Letters To My Son

Do you ever feel like something is missing in your life? Like you're not living up to your full potential or that there's a big goal out there that you should be pursuing, but for some reason you can't seem to find the motivation to go after it. If this sounds familiar, I want to let you know that I've been exactly where you are and I understand how frustrating this feeling can be.

Do what you can where you are with what you have. It will lead you to exactly where you need to be. Even if you don’t trust the road before you, trust yourself to walk down it.

Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good. Life‘s not easy. It is not. Don’t try to make it that way. Life‘s not fair. It never was. It isn’t now and it won’t ever be. Do not fall into the trap, the entitlement trap of feeling like you’re a victim. You are not. Get over it. Get on with it.

Stop giving ourselves away to people who cannot receive us, and who cannot love us in return. The healthier and more whole we become, there are simply some relationships that cannot rise and meet us where we are today, or even join us in the direction we are moving.

In all of these cases, and more, our minds are fixed in a certain viewpoint, and we often judge others. We complain. We are attached to what we want and what we don’t want. It leads to stress. Unhappiness. Anger. Righteousness. Being judgmental. Distancing ourselves from others. Trust me. I’ve been through most of these.

By and large, people are looking in the wrong places. They are looking for a big break, that lucky breakthrough, the amazing “quantum leap” everyone keeps talking about. I call it the philosophy of the craps table and roulette wheel, and I don’t believe they’ll ever find it. I’ve seen an awful lot of remarkable successes and colossal failures up close, and in my experience, neither one happens in...

there will always be doubters skeptics and cynics as Aristotle says there is one way to avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing, but the beauty is that these voices have one thing in common. And that's the irrelevance because there's one voice that matters and the writing of your story.

Here’s this person who is complaining, negative, critical, and they are in your life. Perhaps they’re a loved one, and you care about them. In truth, this person is hurting. And you know what it’s like to hurt like this … because you are hurting right now in very much the same way.

Over and over, throughout the day, we make the Hundred Little Decisions: to work on this, to check email, to go to this website, to respond to messages, to grab a bite to eat, to meditate or exercise or do yoga or have tea or watch a video or push into deep purpose. The Hundred Little Decision shape our day. They determine whether we’ve had a day of focus and calm and meaningful work, or distracti...

If I could have picked an older brother in this world, I would have picked Charley. He was a kind and gentle soul. I only wish I had a chance to say goodbye.

As Tolstoy said “everyone wants to change the world but no one thinks of changing himself.” You're capable of being both your greatest adversary and ally, so choose wisely. Because the world around you will do nothing more than respond accordingly to your decision.

It’s hard to walk away from the faint murmur stating hey this was your home how dare you leave it? But those words, they have status quo in mind, not growth and know what else? Home, it’s an idea you take with you. It’s no set of parameters just go. Zion Health Maybe the worst part about our exorbitant health care spending is that so many people still have little or no coverage. About 29 million A...

The late Jack Buck, revered voice of the St. Louis Cardinals, read a poem that he wrote, at the pregame ceremony. It was the only way this veteran of World War II and recipient of a Purple Heart after being wounded in action in Germany, felt he could respond to the dastardly terrorist attacks when everyone in the United States was horrified as one.

“The less you talk, the more people listen. Don’t be the person who is always talking. Speak when you need to, but don’t talk just to talk. - Jocko Willink

Wear a rubber band on your wrist, and whenever you think negatively, just snap the rubber band. You will feel the pain, and you will train your mind not to think that way anymore. It is a great method to remind yourself with every snap that you replace a negative thought with something positive.

No one stumbles upon significance. We have to be intentional about making our lives matter. That calls for action—and not excuses. Most people don’t know this, but it’s easier to go from failure to success than from excuses to success.

How many revolutionary ideas were never brought into existence? How many dreams were discarded and deemed impossible before they even had a chance? It’s a question we'll never know the answer to because there never was a beginning. There never was a start.

There's a realization that goes hand in hand with anything you could ever want, and it’s that nothing in life is simply deserved - success has never been about entitlement or what you feel is owed to you. It's about what you take - see every cause has an effect, every journey has its milestones and every victory has a beginning. But since I brought up entitlement, I’m going to dig into that furthe...

Our comfort zone is where we go to recharge in an ever-changing world. "It's our place of reprieve, where we can conserve our energy and not have to figure anything out.”

If we’re ever hurt, we blame the other person for hurting us. If they aren’t there for us, we blame them. If something bad happens to us, we become victims, because you can’t move on with your life if someone has done something bad to you, right? However, there is a solution. We have to learn this: Happiness is not outside ourselves.

Anyone who lived through high school gym class knows the anxiety of being picked last for the dodgeball team. The same hurt feelings bubble up when you are excluded from lunch with co-workers, fail to land the job you interviewed for or are dumped by a romantic partner. Rejection feels lousy.

“I’ve wanted to go to the Olympics since London 2012. I was 11 then, so I’ve been dreaming of these Games for nine long years. My tears fell because it felt like I had wasted my time. There was no consoling me in those lonely moments.”

Instead, let’s just make a decision, and move on. Let go of the stress about whether it’s the right choice (there’s no such thing) and instead deal with whatever consequences we face. And learn to trust that we’ll be OK.

In his latest book, The Hero Code, Lessons Learned From Lives Well Lived - he talks about the hero in all of us and how it’s woven in our DNA. The year was 1963 when he was traveling with his father in New York City. Have a listen.

Adrenaline a.k.a Epinephrine is a chemical that increases the heart rate and blood pressure and so during say a Tennis tournament that you played over the weekend and lost maybe badly? our hearts beat faster because basically we're striving to get to the Finals, get the achievement and if we lose, we get angry at the player whose got the achievements. I can tell that I’m getting much better at dea...