LexTLK

I get it. If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything. BUUTTTT... When it comes to relationship standards, at what point are we doing too much??? I try to be reasonable with my "list" for a partner, but sometimes I still question whether I'm asking for too much. Join Kimoy and I for another #KeyCNVO as we discuss the difference between having standards and just being too picky. #LexTLK abou...

One valuable skill I've cultivated over time is not letting how I feel get in the way of my best interests! Now, don't get it twisted... it's no easy task to put aside all that righteous (or unrighteous) anger to focus on the bigger picture. But I'm always reminded that even worse than being upset now, is being upset later because of how I react now. And for that reason I earnestly fight against p...

(SIgh)... A girl can dream right? For me, this scenario is as far-fetched as it gets. But for some, this is a very real experience and apparently it's LIT! Join me as I chat it up with @B_KreativelyYou about how she managed to cultivate a WHOLE ASS friendship with her ex-husband. #LexTLK about it! Pen and paper strongly encouraged! #Divorce #Marriage #Separation #forgiveness #leadership #ephesians...

Ya know... I'm quite tired of the "high-value man" rhetoric being used to corner women into submission, especially in Christianity. Despite the fact that some of their points are valid, their approach is hot garbage. Truthfully, a good leader takes the time to study his people; to learn their strengths, weaknesses, motivations and triggers. By this they can cultivate an environment that those...

For all of my Stranger Things fans out there... Divorce is like the upside-down. It's like living in a parallel universe that is the opposite of everything you know to be right and true and good. Even a short stay in that season can leave your spirit hemmed up. But a slight shift in perspective can make a world of difference. Join me as I discuss Dr. Dharius Daniels' sermon on closure, and the MAJ...

I hate to say it, but as beautiful as marriage is...EVERYBODY AIN'T BUILT for it, and EVERY SEASON AIN'T RIGHT for it! But unfortunately, many of us ninjas didn't get that memo. It sucks to realize this after the vows have been exchanged. But if there's ever a time for grace, it's that moment you have to let go. #LexTLK about it. YouTube link in bio.

Oh, let me count the ways. To the depth, and breadth, and height my soul can reach, DIVORCE will always be supa-dupa-DUMB! But also... sometimes, maybe, a little bit, kinda, very much an option. #LexTLK about it. Join me for a much anticipated spilling of the tea. #FINALLY ❤️   #Divorce #Marriage #Separation

That moment when you realize that YOUR person ain't perfect is sobering AF. And I don't mean imperfect in a small way, like keeping the thermostat at 63 degrees... I mean imperfect in an insidious way, like brushing her teeth with warm water!!! Regardless of the offense, they've already shimmied past the probationary period into the inner parts of your heart and life - so NOW WHAT?! #LexTLK about...

I know I OFTEN make the mistake of assuming the entire human race was raised by my sweet Mama Dearest. And sadly, I know I'm not alone. But the amount of frustration and heartache many of us go through as a result of unmanaged expectations, is more than enough motivation for me to seek out somebody's couch! So #LexTLK about it! Join me and comedian, videographer, content creator and entrepreneur L...

It's been said before, and I'll say it again... Christianity needs a new promo team! Many of us Christians (present company included) just have a tough time not putting our foot in our mouth. Whether it's being overly judgey, not leading with love, or trying to give from a dry well, it's easy for us to make others feel unwanted or unloved by God. Join the #KeyCNVO with #ReadytoLove #miami star, Ja...

One thing society has gotten good at is being BOTHERED! Although correction and accountability are good things, intentions matter. And when the criticism isn't coming from a place of love and acceptance, we end up with a lot of hurt and misplaced aggression... especially in the Christian culture. So #LexTLK about it!  Join me and #ReadytoLove #Miami reality TV star, Jamala, as we deep dive in...

