Life from the Top of the Mind

"We must be willing to be wrong in order to trust what we believe to be right." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“It’s not what we feel, but what we feed, that creates our experience of life.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“The question that will stop any argument is, ‘Do you really want to understand my position, or do you just want to convince me that I’m wrong?’” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Anger can be a signal that something needs to change… however, it is often not the most effective energy to trust in making the change.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"The first key in being able to influence others, is to ensure that our insistence isn't creating more resistance." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it." ~ Maya Angelou (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

“Fear of public speaking is like any fear… it is a learned perspective designed to keep us safe from failure and embarrassment by making us so anxious that we choose avoidance over engagement… Not something we would recommend to someone we love.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com)

"In order to become more influential in our experience of life, we must become more selective to whom we allow inside our heads." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Every thought, emotion, and action is a statement about who we are, and who we are becoming. Why not make this statement 'On Purpose'?" ~ Neale Walsch (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Until we know the difference between stress and distress, we won't know what and when to change." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"In terms of teaching our children to be successful in the never-enough world, the question isn't "are we parenting the right way," as it is: "Are we the adult that we want our child to grow up to be?" Adapted from Brené Brown, Ph. D. (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"When our purpose becomes avoidance, our life becomes a void." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“When feelings run deep and positions are entrenched, then just listening often isn’t enough to move the conversation forward.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"When the alarm bell of the emotional brain keeps signaling that you are in danger, no amount of insight will silence it." ~ From The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"The reason some people get so defensive is not because they are defending their position…they are defending their judgment… they are defending themselves!” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

:Solution-focused questions about the future, that combine what is important to the other person with what is important to us, are the key to successful conflict resolution.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"The truth is that kids don’t like to feel bad. It goes against what they love which is to have fun and experience joy. Therefore, the key to helping them manage their emotions is first showing them how we manage ours and then making the process of influencing how we feel enjoyable.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"In order to become more influential in our life and the lives of others, we must not only become clear about why we think and feel a certain way, but how to change those thoughts and emotions to ones that are more congruent with the life we want to create." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"We have to believe we are enough in order to say, "Enough!" ~ Brené Brown (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"When our worry is feeding our anxiety, or our anxiety is feeding our worry, we need to stop the feeding frenzy and shift our focus from the problem to the solution, because it's not what we feel, but what we feed that will create our experience of life." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“While we are not responsible for other people’s reactions, we do play a role in how their brain interprets what we do and say, and this will determine our influence.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"Confidence is the ability to understand another's perspective without needing to accept or reject it in order to move from conflict to consensus." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"When the storms of life hit, the resilient adjust their sails." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

"If we don't pay attention to our focus, or what we are paying attention to… we will never know if the payment is worth the cost." ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)

“Until we understand why we react to certain situations with stress, anger, or frustration, we will not have the clarity necessary to deal with life from a place of confidence, creativity, or compassion.” ~ Bill Crawford (https://www.billcrawfordphd.com/quote-video-blog/)