Lessons from a Quitter

This week I talk to you about shifting your paradigm, your worldview, your set of beliefs. Our society has focused so much on winning and losing and that's why so many of us suffer. Life is not a test. You literally cannot fail at it. So stop telling yourself that you can. When you start changing your paradigm to view your life in a different lens you free yourself to explore, experiment, and show...

On this week's episode, I talk with MBA turned actor, Vishesh Chachra. Vishesh left a lucrative finance career to pursue his life-long dream of becoming an actor. And his passion coupled with his persistence and dedication to honing his craft has led him to success in an industry that is notoriously difficult to break into. Over the past 8 years, he has appeared in 13 TV shows and 8 feature films....

On this episode I talk about why you should be doing personal development, what it's for and what it's not for. Spoiler alert: if anything you're doing is to feel more worthy, you're doing personal development wrong.

This week on the podcast, I talk about why you shouldn't quit your job.. at least not yet. I'm not saying you need to stay in your job and just learn to be happy in it, but if you don't manage your thoughts and maybe set some boundaries, the reasons you're unhappy now will follow you from one job to the next.

This week I want to talk to you about Mom Guilt. Fair warning that I'm not sure if I have my thoughts fully formed on this but I think this is an important topic to discuss. Also, while I talk a lot about moms, the same ideas apply to all of us dealing with a misogynistic, patriarchal society. Over the past seven years, I've been really observing how moms are constantly put in lose-lose situations...

In this week's episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jordan Ramsey. Jordan's wife, Shannon, is a student of mine and enrolled in the Impossible Goal Setting workshop back in January. Little did she know, Jordan was eavesdropping on all of the lessons. Jordan took what he learned in that workshop and began implementing in his life to go after all of his dreams. Since then, he has self-publish...

It's been 3 years since I launched this podcast (WAHOOOOO!) Hindsight is an interesting thing. It's obvious now that I made the "right" choice to publish the podcast I had been thinking about for 2 years. I now have an amazing community and business I love.  But I remember the week before I hit publish...I couldn't sleep. I cried every single day. I thought I was going to throw up.  These were the...

Catastrophizing is when you assume the worst will always happen.  Listen, it's normal. Your brain is trying to keep you alive. And if it can anticipate all the things that could go wrong, it can keep you safe. Your brain loves to replace the uncertain with the awful.   But, in our modern world, you're not at risk of dying all the time. It just ain't that serious.  So you need to learn how to get a...

This week on the podcast, we dive into one of the most crucial life-skills we're never taught. Handling criticism. If you instantly get defensive, angry or hurt when someone points out a "flaw", this episode is for you. I take you through my step-by-step process to understand why you get defensive and how to get over it.   

So many of you are stuck because your parents, friends, or co-workers simply don't understand why you want to take this "risk".    Here's the truth: They don't have to support you. And you still get to make the decision you want for your life.    Would it be nice if everyone saw the world the way you did and could fully understand your dreams? Yes, of course it would be.   Do you need that before...

So many of you ask me how to navigate family and spousal support when making huge changes in your career.    I figured it might be interesting to hear it from the spouse's perspective.    While our experience is unique to us, I think it can help you in approaching these subject.s   In this episode, we talk about.  What his experience was of me walking away from my legal career  How he thought the...

So many of us are paralyzed at making even the simplest decisions.  We revert to asking everyone else's opinions, we ruminate and drain ourselves going back and forth, we make pros and cons lists, and we stay stuck year after year.  In this episode, I teach you why you have such a hard time making decisions and how to move past it. 

I remember wishing I would get laid off during the 2008 recession. I was to scared to quit so I wanted them to force my hand. Empowering, huh? They didn't. And I ended up spending another 7 years doing a job I hated. On this episode, I talk about what it looks like to take responsibility for your life. Often we mistake responsibility with fault. They are not the same thing. In this episode, I talk...

Why do you want to find your "dream" career? Do you even know? Most would answer with something like:So I can feel excited and motivated about going to work.  So I can feel like I'm doing something that is worthwhile. So I can feel less stressed and overwhelmed. All of our answers boil down to one thing: we are after a feeling .  Ultimately, you want that dream career because you want to feel happ...

Destination Addiction. The constant striving to get to some destination that you're certain holds all of your happiness and the solution to your problems.  The stealer of current joy. The enabler of hustle culture. So many of our problems are born out of this, often unconscious, belief that it is better "there" than here. We put our happiness and joy on hold with the promise that it will be even b...

On to today's episode. I want to talk to you about an extremely important concept that I don't think most people don't implement in their life. It's called the Compound Effect. What most of us typically do is pick a huge goal, go after it with everything we have, get burned out, and stop. Understanding the Compound Effect will change all of that. It'll allow you to start making lasting changes wit...

I'm so excited to bring you this week's episode with the amazing Janelle Nicole Christian. After nearly 6 years in BigLaw, Janelle transitioned into the career and digital media field through her company, SideBiz SMART, and her platform, Hey J. Nicole. Janelle's mission is to help 6-figure employees start and stabilize successful side businesses in order to ditch corporate America and begin living...

This week I have a super exciting topic that completely changed the way I thought. It's the concept of clean pain versus dirty pain, and it really helped me manage my mindset. This topic, which was first coined by Dr. Stephen Hayes, described the suffering we add to our human experience. We constantly make up narratives about ourselves that cause all of this unnecessary self-inflicted pain. It is...

This week I'm finally addressing one of the biggest blocks for most people: Overcoming The Fear of What Others Think. There is a reason that so many of keep falling into patterns of doing what others expect of us even if it makes us miserable. We're evolutionarily wired to want to be accepted by our tribe. But while it is natural it doesn't mean we have to keep living this way. In this episode, I...

Want to know the secret to my success? I stopped pretending that I had it all together. The more I share my mistakes, my failures, my insecurities, the more people are attracted to me. The more I stop pretending like I have it all together, the more I allow myself to show up exactly as I am. The more I show up and take imperfect action, the more successful I become. There is a reason that "vulnera...

This week's episode is all about doing difficult things. Somewhere along the line, a lot of us adopted the mistaken belief that there is an easy way to have our dream life. But that's false, there are no shortcuts.     When we adopt that mentality, we end up making it so much harder on ourselves. We fall short on certain goals, or we bypass certain milestones because we're hyperfocused on having a...

By far, the #1 question I get asked is some version of: "I hate my job but I have no idea what else I would do. How do I find some clarity?!" I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that no one can give you a clear answer to that question. Because what you're really saying is: "I've lost touch with who I really am. I've done what I was supposed to do and found myself unhappy. I feel lost an...

If you've listened to the podcast for a while now, you've likely heard me talk about the free coaching calls I do every month. I always love having new people join the calls because I'll inevitably get messages afterwards like: "Wow, that was so much more helpful than I thought it would be!" "Thank you for doing this. I'm not sure why I waited so long to join these." "This was so eye-opening. Just...

This week's episode is truly one of my favorites. I never thought I would say this but my mom, Ziba Farzaneh is on the show. She has a pretty amazing quitter story that I want to share with you all.    My mother was an accountant for a number of years. She served as VP of finance of a hundred million dollar company and grew in the role for 19 years. After being blindsided by a layoff she decided t...

Last week we spoke about the thoughts we form around money. This week I want to talk about the equation that you need to think about when you want to quit your job.    I hear from so many people saying that they can't quit because of finances. That can mean a number of things: They have too much debt, they just made a large purchase, they are not earning as much as they need, they don't have a sav...