Lessons from a Quitter

Today, we're going to talk about choosing one goal. Every time I talk about this, I get the most responses that I get to really anything that I talk about. People are upset and they want to explain to me why they should have more than one goal, why it's different for them, why they need to do so much more. And there's a lot of misconceptions of what this one goal rule is. It's perfect timing for t...

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I talk about accepting what is. Sometimes we create so much drama around discomfort that, which only adds unnecessary suffering to an already stressful situation. Today we talk about one of the biggest skills you can have, which is accepting what is and accepting the circumstances in your life. Coming to the realization that you don't control and can't co...

In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we talk about the importance of taking vacation time. I emphasize on the fact that taking a break is not a luxury, but a necessity. The capitalist system has conditioned us to believe that productivity equals worth, and as a result, many of us struggle to take time off work. We need to change our mindset around vacation time and stop equating rest with la...

Do you know the difference between the problems you were hired to handle and your employer's problems? I'm assuming you don't. Because the vast majority of my clients are burned out and exhausted taking on the problems that have nothing to do with their jobs. Corporate America loves to take advantage of employees' perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies to pile on extra work that they are not...

This week, I'm replaying an episode I did in 2019 with Dave Hollis. Unfortunately, Dave unexpectedly passed away last month from heart failure. I wanted to replay this episode as a tribute to him. But, more importantly, I wanted to replay it because there is so much we can learn from Dave and how he lived his life.  In this episode, I dive into what I learned from Dave during our brief interaction...

This week, I'm sharing a podcast that I LOVE and had the pleasure of being a guest on: The Get Paid Podcast with Claire Pelletreau.  Claire has a way of asking all of the questions we want to know but are usually afraid to ask: How much money do you make? What do you spend it on? How did you get here (literally step by step)? If you want to hear my entire journey and get the juicy details of every...

One of the biggest lies we love to believe is that it's "easier" to just stay where we are. It's easier to not go after those dreams. But it's not easier, it's just more familiar. And that familiarity leads to resentment, bitterness, hopelessness, despair, and dread. It's not easier living like that. So if you're not going to go after your dreams, at least stop lying to yourself by saying that it'...

Studies have shown the most important factor for reaching your goals isn't more motivation or willpower. It is being surrounded with people that will hold you accountable and support you. You already know you're more likely to give up on your goals if you're the only one who knows about it. On this week's podcast, I talk about how being in communities that supported me through this journey of care...

One of the main principles I try to live by and teach my students is to focus on one thing Focus on one goal for the year. Focus on one area to improve. Focus on one limiting belief.  Just slow down and take as much time as it takes to get the result you want in that ONE area and then move onto the next thing. But most people push against this because we've been conditioned to believe we need to c...

Here's why self-love is CRITICAL.  You think your problem is: People pleasing  Perfectionism  Caring too much about what other people need  Overachieving  Imposter syndrome  But the root of all of those is a lack of self-love. And this isn't in some woo-woo "all we need is love" kind of thing. I've coached thousands of people and the root of almost every problem is some underlying belief of: I'm n...

My friend, Scarlett Cochran, is back on the podcast today to talk about how to think about your money in a way that lets you create the rich life you want today.  If you didn't catch Scarlett's first episode on the podcast where she talked about her incredibly inspiring story (she went from single teen mom in the military making $25k a year to putting herself through Yale Law School to becoming a...

Everyone focuses on teaching you how to set goals. But what happens after you set it? We all know that the hard part comes from following through. Most of know what we want to do but we just feel like we can't get ourselves to do it. On today's podcast, I'll teach you why that's a myth (you really can follow through) and how to start doing it. 

One of the main issues I see with people who give up on their goals is that they're setting too many.  You get 1 goal per year. That's it. No exceptions.  On today's episode I explain how picking one goal can  help you skip overwhelm  give you a filter to make decisions  and get you to be nicer to yourself It's the difference between hitting your goals and giving up. 

Your self-concept is the thoughts you have about yourself. And it dictates everything.  Whatever you believe is possible, or not, for you is based on your self-concept. Every goal you set is an attempt to change your self-concept. Meaning, you hope to achieve the goal to change how you view yourself. But the biggest life-hack is knowing that you can change your self-concept without having to achie...

This week's podcast is my year in review.  If you want to know how much money I made and how I made it last year… If you want to know the good, bad and the ugly (like how I had 2 of my worst launches EVER!)... If you want to know about some of the other things I was battling outside of work… Check out the episode today. 

Last week on the podcast, we talked all about being open to the possibilities. Well, Dielle Charon is an example of what is possible.  Starting out her career as a Social Worker, Dielle was doing something she loved but wasn't making enough money to even cover her student loans. Realizing she needed to make additional income, she began her entrepreneurial journey on the side. She grew her coaching...

Are you open to the possibility that things could be so much better than they are now?  That you could have more time. More money More opportunities  More creativity  More connection  More flexibility  More of whatever you want   If you're not open to that, ask yourself "why?" Because here is the unfortunate truth:  If you're not open to it, it won't happen.  In today's episode, I'll dive into: Wh...

Right now can be a difficult time for many.  With the announcement of tens of thousands of layoffs and the signs of a pending recession, it's easy to fall into tons of negative thinking.  While we can't change the circumstances that we encounter in life… We can change how we respond to them. In fact, that's the only thing we control.  On today's podcast, I dive into how you can reduce all the anxi...

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 117: How Kristina Barile Went From MIT Rocket Scientist to Living Off The Land In Panama. On this week's episode, I interview the incredible Kristina Barile on her journey from a Harvard and MIT-grad rocket scientist to living in a mud home in Panama, teaching holistic, nutritional Ayurveda and freelance writing. In last week's episode, we talked all abou...

I'm launching my membership, the Quitter Club, for the first time and I want to tell you all about it. Why did I switch to a membership? What's included? Who is it for? All of that and more is included in this week's episode.

As long as you tell yourself the lie that you don't know what you want, you'll stay stuck exactly where you are. You do know what you want. You're just scared to admit it to yourself. Because once you admit, then you actually have to take action. But there is power in admitting it to yourself. It allows you to get out of all the confusion and overwhelm that keeps you spinning for years and actuall...

We often think that our thoughts are not only "true" but "realistic." So we tell ourselves things like "this probably won't work," "I have no idea how to do this," and "this is way too hard," in order to not be delusional.   In today's episode, I'm going to show you how that not only creates the result of you not figuring it out but also creates a life that is small and unenjoyable.  I'm a big bel...

We're all doing too much. Busy has become a badge of honor. And as we continue to run on the hamster wheel to get ALL THE THINGS done, we miss out on this one precious life we have. No more. The goal is not to get more done. The goal is to have less to do. Without guilt. That's what I teach you on the podcast this week. 

Balancing all of the thoughts around your career is already hard enough, throw kids into that mix and it can feel like you're constantly drowning.  The guilt of feeling like you're always dropping some balls. The resentment of never having any time for yourself. The exhaustion of always taking care of someone or something else.  This week on the podcast, I'm going to show you how thought work help...