society. Even if you can push past all that, sometimes you get to the table and you’re told here’s no place for you. Or, worse yet, you discover "your table" doesn't actually exist. Funmi Onuma is here to tell us to make our own...

In this Episode we compare two mentalities, the one who recognizes pain as part of the process and the one who expect no pain, and still, success. The Immigrant Mentality used to have negative connotations until people started to take note that they worked incredibly hard, were unfazed by difficulties and ran successful businesses. Contrast that to indigenes who have higher expectations of success...

Trials. Difficulties. Challenges. It's all the same. Many of us define our lives by seasons; for example, we name a season difficult when things are not going as planned. In this landmark episode, #75, I share a lesson I am currently learning- making peace with trials.   Episode 72, How to Build Resilience, formed the foundation of this lesson. If you are going to accept what you cannot change, an...

One of life's most outstanding teachers is experience, and experience tells us that nothing is certain- someone famously added, except death and taxes. Learning to accept the things you cannot change is one thing. Having the courage to evolve from your challenges is quite another. When running a business, we must be prepared to expect surprises; it is never a straightforward journey. You have to d...