Being head of household is GHETTO af! Especially when you don't have the support of a partner. More and more I'm starting to think I'm not built for this. And yet, I along with single parents everywhere, know that we must persist. These babies need us! Join Felicia and I as we continue this Key CNVO about single motherhood.  Whiff Candle Bar www.whiffcb.com

It's crazy how you can be COMPLETELY oblivious to a set of circumstances until you actually go through it yourself. Even if it's happening right next to you. When I tell you I had no idea what single parents dealt with... I had NO IDEA. But now, as a card-carrying member of this club that nobody wants to be in... I wanna say... I finally see ya'll. Join Felicia and I for this KeyCNVO about the jou...

So where do we go from here? Lies and mental propaganda has kept our community divided for some time now. Will things ever get better? Join Kimoy and I for part two of this discussion as we talk more about the "why's" that keep our kinfolk hemmed up. #africandiaspora #blackamerican #afro-caribbean #antiguan #jamaican #haitian #african #africanamerican

Growing up in South Florida, it felt like the entirety of the African Diaspora was at our fingertips, and yet the chasm of misunderstanding remained far and wide between us. It's unfortunate how well the mayo gang managed to separate us from each other both physically and mentally. Join Kimoy and I for this Key CNVO as we dive into the ethnic divide beneath the racial divide. Africans, Afro-Americ...

So as hard as it is to face infidelity in a relationship, many of us have been on both ends of the equation.  Unfortunately, it happens. But is it a fact of life that we have to accept, or just a product of poor decision making? Join us as we continue this Key CNVO about cheaters cheating the cheated. #LexTLK about it!

If I've learned anything in the past decade, it's that I have NO IDEA what I'll do when actually confronted with many situations. Sometimes life is more complicated than expected, and I surprise TF outta myself with my reactions. Well, consider me humbled when it comes to the topic of infidelity! I used to think that I had absolutely ZERO tolerance for an unfaithful man... until it hit close to ho...

Yep... still black ya'll. And CLEARLY I'm triggered. Join Kimoy and I for this Key CNVO as we discuss our differing perspectives on working while BLACK, in the land of the free-ish.

Ya'll being BLACK is exhausting in Donald Trump's Amerikkka. Much of my life has been characterized by PWI's and racial microaggressions and I am SICK OF IT! From school, to church, to work... I'm constantly  on alert, waiting to defend my blackness from the inevitable well meaning white. Does anyone else have trouble knowing when to pop off, and when to be unbothered?! Goodness gracious, ome...

Hey Ya'll! Join Kimoy and I as we continue our Key CNVO about BOUNDARIES in Relationships! #LexTLK about it...

Let's be honest... setting boundaries is awkward AF! (at least at first) But without them, someone often ends up hurt and disappointed. Join Kimoy and I for another #KeyCNVO as we talk about the evolution of boundaries in our lives. Who needs 'em, how do we establish 'em, and what does it look like to live 'em out?!

Y'all... issa LOT! Believe me, I know. I'm living it for goodness sake. But what if I told you, dating in the midst of all this, was EXACTLY what the doctor ordered? Okay, maybe I was the one that ordered it, but it was definitely what I needed, given the hell on earth that I was experiencing. Divorce threw a monkey wrench into my life, and the dating scene is teaching me how to use it for my good...

Today we'll continue our Key CNVO with Kimoy about the "Savior COmplex" that drives some women (and some men) to date someone for their potential instead of who they are at that moment. Well-intentioned as it may seem...#LexTLK about it!

I, for one, am GUILTY of choosing to date someone based on their potential. That's not to say that they weren't a great catch. In fact, they almost always were. But often there was one MAJOR area of their life that wasn't a good fit for me. And in my mind, I had just what they needed to turn things around (insert heavy eye roll and face palm)! #LexTLK about why we sometimes make concessions when d...

Ya'll... between societal pressure, FOMO, biological clocks and good ole baggage, dating as a 30+ single is a vastly different ballgame! Intentionality can feel like a heavy burden, but sometimes it's crucial for success in relationship.  Here's a peak into the lessons I've learned as a newly single mom in my 30's. #LexTLK about it!